So I have liked this guy I go to church with since Dec. We have been talking and some what flirting the past few months. People within the church kept saying they would talk to him but I kept saying for them to stay out of it and let whatever happens happen. This includes a mutual friend of ours who talks to him alot about how good of a woman I am and how he needs to open his eyes to that...well he did. We are going out next Saturday.
The thing is my mom knows all this of course. Well he and I have been txting of course and she knows he was on vacation this past week and comes home today so he will be in church tomorrow. She left him a note saying welcome home love D. and Jenn. Which normally that would be fine and dandy, BUUUUUUUT i have had guys in the past tell me that my mom gets involved too much (remember Todd's reason for nopt wanting to marry me). I see that happening already. I love my mom dearly but I dont want her to be too involved in my relationship with T. She can come off a little strong and I dont want it to idk chase him off or anything know what I mean. I know if we start dating she is going to want his number (in case of emergancies) but at the same time I know if she has it she will txt him too (she has done this in the past with Todd, Lee). I dont want her to do that, least not when the relationship is in the beginning stages when we are taking things sloooooow. I mean it took us 3 months of flirting to get a first date.
I dont know how to tell her to back down without hurting her feelings. I want this relationship to go the way I want it to go, slow and steady. Without her sending msgs or anything. I mean I know she likes him and what not and she wants us to work out and is excited for me, but at the same time she has chased guys away and I soooo dont want that to happen again. what can I do?
