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There's something wrong with how our ex's become no longer part of our lives after being the closest person to you.
I mean how many people in your lifetime could you have a relationship like this?
I'm not talking about sexual relationships, but the kind of relationship that you will have with
someone once you've given them your whole trust, respect and love?
 
It's hard building or creating a relationship like that, We have people whom we've been living with for all of our lives and yet we dont have that kind of relationship..
 
and yet, even that friendship is over.
 
hm. It's just kinda wasteful. throwing away good times and memories because of break ups.
 
I have told my ex about this when we are still together. He's like the best guy friend I ever had. But because we broke up 8 months ago, we no longer communicate.
I don't know what's happening with his life, he doesn't know what's happening in mine.
 
All future plans together have been forgotten or given up. Like businesses, trips, exchange of ideas etcs.
 
I think he carries the burden of being guilty about the break up because he was falling out from me and he wasnt saying it. And i figure it's been like that even at the start of last year. He just keeps on doing the same things, but I know it. something's gone or wrong.
 
I have moved on. It was hard, because I felt like I was lead on.
but no good can be had from dwelling in the past, forgetting how to live in the present.
 
I was lucky someone found me. I made sure it's not rebound. No one deserves that.
 
I'm just thinking, it could have been great, having our ex's as friends instead of forgotten people or hated ones. Just focus on the good times.
 
If I had not found love I may not be in this state of mind. I could have still be hating the guy for leaving me behind. But God's been good to me, I feel blessed. I hope he's moved on as well and no longer feel guilty...


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  • UnicornForm said on Jul 28, 2009....
    Just focus on the good times.
     
    YAY! I wissh more people would think like you ell.
  • queenparanoia said on Jul 28, 2009....
    i think it can be posible to be with your friends... just as long as honest pa rin kayu sa feelings nyu sa isat isa... hay sayang nga ang friendship...
  • ellamae14 said on Jul 28, 2009....
    unicornform - thank you. i'm not here to preach, but life is a lot easier and fun when u dont have bad feelings or thoughts against other people right?
     
    queenie- yes, sayang talaga ung friendship that we had for three years. But he is not coming around, I dont want to force him. I hope he's ok. thanks queen.
  • daddy's_girl said on Jul 29, 2009....

    Just a thought..........sometimes, its difficult to be friends with your ex. There are lots of reasons why its is so. first, it is because of a bad break up or unreconcilable differences, infidelity/cheating. On the other hand some can just spring back from being lovers to being just friends. I read once in a magazine that one reason why men find it hard to be friends with their exes is that they were really hurt during the break up or something in the relationship that caused the break up really hurt them. Sometimes, it is nice to be friends with an ex but sometimes it would be better that you choose not to. It really depends on you and your ex if you think its better that you'd rather avoid each other coz being friends won't work. Being friends with an ex may not work with everybody,

    I personally am friends with my ex and not friends with another ex.

    I choose not to because seeing him, being around him or talking to him is not healthy for us both emotionally and mentaly because even after thebreak up we stil argue about a lot of things, that's why we chose not to be involved with each other's life anymore...

    And having an ex as a friend also is nice... I have an ex who I am still friends with, how it happened, it just did after time. Time healed the pain andset our boundaries. He has become one of my confidant. at least with him I get unbiased opinions and advice, because I know he knows me as a friend and as a lover. 

    Past is past.. what happened then cannot be put on rewind. So, enjoy the present and not dwell on the past for there is still the future to look forward to.

     

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