Firstly....GRRRRR!!!
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My favorite cousin Emilia is on my last nerve. I exploded in her face just now, I feel slightly bad about it but she is being irrational, unsupportive, and STUPID!!!
We used to be uber close. She used to live with me, we grew up together and we were really tight. We got slightly less tight over the years apart but she moved back and we were really putting our close relationship back together...until she lost her damn mind.
Emilia had a baby, Declan. When declan was like 3 months old and I was pregnant Emilia and I went to Omaha to visit my brother. Emilia left Declan with her then boyfriend. We road tripped up there ate supper, stayed the night, had a jolly good time and came back late the next day...
Now Declan is 8 months old, she is now married to that boyfriend also the babies daddy....
Im having my bachelorette party in Omaha and we are gonna stay at my brothers house. Emilia, being one of my bridesmaids is of course invited...
Should be no problem right? She should simply be able to leave Declan with his daddy and she should be able to join me and the girls for a night of fun and come home the next day....LIKE SHE DID BEFORE!!!
Noooooo!!!
First of all she tells me its too far away and that she doesnt want to leave Declan and her husband for so long.....
uhh...I immediatly brought up the last time we went, back when Declan was far more delicate and her husband was merly her babies daddy...
She fires back "well its just different now, im worried about Shaun and Declan, if something was to happen I would be 3 hours away"...
I bring up the same point..."this wasnt an issue last time"...
back and forth back and forth I cant get to the bottom of it.
She keeps feeding me the same crap...Then she says she will go if Shaun and Declan can go.
She keeps feeding me the same crap...Then she says she will go if Shaun and Declan can go.
I said only if they get their own hotel room bc they cant stay at the party...E is all "ok"..
Then she says she isnt gonna stay at the party either, that she wants to go to Shauns hotel room after the bars...
WHAT?!
This is my cousin E, I know her quite well, she is NOT some super paranoid worrisome mother. She is a good mom no doubt but she is not what these excuses would indicate.
When i dig my nails in a little deeper, not mad, simply trying to MAKE SENSE of these bogus excuses...
She says shit like "im sorry I love spending time with my husband and baby"
"we are at a point in our relationship where we want to be together all the time and get to know one another better"
WOAH!!! can you say condescending???
ONE NIGHT!!!
She acts like ONE NIGHT away from her husband and baby is going to ruin her marriage.
I tell her things like "you have the rest of your life to spend with your husband and baby, im only gonna have one bachelorette party" and "sometimes time away is healthy it will give you more things to talk about"...
One thing that I think needs to be said and this is something that Emilia knows, I explained this to her quite tearfully as she was breaking my heart...I dont have a lot of friends. It was quite embarrissing for me when Becky was planning this party...
"So who do you want to invite Christina?"
"Well...umm...you, and, melissa, and umm...Emilia, uhh...i dont know..."
My mom and my aunt are coming too, dont get me wrong I love them to death and want them there too but I mostly wanted my two closest friends to be there, Emilia and Melissa...
Emilia was very unsympathetic to my plea of being friendless and not wanting the only people at my bachelorette to be my mom and my aunt.
She texted me with her final offer...She said she would go but she has to come back that same night and shaun and declan are coming with her....
Its like she keeps giving me these bullshit "offers" that dont work just BEGGING me to tell her "dont bother"....
Omaha is THREE hours away!!! We wont even step foot in a bar until 8pm...if she leaves the moment we get there she wont be back home until 11pm at the earliest...
The last thing I want is for Emilia to be starring at her watch the entire time im trying to have fun.
I told her point blank::::::
"Ya know Emilia, your my bridesmaid, I didnt think it was too much to ask for you to come to my bachelorette and spend a mere 18 hours away from Shaun and Declan. Shaun is a great dad and Declan is healthy as a horse, you know good and damn well that everything will be fine. So quit feeding me this bullcrap about "if something were to happen"...I know you dont seriously expect to be able to spend everysecond with them for the rest of your life. One night is no big deal. But if you want to complicate everything and throw money away on a hotel and come back the same night and throw a big fit over what should be quite simple.....Dont bother....I know you dont want to come anyway, if you did it would be easy. So just dont come...Ya know what? Youve turned out to be quite a bridesmaid, I feel like I can rely on you for all kinds of stuff..."
Click...
So now there is a big ol bucket of bad blood between us...
If she had one good reason, just one...it wouldnt have been any big deal...one fucking night, thats all...and she had no good reason...
And to all the argumentative soulcasters out there that are gonna say "well, what you think is good reason might be different from hers, its not your place to judge...you should be more understanding"...well fuck you, your on the wrong side of the fence there buddy...I thought I was being very understanding when i said shaun and declan can get a hotel room and go so long as she stays the night with me.
And ya know what else pisses me off?! Melissa, melissa is a country girl to the core and she is deathly afraid of being in Omaha, she is scared to death she is gonna get shot. One of her friends went to Omaha once and got shot in the neck by a random bullet in the parking lot of Albertsons...Melissa told me this and ya know what? SHE is STILL coming!!!
She said she loves me and wouldnt miss it for the world...
If Emilia had that excuse, no prob...but to say you cant cuz youll miss your baby too much or worry too much when you have left them overnight dozens of other times? Sorry, thats bullshit...and indicates to me she is just not a good friend...
My favorite cousin is missing my bachelorette party bc shes a bitch...
