I am really frustrated and angry at this point. My oldest daughter who, just three weeks ago, came home completely broken hearted and saying she never wanted another man in her life because of the jackass that she moved in with, has gotten into another internet relationship! Ok, so there are a ton of commercials about how wonderful it can be to meet the One for you over the internet. So what? Does it usually happen on the rebound. It is usually someone 4 years older than your dad? Gawd i am going crazy here.
You know what really bites is that we all went through hell while she was seeing this last guy (we'll just call him Z for argiments sake). Z had her believing all kinds of weird stuff. Her friends thought she'd gone off the deep end! And when she'd tell him that her friends didn't see in her what he saw (things like she's been a victim all her life and she needed to come to him and stop letting people walk on her and make her choices for her) He would get her to believe that it was because she's been locking the "real her" away for years to escape the hurt and she could be herself with him. *gag* He was an ass.
So she finally gets away from him and comes back home and wants to finish high school and go on to college, maybe take a few business courses so that she has options when she's done. I was happy. She's still spoiled and bratty at times. She still hen pecks my teenage boys like they are weeds in her garden of life. But she's home and safe and everyone agrees that it is better this way and it's worth dealing with a little attitude to know she's back on the right path. Then she "falls in love" a week after she gets home with a giy she met on fetlife! God help us.
Now, she has decided that she is a slave at heart and she doesn't want to go to college, all she wants is to settle down and have a family and be a stay at home mom with this guy on the west coast (we're in the mid west), and , for now, she's going to finish high school and then move out there. Unless of course, like last time, it gets to be too uch for her and she misses him so bad she can't wait to see him and so she is going to go whether we like it or not...what am i supposed to do? This other guy, he's at least not a weasel, so far. He contacted both my husband and myself on fetlife and asked for permission to collar her *shudders*. He says i need to look at her and see how she has bubbly energy, how she holds her head high and how she is truly happy, and that will show me that it is real and He is good for her. How do i tell him i see the same spoiled teenager who doesn't like to do her chores (she only has 1!!) and whines if she has to get herself to work and doesn't take pride in her appearance or have any kind of spirit of excellence about what she puts her hands to? How do i explain to him that what i see isn't pride in her self, but entitlement issues? ACK!!
A 40 yr old guy from Washington...are you serious? What am i supposed to tell the other kids who went through hell with her the last time? I am full of frustrated questions. And i know that God has the answers...i am just too distracted to hear them right now. It's one of those things i just can't get wrong...
grrr.
