It's the little things, really.
Maybe that sounds petty, or pathetic. But if you (the reader) think about it, you wouldn't be involved with someone else in the first place if it were the big things. You're mostly careful about the big things in advance. I mean, maybe even before you put/let it in, if you're really super smart. Not that most people are, but I just don't want those of you who are to feel left out, here.
She's an absent-minded pig. By that I mean that while she'll tend to overt aspects of home cleanliness with considerable vigor and fanfare, she daily leaves behind an incremental mess.
(NOTE: Henceforth, "you" refers to she/her, and not the reader, because then while writing this it can feel like I'm having my say with/to her, which as the reader will soon discover, is becoming increasingly less productive an activity.)
Instead of leaving your dirty coffee filter on the sink, how about making the effort to turn and walk two whole steps to throw it away? Same with the tea bags. And that dirty spoon you leave next to the refrigerator every day, the one you use to stir milk into your coffee? Just two steps to your left, and you could have it in the sink where it belongs, as opposed to it becomeing stuck to - and staining - the counter. And the garbage you put on top of the garbage container lid? If you would instead take the time to step on the pedal that lifts the lid, and then put the garbage in the container, then I wouldn't have to do that. Over. And over. And over again.
Remember how many times we've discussed that if you turn the hot water value just a little bit more then the faucet doesn't drip and waste water and heating? Is it really that hard to remember?
While we're on the topic of memory, how about remembering to turn the coffee maker off when you're done with it? Or actually making just the amount you intend to drink?
I suppose what I'm about the say constitutes a "big thing". But I didn't detect it soon enough. Namely, you've got a smart-mouthed response when I bring such things to your attention. What that accomplishes is an increasing sense that trying to talk to you about simple things is a waste of my time and life, and thus talking to you about bigger things is to be avoided at all costs. So you're basically training me to communicate with you less and less, by (relatively speaking) coming down hard on communication, as opposed to pent up frustration.
And you know what? Putting the toilet seat down isn't the same as these other things. While these other things are of no use to anyone, leaving the seat up is very much being considerate to half the household. And since I piss more often than you, it makes no sense for me to be putting it back down just do I can lift it again and put it back down again. Am I supposed to be impressed that putting the seat down is paramount to rocket science for you?
Yet, it all seems to be rocket science for you. And since you're unworthy of communcation on such matters - only those capable of dispassionate, objective listening and response are truly worthy - well, I guess you're slowly becoming shit out of luck, because all these little things are accruing, and at some point there will be a last straw, and there will be neither mercy nor remorse.
See how that works? If all these behaviors are intentional, you're extremely inconsiderate. And if it isn't intentional, you're a hapless idiot. Either way, I feel I deserve better. I'm also weary of your explanation that it's because you're "multitasking". Um, pardon my precision of definition, but merely attempting to do several things at once isn't multitasking - it's biting off more than you can chew. Multitasking is when the separate tasks actually complete successfully.
