Just received this nice email from my husbands ex-wife. Why does she feel the need to send these things to me? I was never married to her. She has my hubbys email address. I wish they would communicate more. I feel like I'm always stuck in the middle relaying information back and forth between the two via email. Communicate people!
So this time, it's about money. Usually is. We don't find out any new information about what's going on in step-daughters life unless the ex is wanting money, then she starts calling. My hubby is supposed to be notified of any significant changes in his daughters life, but usually if we find out it's not until months after whatever the event is, has already occurred.
At least we see her summers and holidays so we can stay pretty much up to date. Several years ago, her mom decided to put her in a private school, didn't even tell us until she had already started and then wanted money for it! I'm not saying that I don't want to be supportive and help out, but at least give us a warning instead of making all the decisions and then demanding money.
I'm not complaining about paying the money, okay maybe I am just a little, but heres the deal. Her mom remarried several years ago to a guy older than her own father, and she did it the day before the court hearing deciding who was getting custody. I think she did it only because she thought it would look better for her to be married. Didn't work. We got custody and had her for five years until issues came up (another blog) and she went to live her mom then.
Okay, so, back to the money issue. The five years we had her, we supported her 100%. Didn't ask her mom for a penny. Wait, I'm wrong there, the court did at some point make her pay maybe $23 dollars a week, something like that. It wasn't even our doing, something the courts decided. Now that her mom has custody, not only does my husband pay child support, as he should, and it's much more than $23 dollars, I might add, but also helps out with any other financial issues whenever possible. I think this is great, speaks highly of my husband. Probably speaks lowly of me, but here goes.....
This guy she married owns his own appraisal business, storage units he rents out, a number of houses he rents out. Not even sure what else. They have a house and a sailboat big enough they actually lived on for a year. A couple of mercedes in the yard. Why are they harrassing us over money all the time! We pay our share and then some and they make way more money than we do! What gives!
Okay, thanks for listening, I think I've got it off my chest for now. I may be back later!
alabamagirl posted on Aug 18, 2009
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UnicornForm said on Aug 18, 2009....
I hope greedy people can change. besides that, smile, you spotted a unicorn :) -
uniquely-ironic said on Aug 18, 2009....
An old story for sure. The wealthier parent fleecing the less wealthy one because they can. Is it possible to go back to court and have her hubby's income considered as part of her income? If not, I'd say the best you can do is to pay the court ordered support and when other bills come up ask if your support doesn't cover that. If she insists, ask her to speak to your attorney. -
Hegemone said on Aug 18, 2009....
Sounds like that ex has an ax to grind or something along those lines if she's still being so money hungry like that. Either that, or her new husband is a jerk about step-daughter not being his and won't give up money to go towards her. Definitely unfair either way though. I'm with Uni on this one, perhaps have everybody's finances re-examined and pull for a little more of a fair situation? -
woman said on Aug 18, 2009....
Seems like these situations are usually messy. I'm sorry you are stuck in the middle of this. -
MsStar39 said on Aug 18, 2009....
Her only aim is to make your life miserable, don't let her, you have a wonderful attitude and a great husband and she is jealous of that. -
alabamagirl said on Aug 19, 2009....
Unicorn - Thank you, I love unicorns, when I was I child I used to collect them!
Uni - To be honest, now that I'm having a better day here, I shouldn't complain. When he first started paying child support he made less money than now, so if she really wanted to she could take him back to court and get more money.
Hege - She is definitely money hungry always has been. Thats why she married the man she's with now.
Woman - Your right on that one, ex's are never fun to deal with!
MsStar - I think she is jealous b/c without her husband she wouldn't be capable of making it on her own.
I do like knowing that we are doing all that we can to help out. We will never feel like we didn't do our part and then some. That's a good feeling. It also seems to come back around to us anytime we need help with anything, someone is usually around to offer a helping hand!
Maybe I was just in a bitchy mood yesterday!
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uniquely-ironic said on Aug 19, 2009....
I understand that because he makes more now you'd fear that she'd get more, but I'm thinking that her husband makes even more and that would be a big factor. I'd guess she's using your reluctance to go back to court against you. -
alabamagirl said on Aug 19, 2009....
Uniquely - She probably is, we'll just wait and see how it goes
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