my children are not MY children.
this is something that i have to make myself understand.
they are not my possessions.
i would love them, take care of them, be responsible for them.
but they are not mine.
they are their own beings.
they have their own thoughts.
i could only influence their choices.
but not force my own choices to them.
they must make their own decisions
though i know that i could watch them suffer
if they make the wrong ones.
i am only responsible for bringing them into this world
but the moment they were conceived, i knew that they are their own being.
they would leave me one day
and though i know it would break my heart
i am not in a position to make them stay
because they are not mine.
mrs.norris posted on Sep 22, 2006
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sunsethue said on Sep 23, 2006....
i do understand how you feel mrs.norris... it is so difficult for mothers like us to let go of our children but we have to... i already did for my eldest...
i have two kids... a girl and a boy... my daughter ran away from home because she wanted a life that is not in accord to what we brought her up to be... i know one day she will be hurt real bad but i respect her choice... and if ever she will be needing a shoulder to lean on mine are still available... it's hers anytime...
being a mother is the hardest role i have played in this life... but it is the most fulfilling... we may not be successful in all our children but we try to do our best... and that is good enough...
take care... god bless you and your family...
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mrs.norris said on Sep 24, 2006....
thanks sunsethue...
i'm a new mother, and whenever i ponder about things like this it just makes me so fearful of what may happen in the future. i have a girl and a boy too, but they're still babies.
i know that it's still early to think about all these stuff but you know? i just can't help it.
now i understand how my mom felt.
it so scary...
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JadeLondon said on Sep 24, 2006....
Sunsethue: I am so sorry! That must hurt terribly.
Mrs.Norris: I feel as you. My oldest is five, and it hurts so badly--watching his stumble his way in the world. It is rewarding, yes. But knowing I cannot fight his battles--that I must let him learn.
My Secondborn is nineteen months today. He is a sweet, but challenging child. When he grows bored, he is quite tempermental. I only hope to do right by him, in trying to keep him properly stimulated.
The biggest issue I have been dealing with is slowly letting go. It doesn't happen when they are eighteen. It happens a little each day.
We mothers are like frogs sitting in the pot. We don't realise what is happening until it is too late. But perhaps I am generalising too much. Either that, or endowing myself with more normalcy than I deserve.
I think you have the right idea. Just follow your mother's instinct.
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mrs.norris said on Sep 24, 2006....
ehanks jade! and now with terrorism and crime, who could blame us for being terrified of what could happen to them
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sunsethue said on Sep 24, 2006....
just love them mrs.norris... that's what mothers do... don't be afraid or you will miss out on watching the magic of the daily development of your children's growth... enjoy being a mother... babies are the most lovable creatures on earth... specially if they are yours...
it's a whole new world but it is worth it... promise...
thanks for your sympathy jade... yes it hurts... but i am ok... thanks for the concern...
hugs to you both! god bless.
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