I was in a chat room last year and a bunch of women were discussing oral sex.
The gist of the conversation centered around who 'did it' and who 'didn't do it'.
I've talked to many men about this topic, but I don't think I'd ever talked to other women about it, so I stayed in the room to hear what they had to say.
There were a few women who just didn't do fellatio. Ever.
There were several who did it only when asked by their partner.
It wasn't something they really liked to do.
The majority though definitely professed that 'giving head' was a regular part of their sexual lives- be it as a form of foreplay or as an act in itself.
Now comes the interesting part (at least to me).
The discussion was fairly mellow until it came to the topic of ummmm - "completion".
There that sounded 'polite', right?
The rest of this isn't so polite I'm afraid.
"I do it, but I make him pull out of my mouth before he cums"
"I do it, but I spit it out afterwards"
"I swallow"
"Ewwww, you what?"
"Ewwwwww"
"Gross!"
"That's disgusting, do you know what's in that stuff?"
(I believe everyone is entitled to make their own choices on this matter.
Hey, we're all wired differently, and what's good for me sure as hell might not be good for you-)
There was a nurse in the room, and she proceeded to give us the scientific make-up of ejaculate-
I'm not gonna bore you with it- semen is comprised of about 30 different substances, and the actual composition varies by individual.
I don't think any of us knew what she was talking about until she said,
"It's got URINE in it!"
Really? Who thinks about that stuff when they're doing 'it'?
Obviously not me-
I was quiet up until she made that last statement, and then I typed -
"Do your partners go down on you?
What do you think's in that?"
I'll tell you one thing- there weren't too many responses...
Evidently you can analyze everything to death.
secretlife posted on Sep 22, 2006
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satyr said on Sep 22, 2006....
The wife used to spit, but she learned to swallow several years later and is now a dedicated swallower. It's much more intimate when she's not getting up and running to the bathroom as soon as I climax. It's much nicer sharing that intimate time by cuddling and kissing. By the way, I always kiss my wife after she gives me oral sex. Do you, or does your hubby, as the case may be?
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secretlife said on Sep 22, 2006....
hey stranger! I agree with your assessment that it's more intimate not to get up and run to the bathroom. You could always keep a tissue nearby...just to keep the mood going without interruption!
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silverwhisper said on Sep 22, 2006....
SL, that was an excellent point. :>
frankly, i don't like the finish there: i prefer to do more creative things w/ it.
ed
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silverwhisper said on Sep 22, 2006....
SL: heh...you don't know the half of it. :>
ed
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Indiefilm said on Sep 22, 2006....
In high school I had a friend (female) who, upon hearing that seman contained 6 calories, proclaimed rather loudly; "Oh my god I'm going to get FAT!"
I was never quite able to look at her the same way after that...
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secretlife said on Sep 22, 2006....
Indie: was it at the lunch table? maybe she was referring to the cheeseburger she just ate?
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Indiefilm said on Sep 22, 2006....
No, it was art class... I used to sit in the back with 3 girls and we'd spend most of the class talking about... stuff...
I was 'that really nice guy friend who we can talk about stuff with, unlike those other jerks we normaly have hot passionate sex with. He's nice, we can talk to him'... bitter... me? I don't know what your talking about.... I'm not bitter... damn girls not seeing a perfectly mature good looking (not to mention horny) guy right in front of them *grumble grumble*
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secretlife said on Sep 22, 2006....
Indie: ok, so she wasn't very smart, i'm sure she had other redeeming qualities there's no accounting for taste! she doesn't know what she missed, so it's her loss
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Indiefilm said on Sep 22, 2006....
SL: Redeaming quality... like being one of the most beautiful girls in school, who also happend to be a really nice person.
(as opposed to a beautiful snobby bitch)
Unfortunelty that didn't make up for having a boyfriend who could break me in half with his bare hands... The type of guy who sported a full beard by his freshman year in highschool. but damn she was hot, and nice... perhaps too nice... oh well.
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JadeLondon said on Sep 22, 2006....
My husband is not big on fellatio. He likes it as a teaser, but doesn't want to finish that way.
As far as previous lovers, well, swalowing just seems the polite thing to do.
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secretlife said on Sep 22, 2006....
oh jade you have me laughing @ polite thing to do!
What do you make of that 'not wanting to finish' from oral thing? I used to think it was generational because I noticed it with the older men more (older for me is over 50)-
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Jenna said on Sep 22, 2006....
I have never been big on casual sex....well maybe once... but that was an exception....I needed it. :)
As for the other times....I think oral sex can be more initmate than....traditional sex. I have found that the "completion" has always been followed by an extreme sense of closeness.
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Jenna said on Sep 22, 2006....
Ps. Your title makes me laugh out loud....You crack me up!
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secretlife said on Sep 22, 2006....
Jenna: snazzy huh? LOL....berry berry serious stuff!
how was last weekend? i've been waiting to hear all
about it...
Check out scalywag's River Trip- I'd love to have you
along with us!!!
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Jenna said on Sep 22, 2006....
The weekend was fun...nothing naughty to report... I have some other naughty stuff I am trying to get up the nerve to write about. I have the "How to Talk Dirty" edition. Do you have a copy of "How to Write Dirty " editon? What is wrong with me??? I don't even know you people.
What's up with scaly's river trip? I will go search and see if I can figure out what you are talking about...but let's jut say this, even before knowing anything...I'm in!
Love you baby girl...hope you are good!
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secretlife said on Sep 22, 2006....
LOL...just write it for heaven's sake!
just go to scaly's blog - it's the most recent one. it'll take you 1/2 the night to read it!
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Jenna said on Sep 22, 2006....
I am on it!!!! And then I am going to bed.... I hate this soulcast thing. Do they have meetings for this like AA? This is too addicting!!!!
Have a good nite sweetie!
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rarity121 said on Sep 22, 2006....
hmmm. . . for you south beach and atkins dieters out there: it's plenty of protein!!!
Hey, did I just find the cure to world hunger???? Send lots of horny men to the penniless and the hungry!!! Get on it, boys!!!
secret: if we're gonna want them to do us, we should wholeheartedly and lovingly return this conjugal favor!!!
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secretlife said on Sep 22, 2006....
rarity - i wholeheartedly agree. you know i'm a believer in 'fair is fair'
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Frlncwrtr said on Sep 22, 2006....
SL:
'FutureWife' always swallows, unless we (and only on occasion) choose to do something more creative. We believe that oral sex is an artform, thus I've dubbed her 'Fallatio Queen.'' :O
When she's done draining me of my inner being, I always kiss her. When I dine in her 'Garden of Eden, I revel in draining every drop of her sweet nectar!" When I finish, she always kisses me too!
Incidentally, regarding the urine in semen, it is also said that when a women releases liquid (from G-spot orgasms), that the liquid is suppose to contain a slight bit of urine* However, I intensely enjoy her liquid orgasms, as she does mine.
*I got this information from an expert in the field.
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momsrock said on Sep 22, 2006....
My first boyfriend was 4 years older... When he was teaching me about oral sex I asked him what I was supposed to do... he of course told me to swallow it.
I honestly did not know people spit it out until 4 years later when we broke up. By then... I was in the habit of swallowing.
I think I would rather swallow than hold it in my mouth while I ran for the bathroom!!
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RollingC said on Sep 22, 2006....
Cure for world hunger.....
hhhmmmmmmmm.........!
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mobil said on Sep 22, 2006....
She swallows, likes the taste of it, but sometimes it gives her an
upset stomach. I like it when she swallows, but don't care all that
much about it. I mean, she's giving head and she enjoys it, how
much better can it be?
Reminds me of a joke, the two drunks sitting in the alley, a big
Labrador retriever comes and sits beside them. The dog begins
licking his balls and the rest.
Well the one drunk says to the other; I sure with I could do that !
The other drunk looks at him as says; well go ahead, just be careful
he doesn't bite you !
mobil
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Frlncwrtr said on Sep 22, 2006....
hahahahaha, great joke mobil!
My 'FutureWife' enjoys giving me head too, loves the taste of it too, which makes it that much better! She has told me that on occasion it tastes like Vanilla pudding, lol!
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JadeLondon said on Sep 22, 2006....
Well, as far as it being a generational thing, I think you could be correct, at least in part (my spouse will be forty at the end of the year). My husband has a slight double standard about it. Like he feels awkward about the act--something a significant other shouldn't do--because it is demeaning and disrespectful. He also said that he likes something with a little more friction, roughness.
Not that I am particularily thrilled about the notion of constantly 'servicing', either. I mean, let's face it, it can be somewhat, um, tiring.
I feel it is a part of his body to appreciate like any other (okay, in some ways, more). And as far as the 'end result', well--I totally agree with you--we have our own, um, juices.
Tit for tat!
Oh, well--hell's bells! I just realised I typoed 'swallowing'. Damn, damn, and double damn! (Triple damn?)
(Jade stalks off and grumbles to herself.)
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silverwhisper said on Sep 22, 2006....
not a generational thing: i don't like to finish there and i'm in my 30s.
ed
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brighteyes; said on Sep 22, 2006....
One wee question from the slow starter -- do different guys taste differently? I would think that a big part of the decision to spit or swallow would involve taste. Doesn't it?
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rarity121 said on Sep 22, 2006....
Depends on what he's been eating. . .
i heard asparagus makes cum taste icky
on the other hand, fruits and veggies are great for it
meat, not so yummy
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secretlife said on Sep 23, 2006....
sw: enlighten me. what is it?
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mrs.norris said on Sep 23, 2006....
u know what whenever i give orals to my husband i never swallow and he's actually ok with it. i mean he definitely doesn't know how it tastes so i think its fine with him that i don't swallow something that may taste icky..damn.. now im starting to get curious... i wonder..
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silverwhisper said on Sep 23, 2006....
SL: um...what's what?
yes, there are certain things that are known to change the taste. caffeine, for example, appparently makes it bitter, whereas fruit juices make it sweeter. and of course, there's biochemistry on top of all of that.
ed
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Frlncwrtr said on Sep 23, 2006....
SL:
'FutureWife' tells me that the only time the taste is a little off is when I eat fish. Other than that, she says I am yummy!
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secretlife said on Sep 23, 2006....
sw: Just wondered if you had some insight into why the men who don't like to finish there, well, don't like to finish there...
frlncwrtr: is there anything hotter than being told we're delicious?
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silverwhisper said on Sep 23, 2006....
well, i can't speak for anyone else, but for me, it's simple: i don't like to finish there b/c i'd rather it wind up in other places, either for "decorative purposes" or, uh..."internal use". and frankly, i find i just don't like the taste so this way i won't while kissing her afterwards.
that last bit however might be a pretty common reason for other guys.
ed
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JadeLondon said on Sep 23, 2006....
I hear pineapple specifically makes it quite sweet. Never had to make a practice of fellatio enough to test the theory, though.
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silverwhisper said on Sep 23, 2006....
i've heard that from gay men and let's face it, who's gonna know better? :>
ed
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secretlife said on Sep 23, 2006....
i'd venture a guess that there are plenty of men who feel as you do ed. I know my husband is the same way. He likes to 'decorate' but he doesn't want to have it get anywhere near his mouth. He doesn't have any issue with it being in my mouth, however. LOL...that's kinda funny I think.
Maybe it's just an 'aquired' taste?
Personally I find it exquisitely erotic when everythng gets all mixed together - and then we're sharing that mixture.
Jade: Pineapple is indeed one of those magic fruits that makes everything sweeter.
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silverwhisper said on Sep 23, 2006....
SL: what's funny is that at least for me, it isn't a homophobic thing. i just don't like the taste. so yeah, maybe it is an acquired taste. or maybe i should start buying pineapple juice a lot more often? :>
ed
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sweetsoul said on Sep 23, 2006....
Don't have a problem at all swallowing, especially since he tastes so good (benefit of hie eating/drinking well). I agree with SL ...I love when we kiss after and he can taste his cum from me.
Having said that though, it's not the norm since usually he doesn't cum in my mouth...seems he agrees with ed that he has other creative ideas in mind.
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JadeLondon said on Sep 23, 2006....
Bwa-ha-ha-ha!
(Jade is laughing her ass off at both of Silver's answers.)
Hey, SL, Silver: I wonder if pineapple could have the same effect on women? Again, another untested theory.
**sigh**
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anonymous said on Sep 23, 2006....
No one has ever perished from oral sex.If you think about what is in or on the things we eat,we would all die from hunger.At least I know my partaner is clean,and she knows I'm clean.So we feast on each other regularly.I will not however,perform or have someone preform oral sex until I get to know and trust them.I will not have a long term relationship with a woman that dosen't enjoy oral sex and the completion of it.Well,that's my opinion.
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silverwhisper said on Sep 24, 2006....
SL: by way of thanks for the pineapple juice...
something interesting i just read elsewhere on a related note: evidently studies have been done confirming that at woman's intimate lubrication applied as a perfume is more effective than any actual perfume re: attracting people who find you attractive.
happy hunting!
ed
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secretlife said on Sep 24, 2006....
ed you little devil!
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silverwhisper said on Sep 24, 2006....
yes, but are you going to try it? :D
ed
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sweetsoul said on Sep 24, 2006....
depends..I'll offer the 'woman's intimate lubrication' but is it to be applied to the woman or the man?
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secretlife said on Sep 24, 2006....
you assume i'm hunting?
Rest assured I plan to try everything at least once ed.
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silverwhisper said on Sep 24, 2006....
SL: yes, yes i do assume that, and it's b/c i know that you'll try it that i'm confident. :>
sweetsoul: the woman. you know where i found that information, rigth?
ed
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sweetsoul said on Sep 24, 2006....
refer to my 'other' name and you can well guess. :)
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dearie54 said on Sep 24, 2006....
I have no objection to performing oral sex at all. And I don't think I would mind swallowing, were I given the chance. B doesn't particularly care for blow jobs, and has never even come close to climaxing that way. I used to take it personally (I must be doing it wrong) but I figure some guys are just wired that way. Unfortunately.
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secretlife said on Sep 24, 2006....
dearie: it seems there are lots of different ways to be 'wired'...I don't think i'd ever considered there are men who don't care for oral sex...
Frankly, i'm surprised.
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dearie54 said on Sep 24, 2006....
It surprised me too. I thought all men loved receiving oral sex.
Oh no! Maybe I really am doing it wrong. :(
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secretlife said on Sep 24, 2006....
you know ed's saying about pizza?
I thought that kinda went for blowjobs too....
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silverwhisper said on Sep 25, 2006....
it does. :D
ed
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tikiwop9 said on Sep 25, 2006....
I love it.....but I don't finish either, dearie. Never have. It just doesn't get me there. I enjoy it immensely(no, that isn't an inference of size lol), but I just don't finish.
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lioneljay said on Sep 25, 2006....
Where to start, where to start?
The only way that I ever experienced intensive and complete oral service was with women that I did not marry (yes, you can take that as evidence of my full duncehood). I think I remember what it's like and while I wouldn't kill to experience that again, I might be willing to maim a little.
The taste does not bother me at all, and I've occasionally had a bit after going solo.
As for being creative with one's oupouring, try this sometime: most of the way through being serviced orally, pull out and finish the job yourself. Take care to ensure that you keep everything contained in and around your hand. Let her gaze at your hand for a minute or so. Then, make her clean your hand or offer her the chance to lick it from you (depending on your degree of Domdom).
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secretlife said on Sep 25, 2006....
tiki thanks; see dearie, i'm sure you're not doing anything wrong- it's just a matter of taste (i know i know that was a groaner).
LJ: how do you manage to keep everything in your hand?
sw: i kinda figured you'd agree
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Indiefilm said on Sep 25, 2006....
SL: ...
a matter of TASTE!!! your as bad as I am! I'm impressed!
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lioneljay said on Sep 25, 2006....
SL, it's a squeezing technique just as you're about to erupt. Hard to explain, easier to demonstrate.
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Frlncwrtr said on Sep 27, 2006....
SL:
No, there is NOTHING hotter!
I agree with your comment - "Personally I find it exquisitely erotic when everythng gets all mixed together - and then we're sharing that mixture."
Btw, it's sad that your husband doesn't enjoy pleasuring you. Shame on him! Your not the only one missing out, he is too.
Sorry that you had to scroll so far up to see what I'm replying to (had some computer problems).
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secretlife said on Sep 27, 2006....
Indie: yeah, i'm as bad as you are! I just hide it better most of the time!but other times i can't help myself!
LJ: LOL!
Frlncwrtr: i'm very aware of what he's missing out on
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Frlncwrtr said on Sep 27, 2006....
I'm sure you do!:)
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satyr said on Oct 02, 2006....
smiles knowingly
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silverwhisper said on Oct 03, 2006....
amen to that, LJ. :>
ed
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scalywag said on Oct 03, 2006....
LJ....sometimes she likes that, sometimes she doesn't. This time i experienced both.
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secretlife said on Oct 04, 2006....
I agree with LJ
is that a scientific fact about the clitoral pleasure center?
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lioneljay said on Oct 04, 2006....
SL, it's a conclusion that I reached from empirical research, though I must admit that I need to conduct much more research before I can make any claims that are truly valid.
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secretlife said on Oct 04, 2006....
lol see what i mean about believing everything?
it sounded reasonable to me...
it's really hot.....*sighs*.....really hot; naturally, i'd like to drift off to this thought- but i've got objectives to write.
personal objective for 2007
test LJ's theory.
scaly: don't think i'm gross if i tell you this, ok?
oddly enough, i had a lover who had an interesting request ...he wanted to, ummm how does ed say it? decorate?
only afterwards, with splatters of him in my hair and the rest rubbed into my cheek and neck and other places - he requested i not shower or wash before we go out.
he wanted me to wear him to dinner.
i found this to be a really erotic.
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lioneljay said on Oct 04, 2006....
So did Ben Stiller, though Cameron Diaz was completely clueless.
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silverwhisper said on Oct 04, 2006....
interesting: i've dabbed the upper lip of a woman's nose w/ her intimate lubrication before going out so she smelled that all day. it was extraordinarily...effective.
ed
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MissMimi said on Oct 04, 2006....
Can I just take the opportunity to say I'm glad I moseyed by this afternoon? This is a fine, fine blog...
Brought to mind the many times I would dab a bit of that essence behind my ears before an encounter with B. *sigh*
Oh, um, carry on. Didn't mean to interrupt. :)
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lioneljay said on Oct 04, 2006....
MM, what's that in your hair?
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secretlife said on Oct 04, 2006....
hey mimi......feel free to add your two scents!
*blowing on knuckles*
God that was clever...lol
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MissMimi said on Oct 04, 2006....
Never went in my hair, but it's a great body lotion. ;)
SL, we are not worthy... :D
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secretlife said on Oct 04, 2006....
Mimi - as you've probably noticed by now, i am so easily amused it isn't even funny
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MissMimi said on Oct 04, 2006....
As am I, SL. It doesn't take a whole lot to get a laugh out of me. I'm a bit sad to say, I've even enjoyed a pun or two in my time.
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cloud10 said on Oct 30, 2006....
swallow it & keep on sucking .....he will love it you never know you might get him to cum again ...mutiples for a man how lovely .thats if he can stop twitching for long enough after the first release -
VICARIOUS said on Mar 02, 2007....
This is hot. I like messy sex and like sharing. I think I'm rare. Guess blowing myself in high school will warp you good. -
Dandy_Lion said on Jun 07, 2007....
One of numerous strippers my oldest brother has dated is a girl I attended high school with. She once asked him to ejaculate on a hamburger for her to eat later. He refused to do it. He thought it was gross. I guess that's what you'd call some "truly special sauce." (LOL.) Some guys have all the luck.
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