• PAPERBACKWRITER said on Jul 12, 2009....

  
  I am sorry you have to go through this situation, seer.
  
  paper ~
  

• diabolicdame said on Jul 12, 2009....

  Sorry seer.. I hope you feel better soon.. (((hugs)))

• gingersoul said on Jul 12, 2009....

  I am sorry, Seer.
  
  You were talking about her in such an intense way....
  

• seer said on Jul 12, 2009....

  Thanks for the support guys. I'm exhausted, I'll talk tomorrow :)

• feelthesydneylove said on Jul 12, 2009....

  Seer, I'm sorry.
  
  This too shall pass. Things fall apart so better things can happen...
  
  - Sydney
  

• HisFairMaiden said on Jul 12, 2009....

  awwwww,seer~
  
  nothing anyone else can say will comfort your very personal feelings right now...but if those things were the only reason someone wanted you~then it wasn't meant to be...you know?
  
  you are a person of alot more depth than that...and deserving of much more.
  
  heal, my friend...then, RETURN WITH A VENGEANCE!!!!  ;)
  
  
  
  ~fair maiden~
  
  
  

• superbozo said on Jul 12, 2009....

  As a geezer talking to another geezer its hard for me to be all well you know. Get on that bike mate and go for a big ride. I know you'll be better after that.   :)
   
   

• queenparanoia said on Jul 12, 2009....

  feel the pain... then move on... you'll find someone someday...

  {{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{HUG}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}

• Hegemone said on Jul 12, 2009....

  Seer, I'm so sorry about this.  ((((((((((((HUG))))))))))

• seer said on Jul 13, 2009....

  Thanks.
   
  Basically, I was giving the relationship my all, bringing wine, finding her a job, improving her social life, finding her a new driving instructor, and I was being met with negativity. She doesn't like her life, and blames it on her upbringing or the recession and everything around her. So I was coming in from 12-hour days at work (add another 5 hours ontop of that for college) and getting verbal abuse because she was taking her frustrations out on me. I'm not a punchbag, don't treat my like one. And if there's one thing I cant stand its people who moan endlessly about how they hate their life, AND how its everyone elses' fault. Take some responsibility, grow a pair, and DO something about it.
   
  And the sex was too infrequent. She didn't do it if she was stressed or tired. Come on, we're in our TWENTIES, it should be almost our main occupation! Plus every time she talked about it she just talked about STDs, pregnancy, cystitus - that shouldn't be what someone thinks about when you talk about sex!!
   
  Then there's children - I want to adopt kids (LOADS of reasons), but she told me that she wouldn't go for that.
   
  And Christmas. I haven't celebrated in five years. Much better doing it that way. Nobody gets offended in my family, I'm not the only one who ignores the whole thing. Apparently I'm 'selfish' and I also 'impose that view on everyone else' (I said enjoy yourself, I'm going to be working and busy ignoring it with my friends and family!!). When we were having this Christmas conversation, she brought up kids again, and said 'if we have kids, you're going to deny them that majic?', erm, no, its not majic, its bullshit and depressing, I'm hoping on raising happy, freethinking, independtly minded athiests.....
   
  To be honest, she's been hurting me and pushing me away for so bloody long, this is well overdue and I feel sorta 'free' now, if not slightly lost and alone.
   
  I probably should have called it off after my first affair, but I let this toxicity carry on, and cheated again just for something to hold onto....
   
  Anyway, must go to work friends, thanks for the kind thoughts, ((((((hugs)))))) to all of you :)

• seer said on Jul 13, 2009....

  And Superbozo, already have done my friend!!
   
  I had NO IDEA the GPX was that fast!!

• pusscat said on Jul 13, 2009....

  You and I don't do hugs and mushy stuff remember ;-)  Sorry about it though old chum.
  
  Sure am glad you got to thrash the shit outta the GPX.
  

• seer said on Jul 13, 2009....

  I wouldn't say 'thrash the shit', that makes it sound like the bike is getting hurt!! But I did go VERY quickly, made me feel better. God, and the way that bike sounds and feels, mmmmm.......
   
   

• Misty_Eyed said on Jul 13, 2009....

  I really did have an OMG reaction when I read the title of your post. I'm so sorry things haven't worked out for the two of you. But yes, there might be something positive in this for both of you.

• RollingC said on Jul 13, 2009....

  They can be (and usually are) very painful but it's a necessary evil in our lives.   We learn and grow with those experiences.  Hope that the pain goes away soon and wishing you all the best.
  Rc

• RollingC said on Jul 13, 2009....

  They can be (and usually are) very painful but it's a necessary evil in our lives.   We learn and grow with those experiences.  Hope that the pain goes away soon and wishing you all the best.
  Rc

• feelthesydneylove said on Jul 13, 2009....

  Wow Seer -
  
  What you described of the basis in your relationship in that earlier comment... I was flabbergasted. That shouldn't be the relationship you are in - or deserve to be - if the woman just basically takes advantage of you.
  
  I consider myself a freethinking, independently-minded aethist (or agnostic as some could label me) and I believe that everyone is entitled to their own beliefs. But to complain and whine about one's life while doing nothing about it?? My god. I'd smack the shit out of that girl myself. There's nothing I hate more than hearing about this stuff from those who would be viewed as, or at least fit the description of, a parasite or a freeloader. Reality will come back to bite them in the ass, that's for sure....
  
  - Sydney
  

• superbozo said on Jul 13, 2009....

  Seer. Good to hear...I'm jealous (Damn I need to get a bike) and have to say I agree with Sydney. I learnt at a young age that square pegs do not fit round holes and it sounds like you were trying to do that. I've been there myself. Time to yell "NEXT"

  Good luck mate

• uniquely-ironic said on Jul 13, 2009....

  It's never easy ending a relationship.  No words seem to cover the hurt.  I'm sorry things didn't work out.

• mixednuts said on Jul 13, 2009....

  you ask for to much ....me thinks.

• BELOW_TOP_SECRET said on Jul 13, 2009....

  STOP! wait a moment, ...the moment is gone and there's another train coming down the love tracks!

• hottips4u said on Jul 13, 2009....

  Hey mancow {{{{snickering}}}}...
  
  You get what you pay for ! LoL ! ; )
  
  Sounds like you need to get over yourself before even considering if there is or was anything else to get over except the materialistic expense of trying to play house like a big boi with a disposable toy ! ; )
  
  Stick to cheating, its a suit you adorn to the T (trash)/(trickdaddy).
  
  
  

• Psych-ed said on Jul 13, 2009....

  Hi Seer I'm sorry about your break up, I hope you're feeling better.

• k666 said on Jul 13, 2009....

  wtf, :-O I thought you were happy with her and you had sex and "fluid bonding" every day and you really loved her. Or were you describing a different girlfriend then? I'm sorry to hear what was really going on, Seer, and good for you, for getting out of that relationship when someone's just using and hurting you. ( hug ) Take care, Seer.
  

• hugecock! said on Jul 13, 2009....

  dumpted is as dumped does

• UnicornForm said on Jul 13, 2009....

  you did the right thing it soundz like. She dont want kids? I dont want to have them, but i wanna adopt me one to, as for how theyre beleifs..they will think what they want but anywho (((((HUG)))))

• seer said on Jul 14, 2009....

  Aww thanks for the sympathy guys.
   
  I've been hanging round with mates a lot more, ALREADY feeling the financial burden lifting, things are going to be ok you know....
   
  K666, I thought I was happy. We didn't have 'fluid bonding' ALL the time, maybe a few times a week.
   
  Below top secret - nice way of looking at it. That's how life goes really.
   
  Mixednuts-I don't ask for a lot, just for someone to love who I am, not what they think I could maybe become.
   
  Psyc-hed - It will come with time. All your kind words help enormously.
   
  UI - thanks
   
  Feelthesydneylove - Thanks, I guess getting out while you can is the best way. Her attitude did really suck, she liked to blame her mum a lot.
   
  RollingC and misty - couldn't have put it better myself - neccesary hurt.

• raindove said on Jul 16, 2009....

  Breaking up is so hard but if you're better off without her, cheers to that. Time will heal the pain and the wounds, I hope. I wish I could say that for myself, I broke up more than a year ago and still pine for him. I thought he's my soulmates but not all soulmates live happily ever after right. I grew up thinking otherwise, silly silly me!

• seer said on Jul 17, 2009....

  Aww, that sucks. I still pine for my first serious g/f. She was abusive, too, actually.
   
  Actually, I've been in five long relationships - IE longer than six months - and they've all been with psychotic, abusive bitches!
   
  I think you don't miss the person, you miss what the person gave you, self confidence, self respect, that sort of thing.......

• raindove said on Jul 18, 2009....

  Thats so unfair on you seer but you must be pretty strong, unlike me :-) I hope you find your way this time around.

• seer said on Jul 18, 2009....

  :-) Is your relationship situation not good? If you don't mind me asking?

• raindove said on Aug 14, 2009....

  hey seer, i know its a really late reply. it didnt occur me to come back and check.
  i dont mind and you are right its not good. but you know whats worse, i dont have anyone else to blame lol.
  

• Taffy000 said on Sep 30, 2009....

  I know what you're saying. One thing to do is ask yourself what type of person you accept into your life?  Are you quick to judge someone and turn them away?  Break ups suck. 

  I find myself in a new relationship not long after my divorce is final.  When I gave him my number I wondered if he'd call me back and he did and he has.  He's funny, sweet, sexy but there are huge issues.  I'm choosing to ignore those issues.  Certain things that are beyond our control.  One never knows what will happen.  I can't turn away someone who loves me and isn't abusive to me.  Maybe it's because I'm so love starved.  You're better off being away from someone who makes you feel bad.  This new fellow of mine makes me feel good.  He's like a beacon.  Anyone who knows him longs for his attention.  It's a nice quality to have.  So all in all it sounds like you made the right decision. 

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