• Hegemone said on Jul 06, 2009....

  Love isn't perfect and sometimes it doesn't have to be.  Hell, probably most of the time it shouldn't be, but yet we all spend far too much time looking for 'perfect' love and ignore what's in front of us.  Glad you've had this little life lesson and that at least you got to experience it for what amount of time you did.  ((((HUG)))))

• fragglesrock said on Jul 06, 2009....

  friend love is sometimes the best kind of love.

• secretlife said on Jul 06, 2009....

  my feeling is that if you love him and he cannot love you as you need him to love you, that's it's better for all if you go your own way.  at 23, it's time tbs to look around your world and find a man who can and will be more than this man can be for you.
   
  don't you want it all?
  i want it all for you, but you need to want it too.
   
  i let go of my love 10 years too late-  i made so many mistakes because i told myself i couldn't help what i felt, when in reality i was the only one who COULD help myself.  i said....friends.  yeah, i'm fine with that.  but i wasn't really.....how can you be when you're in love?
   
  you need to let go.
  it's no good to count the years you've loved him.
  forget fairy tales and all that jazz.  don't waste your life...
  there are so many men in this world you could love and who could love you-  as much and even MORE than you think you love him- or visa versa.
   
  i wish for your 23rd year that you become strong enough to see this and can formally close a chapter and begin all over again in the love department.

• wombat said on Jul 06, 2009....

  Well, Happy Birthday late.....and wishing you love and happiness.

• queenparanoia said on Jul 06, 2009....

  {{{{{HUG}}}}}

• RollingC said on Jul 06, 2009....

  Don't give up on Love....but don't settle for less than what you need either.
  :^)
  Rc

• MsBradford07 said on Jul 06, 2009....

  Love at times can be wonderful and joyous place to be, but sometimes it can bring you hurt and pain. You soon have someone that you can 100% percent too and he will do the same. Happy Birthday!

• UnicornForm said on Jul 08, 2009....

  I can't ask for a better friend. ------> I like that. Happy Belated B-day darling.

• tbs230 said on Jul 09, 2009....

  Thank you everyone for the B-day wishes, and for the understanding.
   
  Secret - I'm working on the letting go part. I have become interested in other people, and I think...I think I'm getting there. But I'm also not being an idiot, you know? I'm going to therapy again (will blog about that soon) and I'm working on what it is about him that is so hard to let go of. Because I know its not him physically or even emotionally anymore. There is a mental block when it comes to him and I know that's something I need help with...I know it can be done, I recently cut off all communication with another friend who just wasn't there for me anymore....if ever. (you know how slow I am with these realizations)
   
  But yeah, the goal is to remember the good, for my own mental health...but at the same time not to think about it unless I need to (i.e. therapy) I refuse to go down that path anymore. If my love for him hurts no one but me, then its something that only I can fix...can't sit around waiting for Prince Charming to come rescue me...
   
  I'm also taking a break from school (also another blog), I'm burned out, and I'm only doing this to make my mother happy...you'd think I'd learn by now that that will NEVER happen!
   
  So much to tell you guys!!!

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