• mixednuts said on Sep 10, 2009....

  If she wants you to stop then STOP IT! You might feel the same way!!!!!!!!!!!!

• simplyconfused said on Sep 10, 2009....

  I will stop it, but that wasn't the point on how she's feeling =p Selfish yes, but my point is I'm frustrated that I was actually being more like myself and HAPPY! then she tells me to stop it.  

• mixednuts said on Sep 10, 2009....

  You can still be yourself without crossing her much *needed lines.

• simplyconfused said on Sep 10, 2009....

  I guess it frustrates me becase A) she accused me of trying to touch his penis... um NOT QUITE B) She should really know and understand there are NO feelings for her boyfriend like that at all!  She has a problem with us being close friends actually...it kind of hurts she feels that way, like I'm going to steal him away.  I'm not me and him went out at one point and he broke up with me for her....

• mixednuts said on Sep 10, 2009....

  This whole fuckin thing is getting deeper FAST!  Would you like some ex girlfriend sticking her hand in your boyfriends pants!? I don't care what she "TOUCHES"! She should just keep her hands 2 her frigin self! If some idiot did that to MY girlfriend I would break his legs with a bat! You can't trust anyone in this world!

• simplyconfused said on Sep 10, 2009....

  Your assuming I don't see both sides of this.  Whatever.

• mixednuts said on Sep 10, 2009....

  Of course you see both sides! I'm just the devils advocate!

• Hegemone said on Sep 10, 2009....

  Simply, don't let Mixed get you riled up, it's what he can be good at, but I'll give him that he explosively expressed the alternate side, not as if you didn't already understand it.  I think I'd feel a little put out too though, seeing as how you weren't thinking anything of it and suddenly it's a big deal.  Try not to let it get you down, there's plenty of other pockets to stick your hands in if ya know what I mean.  Sounds like this friend of yours is probably also insecure about herself, so she's doing whatever she can to mark off her territory and leave absolutely NO room for temptation.  She coulda made her point more nicely I suppose, like maybe just telling you 'Look, I know you don't mean anything by it, but it makes me uncomfortable so could you maybe avoid these (insert specifics) areas?'  However, what's done is done, now all you can do is respect what she's asked, and move on and be yourself with other people (not that you should stop hanging out with those two, just can't go with the reflexive actions unfortunately), or in other ways.  Hope tomorrow goes better.  (((HUGS)))

• simplyconfused said on Sep 11, 2009....

  eh.. I was in a bad mood so I was an easy target for getting riled up.  Not about this, but about something else.
  
  
  I was just complaining about how it's me just being me, not trying to steal him away.  Just annoying.  Of coarse I'm going to listen AND be his friend still.  No way am I going to let take away our 5 year friendship!

• dust said on Sep 11, 2009....

  Of course you can be your self!
  
  
  Yet likewise can other selves be them selves by taking issue with how your being your self violates the world defined by their self.
  
  
  To them, only their definitions matter in their self defined world, just like you think only your definitions should matter in your self defined world.
  
  
  It's pretty simple.
  
  
  (Well, except for the self-ish, or even merely the not-usually-self-ish-but-momentarily-caught-up-in-dwelling-more-upon-self-than-on-the-bigger-picture.)
  
  
  Said more simply: of course you can put your hand in a hornets nest!

• simplyconfused said on Sep 11, 2009....

  ha ha =p  i wasn't really following at first but yeah I get it.  I just had to vent out MY feelings on it, and now I'm all good.  Just a vent, taking away logic and such XD

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