Think about it. A young woman has nobody to count on whether it is her fault or that she finds the wrong people. She is smart, but cannot make money at a regular job because of mental illnesses.
She has no credit, and so everything is extremely expensive. Thoughts turn to being an escort.
Making between $500-$1000. She can choose her clients, choose what to do, she can get her money upfront. She can be company, and if she decides she can do more.
What is really wrong with this? Don't say that she'll lose her self respect, that's for her to decide. What if she likes the attention? What if she really does feel like she is doing a service. Really, she is making men who don't have the time or who have been hurt happy and she is herself. Self-respect is there.
She likes sex, and she gets her heart brokenn in return. When it is done for money, her heart doesn't get hurt, and both parties return home happy.
We've been taught by societal norms that prostitution is wrong. But all judgements aside, who is it really hurting?
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secretlife said on Sep 21, 2006....
personally i don't think there's much wrong with escort services- they provide a service after all. i also think we should legalize prostitution tho. i think it would make it safer for everyone involved.
that being said rarity- and this is just my own persoanl opinion, i could never do either. Not as a profession-
I think it would be too 'dark' for me. And although i am sometimes attracted to darkness, I also desperately want to be part of the 'light'. I think in those professions I would become seriously jaded. It would change how i see the world and i'd be unhappy overall.
Maybe it's no different than being a doctor or a nurse and 'burning out'- but I would feel this couldn't be a long-term goal....eventually you'd look for 'more'...
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rarity121 said on Sep 21, 2006....
secret, i've been a teacher, and i've tried to become a writer, i am successful at neither
i would never identify myself with what I do, and i will always be a writer at heart
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silverwhisper said on Sep 21, 2006....
this topic crops up rather a lot, but i see you've already found sean's blog entry on the matter.
i think that in a place where it's legal and therefore presumably safer there's nothing wrong w/ it.
ed
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secretlife said on Sep 21, 2006....
i don't know how you can help but identify with what you do....i think i'd be stuck because of that.
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RollingC said on Sep 21, 2006....
Some countries have legalized prostitution...ever been to Amsterdam? they have a red light district there...have had it for many years....
Legalizing it makes it safer for all parties involved...the moral issue is something else that I'd rather not get into right now....
Mental illness has to be addressed...the sooner the better.
There are Goverment services that will help although the standards set and help given many times is not adequate as by the time you "qualify" for help the situation has gotten worse.
Church Organizations...(of diff.denominations)...can also help and their efforts vary greatly with the region and denomination.
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rarity121 said on Sep 21, 2006....
we are who we are not what we are
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rarity121 said on Sep 21, 2006....
should a maid or a servant or a garbage man feel that that is "them"
we are who we are and only that
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happykat said on Sep 21, 2006....
I tried to comment on this post several times and realized I can post nothing you would find useful. Still...
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Expendable said on Sep 21, 2006....
Being thought you're just a prositute?
The possibility of disease? Physical abuse?
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Frlncwrtr said on Sep 21, 2006....
rarity:
Sometimes I have been identified solely by my profession.
I am with Happykat on this one because I have mixed feelings on it.
The only thing I really can say is that if you feel you are not losing self respect and you can return home happy, then I guess it's okay...for you.
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gingersoul said on Sep 21, 2006....
I would be open to the idea of escorting, but i would surely stop before anything strictly sexual.
Plus, I think i would work more comfortably with an agency, than solo. Clients are screened usually and the agency can trace you back in case of something unpleasant happens to you.
But Frln, said something right" are you coming back home happy?
It seems as you are still in the need of defending your choice, but within yourself than against other's people prejudices.
Because if you are happy and not ashamed of what you do, do it. Who cares what other might think?
Even though we are who we are and not what we do, the things around us while we are doing what we do might alter us. Entering in contact with wrong, sick, dark people migth contaminate you. Change your self esteem, the core of what you are.
This is the only problem i would have.
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Alyss said on Sep 21, 2006....
Being identified solely my one's profession can be a good or bad thing, the difference between the two responses being partly down to society's views of that profession.
Ultimately I think it falls to the individual to decide whether or not they can live with society's response...
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FaithInMind said on Sep 21, 2006....
$500-$1000 a night? Really? I'd think that most prostitutes make far less than this. On the high end of the income scale I imagine this might be an attractive profession, like dancing at a really upscale club. On the low end, however, it has to be a different story.
It's one thing if someone who is truly concious of her options in life decides that renting out her body to the highest bidder is right for her. But it's entirely another thing if a woman feels she has no choice but to hire herself out because of her social standing or life circumstances. Most prostitutes, I imagine, are in the second category.
Even worse is the tens of thousands of desperate women who are brought here from other countries and forced to work in brothels to pay off their travel expenses. Legalize that? Never!
Besides, is a john really there to give a woman good sex? It's all about his pleasure, not hers.
I'm not judging others here, but I wish we didn't have to spend so much time, money and effort satisfying our most base desires. I feel like there's so much more to life than that.
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JayneBond said on Sep 21, 2006....
Isn't every wife really a prostitute who gets paid in a way to be in a relationship? (I can hear the screams from here including IPJ.)
hahahahaha j/k
But some people could look at it this way because let's face it an engagement ring is a way of buying a woman. In ancient Mesopotamia the Temple of Inanna had a different way of connecting to Goddess. Their priestesses would practice sex magic, and communion was actually a sex magick rite with the parishioner. In other words they were religious prostitutes. The effect was to wash away the negativity and problems with sex. Which is why there are references in the Bible to the Whore of Babylon. Imagine how popular this religion would be today!
JB
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JayneBond said on Sep 21, 2006....
In New York City, where I come from, Park Ave. Prostitutes can make as much as $5000 a night. I suppose it depends on how hot you are and where you are operating from.
JB
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gingersoul said on Sep 21, 2006....
Really? Why so? A wife doesn't work?
If a man should have to pay her the right he would need more than an engagment ring.
He should shell out a lot more: add the equivalent of a cook, maid, dry cleaner, eventually driver, gardener, bookeeper. Plus, if the man have kids: live-in-nanny, tutor, driver, sport activities assistant, nurse.
Plus, on top of all she has to be fresh and horny for sex each time he needs it.
Otherwise how can the above man have the time to work 10 hours a day to achieve his professional goals? When should he have the time?
But, you are right, housewives don't work.
But guess what? A lot of wives do work. And while the above man when has finished to work he put his feet on the coffeetable and watch some football where is the wife, if kids are in the picture? Cooking dineer with an eye to the kids.
If you want talk money, let's talk money...
can you hear the screams? LOL
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varada said on Sep 21, 2006....
Giving sex for money is the question. But what you get back, is STD, AIDS, physical abuse etc. Does it worth?
There are various avenues for earning decent income without resorting to this kind of stuff. If enjoys sex, she can chose her partners. Here she cannot. She has to go to with whomever beckons her.
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totally_cd said on Sep 21, 2006....
poverty tends to paint you into a corner. i guess, she has no options left. we all know there are other jobs available (you have to work hard for it and low pay to boot!) and this option is the easiest (and maybe she's good at it!).
i do not want to judge people on how they live their lives but they will definitely suffer the consequences of their actions (if any).
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rarity121 said on Sep 21, 2006....
marriage is a one time prostitution deal, not in all cases, though
despite what you all think, many people who elect an escort are business men who are educated and very wealthy, i wouldn't sleep with anyone,
and as far as violence and std's, well anybody could be susceptible to that . . .
i work in an upscale club as a dancer, and i am propositioned a lot
i have to say, i have taken a couple up on it,
why not if it's someone i might do it with anyway? at least my heart won't be broken when he doesn't call
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MikoFabulous said on Sep 21, 2006....
I relate to what you're saying and have been facinated by books like Jenna Jameson's autobiography "How To Make Love Like A Porn Star - A Cautionary Tale" and Heidi Mateson's "The Ivy League Stripper." I bought them because I wanted to learn the secret language of how a woman can write about her sex life without sounding corny, comedic, slutty or used. These woman portrayed their roles in the sex industry without shame, regret or embarassment. They sounded dignified and proud of their achievements. Most of all they knew that their experiences, however unsavory at times, had grown them as human beings.
Granted I don't want to do what they did, mostly because I don't know how and I'm not good at the kind of things that made them great - both the sexual and the psychological. But women in these industries: stripping, prostitution and porn are tough, manipulative and hungry for money, just like every stock broker on Wall Street! Different points of entry, that's all. It's the smart and innovative ones that truly succeed, and any business professor would tell you the same thing in the classroom.
You should read the book 'Veronica' by Mary Gaitskill. In the beginning she runs away from home at 17 to San Francisco and becomes one of those girls selling candy/flowers/cigarettes inside and outside night clubs. She talks about how often men propositioned them and how every once in a while, for no real reason, they would each say yes, to no one in particular.
You're right it's a moment to moment call. Why not if I want to? I think it all comes down to whether you think you can handle it emotionally. Like I said, the above mentioned girls were really tough. I know I'm not strong enough emotionally. Sometimes when I'm having consentual sex and things don't feel right to me, with that person or what we're doing, I HAVE TO STOP THE ACTION. I can't just roll with it. I can't close my eyes and pretend I'm not there. If I'm not fully present and actively pursuing enjoyment during sex I can't do it. Not that I have selfish sex, pleasuring others is fun, fun, fun - but I don't know how I'd feel if someone told me I HAD TO DO IT. I can see myself going into it, but the part that scares me is getting trapped in a scary place because I wouldn't be able to go through with it. Maybe that's when a lot of the girls get beaten up, when they say "Stop" or "No." That chills me, makes me feel unsafe inside my own apartment.
I'd like to know what your experiences with being caught inside an actual situation have been like, if you're willing to share. Your privacy is most important, but I would like to know what happens when you've been paid but you have seconds thoughts and want out.
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SoulCastMistress said on Sep 21, 2006....
honestly, i don't think anything's wrong with being an escort...
hell, i'd like to be one!! lol
i think it's just a matter of professionalism and setting up boundaries for yourself and your clients.
now if sex is offered, i guess i'll have to go with rarity121... if it was someone that i'd likely be doing it with (or someone i'd be crushing on), then y not do it? i know many here would do it if they met someone in a bar/club and engage on one-night-stands... at least an escort would get paid...
brrr!!! am i making any sense??!!! lol
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rarity121 said on Sep 21, 2006....
i mean, i'm a slut anyway
might as well get paid for it :)
but no, if zach and i get back together, no way in hel
and hey, you std guys, you can get sick from thousands of things. . . better to get sick with lots of money in hand lol
ever heard of condoms???????
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FaithfulDisciple said on Sep 21, 2006....
All jobs have risks, so if you take extra precaution against those risks, then no one can judge you for what you do. At the end of the day, make sure that you don't get hurt or hurt yourself, physically or emotionally in the process.
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JadeLondon said on Sep 22, 2006....
I suppose it is one thing to be pressed into prositution, another to willingly choose it. If you are happy with your choice, who am I to knock it?
When everything is said and done, you are the one that sees your reflection in the morning.
I wish you safety, if nothing else. And a bit of happiness--everyone deserves their piece.
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metamorphoses said on Sep 22, 2006....
We are all playing roles in the drama called life. Some play as villains and others as hero's. Some are prostitutes, gays, lesbians, actors, beggars, presidents, messengers, etc. etc. There is no such thing as wrong roles, it is what the director gave us, so we have to play it right even if it looks wrong. In the end of our life we are all the same as we discard our roles.
So, there is nothing wrong with being an escort or there is nothing wrong with everything only thinking makes it so.
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happykat said on Sep 22, 2006....
What a bunch of horse shit!
I really don't think the core issue is whether or not being an escort is okay.
You seem to be looking for validation for your behavior, seeking out admonishment (do you want to punish yourself?), and obviously have a painful longing for real love.
If you think fucking men you like and receiving money for it will somehow make you happy, then do it. However, at the end of the day you will still be alone, still have no one with which to share your dreams, and still have a longing that no amount of fucking can fill.
Just my two cents, but I could be full of shit, too.
:}
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squbysnacks said on Sep 22, 2006....
yeah, but all the ok with it and external show of happiness.... is all it ir. EXTERNAL. And you'll never really know your friends inside feelings unless this is really you your speaking of,you know deep down these are only excuses. Only trying to make everything ok with these words.
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fishing4icthys said on Sep 23, 2006....
"What's wrong with being an escort?"
After reading your post/detailed discription of your question, I must point out a few things prior to my answer...
First, most women and men (men prostitute themselves as well) that have taken-up this profession are NOT ignorant or "mentally ill". The majority the I have worked with and, supposedly, and that are active in the USA and Europe are quite intelligent - yet have been physically and sexually abused as children or youth. There are numerous affects of this; a few of the major ones are depression, beginning of drug use, and a greatly deminished sense of self-worth.
The majority of these do NOT wish to be selling their bodies as a livelihood. Studies (both independant, and through insitutions, such as the Harvard Medical School) if given the chance, the man or women is much more likely to work in a job with a future (even low paying jobs) than to sell herself/himself for sex.
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rarity121 said on Sep 24, 2006....
what about just NEEDING the money and not wanting to rely on others?
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varada said on Sep 24, 2006....
With the kind of lifeyou propose, you will age faster and the type of life you envisage will not last long.
Your youth will fade away and nobody would want you to be their escort. More younger people will be available in the market.
Will you be able to make money in a short span of life to keep you safe for the rest of your life.
There are many low paid jobs available which will keep you going fairly well and open up a career path.
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africanhomestay said on Sep 26, 2006....
Nothing wrong with being an escort.I know many professional escort services in Africa,Kenya in particular.I run a tour business(www.africanhomestay.net)and have come across esorts on duty.
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hotwifehooker said on Sep 25, 2007....
nothing wrong with being an escort????nothing!!!!! i love it. lots and lots of cocks and i do love cocks. i escort because i like men , i like to fuck and its an easy way to make good money if ur smart and dont use drugs. escorting doesnt interfere with my marriage, in fact my husband thinks its pretty cool. he is all for it....he gets hot when i tell him about my dates. if u escort and what to have a good relationship with your man, u have to be honest and be considerate. give him a lot of attention, be very loving about it. a good sense of humor for the both of you doesnt hurt either. be kind to ur clients, they will cum back again and again. come on girls, think how that cock feels going in and out of your wet pussy, making u feel real good inside, and think how your getting 200.00 bucks for letting him do it. you got to screen ur clients real good....and if you want to make real good money, offer gfe. that is the girlfriend experience. you treat him like he is a boyfriend: kiss, caress and fuck him like you love him...often he gets into it so much that he is more concerned that u cum that if he does. it is double or triple the usual rate and they leave so satisfied they dont mind paying more. and it's more fun for u too!!!!! i think every open minded woman who really likes sex could be very happy as an escort
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SadieXO said on Jan 06, 2009....
Whilst I do relate, somewhat, to what you just wrote, I have a few things to say.
Prostituting yourself does not mean you won't get hurt, physically or emotionally. Maturity and common sense are key things in this job. If a girl has the "sex for the sole act of it will hurt me, but sex for money won't", she's usually bound to get hurt.
If someone has not learned to separate sex and emotions, then that person usually isn't fit for this kind of work.
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Karagallardo said on Apr 03, 2009....
LOL, 'MENTALLY ILL' HAHA. Ok, first of all, i'm an escort. A well established one, i have my own agency too as well as having had a full time job as a Marketing Exec. I wanted to study further and now I am doing an MPhil.ESCORTING EARNS ME WHAT IS $2000, IF I WAS TO CONVERT IT FROM ENGLISH POUNDS TO AMERICAN DOLLARS...not bad for 10 hours work hey?I am in control of the escorting, i have been doing it for 3 years and thoroughly enjoy it, especially the handbags/holidays/obviously: money that i recieve!I have a good credit record and my money is taken care of... in the current economy, i would safely say that escorting, as the worlds oldest profession is rising once again, ever strong, and very in demand.... you should see my diary :) -
Karagallardo said on Apr 03, 2009....
$2000 a night i meant, one hour would be $600... i would post my website here so you see how it works but that would be telling hehe! -
anonymous said on Oct 18, 2009....
The most revealing aspect of your "what's wrong with being an escort" comment is that you start with the assumption that a woman who makes this free choice is mentally ill. If you want an idea of helpless, young, and degraded many women are when they make this choice, take a look at the How Much Money Do Prostitutes Make on vickie's prostitution blog.
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