Last night my FIL decided to pipe up with his lame brained bull shit
because my husband didn't go over there through the day to check in
with him. When we were over there before the end of the night last
night he got told 'You know, I could have used your help fixing the
tractor.' To the last of our knowledge the fucking part wasn't even
back from being refurbed yet! He had plenty of opportunity to tell
us. He could have picked up a phone! We had other things going on,
like my car, and oh I don't know being a married couple with a fucking
life. So we both got a little pissed at him for that last night. It's
not as if he needs the tractor right now anyway. All the fields are
planted, now it's just time to watch everything grow!
I will say the same thing I told my dad last night when explaining to
him the scenario. I am not going to feel bad for him not getting
something done. I'm not going to feel bad for not checking in with him
when he could have perfectly well called us also, or even my BIL who
was off all day yesterday! My husband and I are both adults and we
damn well do not have to check in with ANYBODY if we don't fucking feel
like it. This isn't the first time he's gotten pissy because we chose
to have zero contact with anybody from the farm for a day or so. The
look on my dad's face was interesting when I said it to him, not
argumentative, but more that 'Oh, yeah maybe I need to back off too
before this is aimed at me.'
I'm just fed up with the BS. That old fucker can not have it both ways
and he will not have it both ways. If we don't feel like going over
there and choose not to, and he doesn't call us to ask for help or fill
us in, then that is HIS fuckin' problem considering we're over there so
much of the time anyway. Besides, we're right across the damn street
so it's not like we're that far away.
Stupid people just piss me off, and he's REALLY stupid here lately.
Hegemone posted on Jul 13, 2009
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CreativeWoman said on Jul 13, 2009....
That's nuts, Hege. If you live right across the street, it's not too hard for your FIL to find your husband. I think you and your husband need a little distance...as in living space...from both sides of the family.
We live on opposite sides of the city limits with my in-laws and that's entirely too close. If I lived right across the street, that would cause more problems than we already have.
You've got to set some boundaries or you're going to end up like me and you don't want that.
CW
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Lucytorial said on Jul 13, 2009....
LMAO ~ Shove it up yer ass! Hege, just say it to him, really it will feel so much better and then you will prolly laugh your tits off.... te he he sory but its hilarious. -
Hegemone said on Jul 13, 2009....
CW - Oh I'm full on board with the idea of just getting the hell away. Beee leeeve me! Lol. Thus why our savings account hasn't been touched, it's acruing interest and we're adding when we can. I am damned and determined to get away from our family ... as bad as it sounds ... they're freaking toxic though. Right now we're not even dreaming of having kids or any of that, it's just getting OUT and away. No more being able to look across the street to see if we're there, or seeing us drive by and trying to wave us in for work (like my SIL does), or anything like that. I tell you, I get so frustrated when one of us parks a little different than usual and my FIL can't see the vehicle and has to call and ask where whomever is at. I always think to myself 'What the hell is it to you you old fucker?' It's just one of those invasions of privacy that shouldn't matter, but for some reason irks me. But we're working on it.
Lucy - Oh one day I will say it to him, I'm sure he'll get me pissed enough. And I know it'll be funny because I was laughing at myself after posting this. I like to at least give myself the giggles when I have to rant, lol. Some of the stuff I say, whether aloud to the offender or here in a post, when pissed is a riot. -
CreativeWoman said on Jul 13, 2009....
Hege,
That's the thing though. It DOES matter. You have a right to be irked. Both sides of your family are way too involved with your marriage. The resentment will build and then you will take it out on each other. Trust me. It is not a happy place to end up.
Do your best and hang in there.
CW
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Hegemone said on Jul 13, 2009....
CW - True, and that's where I fall short sometimes, I question whether I should really be upset or not. Heh, need to get back into HegeBitch mode and just not give a damn whether they don't like how pissy I'm getting. -
CreativeWoman said on Jul 13, 2009....
Hege,
Forgive me for being so blunt, but don't them turn you into a bitch. It really solves nothing. I fear you'll become one of "them". You are too sweet of a person for that.
Food for thought...
CW
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superbozo said on Jul 13, 2009....
Loved the title by the way...I'm so glad my family is the other side of the planet :)I wanna see this HegeBitch :) -
Hegemone said on Jul 13, 2009....
CW - Oh no, heh, not an over all bitch ... just a 'I'm not taking your BS and you can get over it, boo hoo in your own Cheerios because I'll have none of it, treat me with respect or you'll have some damned soggy Cheerios' (lol) sort of mindset when I'm on my own time, so I don't do what I have a tendency to do (let old habits resume so they start walking all over us again). I have no intentions of turning bitter, and honestly I don't have it in me to be nasty to them beyond just not speaking with them, but I do have it in me to keep in mind that I have a right to be upset instead of just writing myself and my own feelings off. I can admit, I'm a chicken when it comes to talking back to certain people ... because I fear the ramifications it could bring (which can be pretty tiring with this crowd). It makes sense in my head, lol.
Bozo - You don't want to see the HegeBitch, but you can hear about her, lol. She's mean, ruthless and has no mercy. And she comes with her own accessories! :-D
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superbozo said on Jul 13, 2009....
I'm sorry....I want to see HegeBitch in action. You might be like this Bitch :)
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Hegemone said on Jul 14, 2009....
Bozo - Lol, no, see, I wouldn't have mace ... I'd just punch the guy, kick him in the hoo-hoo and probably inflict other bodily harm. That would be among the yelling and cussing at him for coming near me. :-D -
feelthesydneylove said on Aug 02, 2009....
Hegs, to be honest I feel like I get along with my family far better when I'm eight hours away from them instead of living or being under the same damn roof with them. I'm sorry, but I totally agree with you there. Better distance, better relief. I remember how so RELIEVED I was to be out of there for college... I had the best night's sleep ever on my first night away from the family. It makes such a huge difference on the attributions to anger and stress, along with other negative bullshit that we don't need to deal with. This is sad, I know, but last year for the Christmas break, I couldn't stand three weeks with them. Three weeks just is too much, and I'm eager to be out once again so I can have my peace of mind back.....
Hang in there! ((((HUG))))
Mucho love,
Sydney
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Hegemone said on Aug 02, 2009....
Sydney - Yes it does make a huge difference being away. Each time I moved I phased into a better way of getting along with the people I had gotten away from. Now it's time again and I don't want to have to ever come back (only reason we moved back in with my dad because he messed his back up really bad and couldn't take care of himself and the house alone). This time though, he'll just have to be on his own and learn to call and ask for help, and not at his own liesure either.
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