Holy crap what a night this turned out to be. I hate family. Period. Minus my mom. Everybody else can suck on a camel's sweaty hairy chafed left nut. I don't even know if I have the energy for this. Seriously. This night is just going to have to get split into a couple of posts.
My Family's Side of the Drama
I'm tired, there's a lot, so this is the shortened version. Sort of.
Long ago I described the scenario about my family and the properties next door. Who owns what, who gets along with whom, etc. As it still stands, my dad, my uncle, and two of my aunts own the property next to ours. One of the aunts we never see or speak to. The other is so busy with parties and nine million other things that she can't make time to sit down and have a serious conversation. My uncle is a manipulative bastard. My dad, among some of his other traits that you well know about, is broke ass broke. Put all of these together and what do you get? A property that's sitting, going to waste, having nothing done with it, and soaking up money from people who can't afford it.
There's been a sort of triangle going on between my dad, my uncle and this one aunt (divorced my uncle 20 some years ago). It's screwed up, but my uncle still fools around with her even though he's married. Well, long story short, my dad over the last few years was seeing her a little. It was more of a companionship thing, but now they aren't even at that point. They communicate, but there's no time spent together or anything like that. A few days ago my aunt and my uncle were down at the other house talking and stuff, and my dad went down there. He had already been down there, went home to get something, and came back. Well, nothing was particularly going on, but I guess my uncle thought there was going to be. Supposedly he got all offended and upset that my dad came back and that manifested itself tonight.
My uncle went off on my dad. It was stupid. I'll be the first to admit when my dad has fucked up, believe me, but this time ... no, this time he didn't do anything to be guilty of. My uncle is the one cheating on HIS god damn wife. That bastard was trying to tell my dad about etiquette and manners even. I'm sorry, if you're a cheater you don't know the first thing about that shit truly. Those things have to do with a certain level of respect, and if you're a cheater, you do not deserve nor know how to give respect. Sorry, that's just the way it is in my book. Cheaters never prosper.
Fast forwarding again through all of my muddled pissed off thoughts. My dad is basically pissed enough that now he wants to hire and lawyer and wash his hands of ownership of the middle property (if you're trying to keep up, there's our house, then this property they all own, and then another house right next door that my uncle now owns since my great aunt passed). For him to want to do that, it's bad. He is so emotionally and sentimentally attached to these properties it's not even funny. He grew up here from babyhood on up. I've been of the mindset that my aunt and uncle are trying to manipulate my dad and push him out of the property ownership for a while now. This is yet another step in their game.
Without all the gory details, yes I do have firm reason to believe this. It's pissing me off. Granted, I don't give a rats ass if my dad does fall on some hard times in other circumstances, but THIS is just not fair. This is bullshit. So yeah, it's pissing me off. Now, I will say that there's about NOTHING I can do about it, and I shouldn't be worrying about it, but it is my family and it is also property I'm attached to in a way as well. Also, I don't care who it is, if I see somebody screwing somebody I don't like it and if I can help stop it I want to. Further, I'm becoming quite the vindictive little bitch lately and I wouldn't mind fucking my aunt and uncle over just a little bit. It might be fun. Horrible of me? Maybe. Do I care? Not anymore. Have they given me reasons not to? No, all they've done throughout my life is act like they're better than me, belittle me and treat me inappropriately (especially my uncle, who distances himself from me now ever since I shoved him against a concrete wall because he kept leering at me and trying to grab me).
Fuck my family, play time is over ... or in another way, maybe it's just beginning. I'm tired of the shit and I'm going to do what I have to do so as not to have to worry about it. These people are going to soon learn that I'm a force not to be reckoned with if they're smart. Damn, too bad they're all idiots.
Hegemone posted on Aug 12, 2009
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CreativeWoman said on Aug 12, 2009....
Wow, Hege. Get it off your chest and cool down a bit before you do anything. Ok? Do you really trust your Dad's version of the story with his history?
CW
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Hegemone said on Aug 12, 2009....
CW - Oh, I'll be calm before I do anything. The things I'm talking about doing consist of being present for certain conversations so things don't get twisted, basically so the TRUTH comes out as opposed to what is beneficial to come out. Unfortunately in this scenario, I've been present for more than a few of these situations ... and I've spoken with these people independently as well ... so yeah, this one I can't chalk up to my dad being drunk and stupid. I wish I could, boy do I ever wish I could. Would you believe that I actually heard this particular aunt say over the phone 'I really don't want 'Hege' there because she remembers everything and then things start backfiring on me.' Ha, does this give you an idea of what I'm dealing with? I tell you, lol, my family is seriously screwed, aren't they?
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CreativeWoman said on Aug 12, 2009....
Hege,
I think it is admirable that you want to stand up for your dad. I really do. It shows your character. I just wish you could wash your hands of all of them. They don't deserve you.
Have you and your husband ever thought about finding jobs and a place to live nearer to your mom?
The rest of them just seem to be dragging you down. I really hate to see that, but I also know that blood is thicker than water.
Hang in there,
CW
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Hegemone said on Aug 12, 2009....
CW - Sometimes I wonder why I even do go to the trouble of sticking up for him, but yes, blood is thicker than water and at the end of it all, he's still my dad. Further, I know my great aunt and my grandma would be furious if they were here and they were all behaving this way. To me, it's disrespectful to the memory of them and their lives for this all to be going on. Those are two very important, influencial people to me, so I don't take that lightly. Then, going beyond the family aspect, as I mentioned, I just don't like sitting idly by when I know somebody is getting screwed underhandedly.
My husband and I have considered jobs close to my mom, and my husband could do it, but I'd be the problem. I'd be too afraid of driving. I literally freeze up and become terrified. Heck, even riding over there scares the living bejeezus out of me and there are times I just have to close my eyes and breath for the ride over there. I don't know why, but driving in that area just scares me. Guess too many people going too darned fast. And you're right, these people here do drag a person down. My mom's been saying that all along. That's why I want to move out because that will at least be the first steps in getting away from this. At least when we move out we won't be faced with this stuff because most of it we pobably won't even hear about until it's water under the bridge. Ah to dream, lol.
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secretlife said on Aug 13, 2009....
boy do you ever need to put some distance between yourself and your family..... -
simplyconfused said on Aug 13, 2009....
Reality T.V show. Get one.On a more serious note, you sticking up for your father, as much as a pain in the ass he can be, it's a wonderful thing to see. Hopefully things have been settling down by now and that things will be all figured out. -
Hegemone said on Aug 13, 2009....
Secret - Yup, which is why I'm trying to move out. I just want to walk out of that door, close it behind me and leave it closed.
Simply - Yeah, that could solve our problems, we'd have money and that would remove some of the elements that cause the most stress. Nothing is settled yet, but we'll see what happens after today.
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pusscat said on Aug 13, 2009....
Woah girl lol! Seriously though I see where you're coming from. When the little man gets screwed over by the big man one too many times you have to take a stand. I'm not going to say anymore yet hun till I've popped on over and read part 2. See ya soon :-) -
Hegemone said on Aug 13, 2009....
PC - Ah well enjoy part 2, lol, it's chock full of drama and stupidity too. In this scenario, yeah, it's just unfair, even if my dad is an ass, there are underhanded tactics being used and I can't sit by and just watch. Although I do want to say, I'm not going to involve myself where I don't need to be .... but where I can help, I'm gonna. -
pusscat said on Aug 13, 2009....
Right, just come from part 2. Oh Hege, I so wish there was an easy peasy way for it all to end. You are a good hearted person but i'm also glad you have a fighter in you that many underestimate to their peril ;-)
So many people have their own family to vent and rely on when they get grief from In-laws or even vise versa but, oh dear, did you get the short straw with both lots!
To be quite honest I think they are all thriving and surviving on drama. I have known people like that. They actually wouldn't even want to get out of bed in the morning if they thought they would have no gossip or drama to get them through the day. Pathetic aren't they?! Kepp us posted on how each stage goes please so we can support you through it (and cos as you know I'm nosey lol)
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Hegemone said on Aug 13, 2009....
PC - Yes, there is definitely a fighter in me that refuses to sit down and shut up. I'm not about to quiet her down either. I do feel I got shafted in the family department, on both ends, lol. I'm definitely getting it from both ends lately and it's easy to understand why there are times I just want to walk away from everybody and wash my hands of the whole thing. Perhaps some day I will, no, scratch that, some day I WILL. But in the meantime, while I'm acquiring my things, saving my money and preparing myself I have to make the best of it. These people definitely strive on drama. If something crazy isn't happening, well then that means nothing is happening and that makes life boring. Personally, I like for things to be boring, lol. Oh, rest assured, I'll keep you all updated. This is my leaning post, my fresh drink of water, and my comfy place to curl up and relax at. -
Me-Myself&I said on Aug 13, 2009....
well it is pass due for you to get your own space. but thru all that i have read about your father and you.... it is nice to see you supporting and caring so.... that's nice. your heart is as big as the outdoors hon! i see you have part 2 so..... see ya in a minute. *smile* i am sorry to see family shit hit the fan!(hug) -
Hegemone said on Aug 13, 2009....
MMI - Yes, I amaze myself at the fact I even want to help him. Trust me though, there's a big part of me that's going 'Oh, just let those sharks swallow him whole!' but then there's that other part that goes 'Yeah ... you could, OR, you could be better than that and ...' Urgh, lol. Yeah, the shit definitely is hitting, and it's starting to get smelly in here! -
queenparanoia said on Aug 13, 2009....
my only advice...
get a good lawyer... you really need it... hope you feel better now...
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Hegemone said on Aug 14, 2009....
Queenie - Yup, that's what in order, that's the only way to get it done the right way without anybody getting screwed.
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