I went out with this guy a few times.  I told him off the bat I didn't want a relationship yet, but was willing to date him and get to know him, nothing incredibly serious right now.  I wanted to make sure I was interested in him for him and not simply because I just got out a relationship.  We started kinda dating in June.  So okay...I met a few of his friends whom he introduced me as his girlfriend.  I was upset but didn't know how to respond or talk to him about that.  Then I went to a wedding and when I mentioned getting to see some of my guy friends and wondering if I could swing dance with my friend Greg who I love dancing with.  He got all pissed off at me and didn't want to hear about me dancing with my guy friends even if I have been friends with them since 2001.

 

He doesn't trust me and is so freaking paranoid about things.  So I told him I was going to take a step back and focus on myself and resolving some issues I am dealing with such as being raped 6 years ago (yea I am finally dealing those issues).  First the insensitive son of a bitch tells me that I am letting the rape rule my life because I am not living it simply because I want to work through it without the added stress of dating someone.  Then get this he had the balls to tell me I was using that as a cover and it was because he could stay 'hard'.  That pissed me off, he kept turning everything on to him and his issue.

 

Recently a guy called for me at work, I have no idea who it was or what they wanted because I wasn't there.  He called me all pissed off and upset because some dude called me at work.  I had no idea what to say other than I was sorry he was hurt but he couldn't really be mad at me about that.  Then he asked if the reason I stepped back was honest or if I was seeing someone else.  Now if I was seeing someone else why the hell would I have him call me at work?  Especially on a day when I wasn't working?  DUMB ASS!  But after I hung  up with him because I was busy he sent me a message telling me I was inconsiderate of his feelings and inconsiderate of him being upset. 

 

I have no clue what to do about this dude.  I don't want to have to go to the boss (we work together which is another reason why I didn't want to start a relationship with him).  but like this is getting really uncomfortable, we don't work shifts together, but see each other during shift changes.  I mean if the guy is so paranoid about my friends i have been friends with for ages, he was even upset that I talked about my friend Jason who is my oldest friend when he came home from Denver.  He got mad!  Like why does he expect me to have all girl friends NOT HAPPENING!  He was upset when my friend TJ would text message me.  its like if this is what it is like when we aren't "together" what would it be like if we were?  I have no clue where to go from this point.  I mean he is generally a nice guy and I was interested greatly in him, but think it unfair to be in a relationship right now when I have things I want to work on.  He isn't understanding that and is becoming very obessive i guess you could say....