Who would expect or even think that I (a retired cop) of all people, would meet the love of my life, soul mate, best friend, and perfect lover at an online dating site?
It is interesting that your garden-variety cop would entertain even the notion of online dating and anonymous meetings for long or very long-term relationships. Anyone, who knows the ways of cops, knows that they do not believe in things like meeting strangers anonymously, as they are possibly unsafe or dangerous.
Perhaps it was my irrational thinking at the time. I had gone through a divorce. I had retired from police work, and was not happy about the latter all. I guess I thought that I no longer had to follow what was generally known to be the right way of doing things. I could now take more chances and live a bit more dangerously.
I had seen enough of conventional dating and thought that there really wasn’t anywhere nearby that I would meet someone that didn’t already know of me as, only a cop, or who I wouldn’t stereotype as one of the local “undesirables”. Basically, from life on the street I knew a lot of people.
So, I thought of the Internet. I knew that there I had to be somewhat wary because after all, people do misrepresent themselves. I wasn’t really into what I thought were long-distance -relationships, but I thought that an hour or two away would be ok.
I tried one of the Internet dating sites, and soon felt that there wasn’t anyone who I was interested in that was close enough geographically. So, I tried another, and then another, and another.
I met a lot of women who I chatted online with. Some were like just a casual, “hi” everyday or whenever we saw each other online. Some were just sort of platonic friendships, someone to talk to. Some were more romantic type relationships. And then of course, there are some real cuckoos out there that I would never dream of meeting in person, so why bother talking with them. Some of them I even had block from writing to me because they were just too crazy for me.
Two of them were from overseas and wanted me to send them money to come to the U.S. thinking that I was going to marry them. I point out that this was the very first time I had conversed with either of these women!
I met one woman online who was still living with her husband, but wanted to hook up with me. As she put it, “Even though it’s still a legal marriage, and we share the same house together, we’ve really been divorced for two years.”
She told me not to worry about HIM that soon she would be moving out, getting a divorce, and we could be together. This is one who I had to block because she made me feel as though some weirdo, who would eventually try to kill me, was stalking me because I rejected her.
Over the course of time I met seven or eight women, but none seemed to be who I was looking for, but were ‘just ok.’ I always seemed to find a reason why they weren’t the women whom I would want to see again.
One afternoon I saw this woman online. I looked at her picture and thought about how beautiful she was (her user name, which I won’t reveal, had already reached out and grabbed me like a vise grip). “Finally,” I thought!
I was really interested in this one. But, before I would initiate a conversation with her, I had to read her profile, as I always would do. The cop was still in me. I also checked her last login and found that it had been six months prior. “A prospect?” I hoped.
As I read the profile, I was astonished, and an eerie feeling came over me. I thought, “This profile was written specifically for me!” It was kind of scary even.
When I finished reading it, which I did VERY quickly, I went to send her an Instant Message, and at that very moment, SHE SIGNED OFF. “SHIT!” I said to myself. But, I had this feeling inside me that she would be back later that night. No, I KNEW she would be.
So, as weird as it was for me, on a New Years Eve, I signed on to the site, and looked up her profile. I was going to sit and watch TV with my laptop until I saw some kind of indication on her profile page that she had signed on. I didn’t care how long it took because I could leave it connected all night if I wanted to, I had a cable ISP.
I guess a half-hour or so went by before I got the signal. “She is online!” As soon as we started talking it was over. We were both hooked. We chatted away several hours. Then she gave me her number and when I called, I was taken in immediately by her soft and sexy voice. We talked on the phone until 5:00 or 6:00am.
The following evening we were at it again, and every evening after that. We had short conversations early every morning, and several times throughout the day. We spent every
evening together, online and on the phone.
We arranged to meet each other in person a very short time later, but she was a little nervous. Her nervousness was twofold. She had a scary situation with someone whom she had met online about a year and a half earlier. She said it was also, “Because of the uncannily realness of it all between US.” (When she had first read MY profile she had thought that it was written specifically for HER! Neither of us had discussed the profiles until after we had been talking for a few days.)
She later told me that even though it was a bit scary for her, in her heart she knew it was going to work out fine when we met. We had grown so close to each other already that she said to me, “I am still very nervous, so when we meet, JUST KISS ME! I’ll be ok then.” I thought this request was a little strange but said ok anyway. Later she told me that she thought her request was a little weird too, but she asked it anyway.
We chose to meet late in the afternoon and that day as she stepped out of my imagination, walked toward me (and I toward her), my Internet fantasy woman had suddenly and uncannily made everything I had felt up-to this point, a reality, (as I somehow knew it would be)!
When I softly wrapped my arms around her, (and she wrapped hers around me), our bodies melted together, as if they were made for each other. I kissed her long, but gently and I immediately knew that I was going to be with this woman, MY Woman, forever!
Frlncwrtr posted on Sep 17, 2006
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JadeLondon said on Sep 18, 2006....
Wow! I must say, I AM surprised. But then again, you surprise me at every turn. I am so glad to see you found your soulmate.
Hope you're feeling better, btw.
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Frlncwrtr said on Sep 18, 2006....
Thank you Jade!
I am so glad that you find me so surprising.
I do feel better and hope you are feeling better too!
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chingform said on Sep 18, 2006....
WOW!
I would like to say too!
glad to see you found your true love.
i seldom read long posting.
and this post is the first long post i ever read and it is touching:)
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Frlncwrtr said on Sep 18, 2006....
Chingform:
Thank you for reading!
Yes, I have finally found her after years of searching!
I know it is a bit long, but I could not have written what I wanted to say in a shorter one. I know that I need to make them shorter, and appreciate your time.
I'm happy to hear that you were touched by the post :)
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angstywin said on Sep 18, 2006....
Frlncwrtr,
i envy you. i could only hope mine will turn out the same time. but then i couldn't be happier with how yours turned out.. so romantic! keep up posted!
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angstywin said on Sep 18, 2006....
Frlncwrtr,
i envy you. i could only hope mine will turn out the same way. but then i couldn't be happier with how yours turned out.. so romantic! keep up posted!
(sorry for the double post)
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Frlncwrtr said on Sep 18, 2006....
angstywin:
I sincerely hope that yours turns out the same way too!
I will keep up the posting. Thank you for taking the time for such a long read.
Don't worry about the double post, I'll just delete one later.
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quidnunc said on Sep 18, 2006....
yours is a romantic story of two people finding each other in a special and unique way... i'm happy for you Frincwrtr.
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RollingC said on Sep 18, 2006....
Congrats...I love romantic stories like this one...wish you and yours all the best...
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Alyss said on Sep 18, 2006....
I am very happy for you. =)
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labyrinth said on Sep 18, 2006....
Hi mate. You have an awesome romantic story. I hope you continue to put fire in your relationship.
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JadeLondon said on Sep 18, 2006....
Frlncwrtr: I feel a lot better for the moment--but now Secondborn has a fever, and so does my husband (who has an unusually strong constitution).
I guess the bug is making the round robin.
I am happy I do not work today. :)
You are good cop/bad cop all in one package. I could elaborate, but just know it IS a compliment.
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gingersoul said on Sep 18, 2006....
So lovely story.....you give hope to all us poor love seeker out there...
I tried online dating too.. (who doesn't? LOL) I am very glad i did........i met several interesting men and one who turned in a boyfriend.
Even if it didn't last more than 5 months i consider myself lucky to have met him. he and i will remain good friends.
Sometimes is more than you can hope to find thes days...
But i will try again....
Congratulations....:-)
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Frlncwrtr said on Sep 18, 2006....
Thank you quidnunc!
We also think it is a special story, and when were having a chat recently about how we had met, my fiancée suggested that I tell the story. Thanks for reading it!
RollingC:
Thank you! I’m glad you loved the story, and thank you for the well wish!
Alyss:
Your comment made my heart smile…Thank you!
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Frlncwrtr said on Sep 18, 2006....
labyrinth:
I’m glad you loved the story! Thanks for taking the time to read it. We both always do continue to put the fire into our relationship.
Jade:
I’m glad to hear that you are feeling better! Sorry to hear that Secondborn and your husband aren’t feeling well now. I hope they feel better soon!
Thank you for the compliment! I’m a little puzzled by it, but it is dulynoted as a compliment!
Enjoy your day off!
gingersoul:
I am happy to hear that you liked the story! It is good to know there are people like you who care about other people…Thank you!
I’m glad that you value your online dating experience, and the relationship you developed because of it. I really didn’t expect the results that I got out of it, but figured, why not give it a try. It turned out to be a very fortunate move on my part.
I’m glad that you’ll give it another try!
Thank you!
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Frlncwrtr said on Sep 18, 2006....
And to all of you, thank you for putting the time and effort into reading and commenting on such a long read!
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happykat said on Sep 18, 2006....
I just love happy endings. *sigh*
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Frlncwrtr said on Sep 18, 2006....
Happykat:
Thank you! I hope that you have a happy ending to tell of too! If not, I wish you all the luck in finding your happy ending.
Thanks for reading!
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secretlife said on Sep 18, 2006....
Frlncwrtr: you never know where you might find love - and sometimes it finds you!
I liked your story.
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Frlncwrtr said on Sep 18, 2006....
SL:
You are so right!
I'm glad you liked the story, sorry so long, but thanks for taking the time to read it.
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brighteyes; said on Sep 18, 2006....
I'm so pleased you shared your romance. I enjoyed reading about it. It's heartwarming that you and your beloved found each other. Thanks for sharing, and best wishes.
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Frlncwrtr said on Sep 18, 2006....
brighteyes:
Thank you for your concern and kind words.
I am glad that you enjoyed reading it, I enjoyed sharing it as well!
Thanks for taking the time to read it(Iknow it's long).
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chingform said on Sep 19, 2006....
hi frlncwrtr,
i came back to read the next episode of your story :)
and to pay you a visit.
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FaithfulDisciple said on Sep 19, 2006....
So you could also write a good romantic story. Is this inspired by real love? Personally, I wasn't concerned about the length, it was the substance of the story that got me interested to read it all the way to the end. Congrats for finding your true love in the most unexpected place, online.
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Frlncwrtr said on Sep 19, 2006....
chingform:
Thanks for stopping by! I hope you enjoyed the read.
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Frlncwrtr said on Sep 19, 2006....
FD:
Thank you! Yes, it was a very unsuspected place for me to finally find my love.
And, of course it is inspired by real love!
I'm glad you read the whole story and was not concerned with the length, but moreso the story itself!
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Firstthingsfirst said on Sep 20, 2006....
Its a wonderful story of true love winning out :-) Thank you for re-affirming my belief in it.
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Frlncwrtr said on Sep 21, 2006....
Firstthingsfirst:
Thank you very much!
I am so glad that you enjoyed the story, and that it hleped you to re-affirm your belief in true love.
If you are looking for true love yourself, just be patient. It (he/she) will find you! I remember a time when I had doubts too.
When we found each other, we both knew instantly. It has been wonderful ever since!
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ALICIA said on Sep 22, 2006....
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Frlncwrtr said on Sep 22, 2006....
ALICIA:
I'm sorry, I don't know what you wrote. I can only read English.
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potheadz said on Sep 24, 2006....
Nice goin buddy! Internet RrrrrrrOCCCCCCCCCKSs!
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Frlncwrtr said on Sep 26, 2006....
Thanks potheadz!
Yes, you are right about that. I wasn't sure until I met her.
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melodii said on Oct 03, 2006....
thanks for sharing your story. i read some really good online love stories but also some really bad ones. tried online dating already & like you, met quite a lot of weirdos & liars, made some good friends, dated a few that didn't work out.
i met my present bf online about 1.5 years ago, but he is not the type that wants to be with me all the time even though he tells me he loves me & wants to be with me (ie circumstances not allowed). due to the distance, sometimes he will just email or call me once a week whereas i will email & call him more often. sometimes i do wonder... coz i know a lot of couples call, email, message, etc very often even in a day!
what do you think? sometimes i do wish he would call or email me more often, coz that's all i have for the time being. =)
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Frlncwrtr said on Oct 04, 2006....
Melodii:
Thanks for reading and taking the time to reply.
What I think is that he is not very interested because if he really were, he would definitely emailing and calling much more often. He might even try to shorten the geographical distance between the two of you (I would).
I'm sorry, but your situation seems very sad. I wish it were better for you.
When 'FutureWife' and I met online we emailed, instant messaged, and talked on the phone for many hours, every day.
When we met in person we quickly decided to live together so that we could be together more often. We haven't left each other's side since then.
Good luck with what ever you decide to do about your situation.
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melodii said on Oct 04, 2006....
thanks for your reply. actually i was talking to a friend just now about this & it suddenly hit me that maybe he is very secured in our relationship! coz i do make him feel very secure. we do like our independence & freedom from each other as much as being together.
he is the loner type (so am i), he doesn't even call his mom as often as he should (but i do call my mom at least once a week out of "duty")! i think it can also be his sickness that is keeping him away coz he did tell me many times that he doesn't want to be sick when he is with me. he is getting better & i guess time will tell, i am definitely not in any hurry!
thank you for your well wishes & i do think he is worth my while waiting a little bit longer. ;P
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Frlncwrtr said on Oct 04, 2006....
melodii:
You’re welcome!
I’m glad to hear that you are making him feel secure in your relationship. If you are both enjoying your independence and freedom from each other, and are both loners, then maybe it is best to leave things as they are. In light of this, your last post (which I was just about to comment on) puzzles me. Why do you ask then “How to Maintain a Long Distance relationship?”
My last comment may have been without enough knowledge of the whole situation. I did not know that your BF was sick. I hope he is okay!
If you think he is worth waiting for, then waiting is what you should do. I wish you the best of luck.
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melodii said on Oct 04, 2006....
i asked because of curiosity & to find out if there are others out there in the same boat as me.
i find long distance relationships do require more "maintenance" than the usual relationships where the couple see each other almost on a daily basis. it tests the trust, love, commitment, strength, etc of the couples involved. as we spend a lot of time apart, we have more time to think objectively about each other & about the relationship we are in. having said that, it is tough sometimes when we miss each other very much, so we do keep ourselves busy & not get too needy of each other.
he is getting better after a series of chemotherapy, thanks! for the longest time (the past year) that he has been having complications 1 after another, i am truly amazed at how well he is coping. i know he doesn't want me to worry about him, hence he has been doing it on his own, not even his family know but 1 brother.
of course there are times that i feel like kicking his ass for not accepting help from people who care about him, but i do respect his decision. it does sound kinda stupid for not wanting assistance, doesn't it? took me awhile to understand why. at the same time, i learn a lot from him, about life, love, commitment & trust. =)
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Frlncwrtr said on Oct 07, 2006....
Melodii:
Yes, there are others out there in the same boat as you are. I was surprised (at first) that you were hanging in there so long. Then when I found out why, I understood better.
I know that long distance relationships require more "maintenance" than the usual relationships. How long do you intend to have the relationship continue to be ‘long distance?’ Is one of you moving closer to the other at some point? How far apart are you?
I understand how it can be hard sometimes when you miss each other. But, how long will the relationship survive that kind of test?
You are welcome! I am glad to hear that your boyfriend is getting better. It must be hard for you to not worry about him. Why has he been doing it on his own? Why doesn’t he tell his family?
I don’t blame you for sometimes feeling like you want to kick his ass for not accepting help. You’re right,
it does sound kind of stupid of him not wanting assistance from loved ones.
Best of luck!
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Frlncwrtr said on Oct 07, 2006....
Thanks a lot anonymous!
It sounds interesting. I’ll check it out.
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melodii said on Oct 07, 2006....
he doesn't want to burden anyone with the responsibility of taking care of him (he rather takes care of others!), he has been taking care of himself since he was a kid & it's hard for him to accept help from others. i think that will make him feels like he's a charity case, even help from his family.
also, i think the male ego has something to do with it - not easy for a manly man to admit he is weak & need help! hahaha...
he just got the good news few weeks ago from the doctor, we have made plans to meet soon & go from there. thank you for your well wishes & for sharing! =)
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Frlncwrtr said on Oct 07, 2006....
melodii:
You’re welcome! I’m glad to hear that you have made plans to meet soon. I hope all goes well!
I can see your point about the male ego, you’re right in saying that it’s “not easy for a manly man to admit he is weak & need help!” There are many men who have the same attitude.
I hope he allows you to help him. It will be good for both of you.
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Lioness said on Oct 09, 2006....
Hi.. your blog is one of the most romantic stories I've read so far... I truly enjoyed it. :)
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Frlncwrtr said on Oct 10, 2006....
Thank you so much Lioness!
I'm glad you enjoyed it. I wasn't going to write it, but after thinking it over, I really thought people would like this one.
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natalee said on Jun 05, 2007....
that is so sweet, i just got home from work from dealing with 34 loud kids 'your story made my day. -
RollingC said on Jun 05, 2007....
Actually I met my wife on a " blind " date. A mutual friend set us up. Although marriage is not always easy as I later found out...we both have our set personality... she is my soulmate which I sensed from the beginning.
Rc
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Frlncwrtr said on Jun 06, 2007....
Thank you natalee! Wow, 34 kids, how do you do it?
I'm glad the story eased your stress level :)
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Frlncwrtr said on Jun 06, 2007....
Rc: I'm glad you found your soulmate. That doesn't happen to everyone. And, I know what you mean, I sensed from the beginning too, that she was my soulmate. I hope all is well!
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