Alyss posted on Sep 13, 2006
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If you’ve read my earlier blog entries you’ll know how I feel about bullies and it’s not flattering so to be met in the playground by another parent who announced in a very loud voice (just so that all the other waiting parents could hear) that her little girl says that my daughter is bullying her was not what I wanted to hear.
Now ordinarily you could probably imagine my reaction but fortunately sanity stepped in and I didn’t say what came to mind, which involved sensitive little flowers and overreactions by child and parent alike, but calmly asked if she had spoken to the teacher about her concerns as approaching me directly was distinctly bad form. Of course no she hadn’t so was going entirely on what her child had said. I said I’d discuss it with my daughter and the teacher and suggested she did the same inwardly seething at this woman's rudeness.
I have to travel to another school to collect oldest so didn’t have time to stop and speak to the class teacher just then but subjected littly to the Spanish Inquisition in the car with promises of dire punishment if the accusations turned out to be true all the way there. Her tear soaked face partly convincing me that she hadn't done anything but my appreciation of her stunning ability to bend the truth making me wary of believing her.
Having collected oldest I rang the school to speak with the teacher, who of course was totally oblivious to anything having gone on in the class but promised to pursue it in the morning. Littly was of course terrified by this time expecting her teacher to regale me with tales of torture and abuse and I could see the relief on her face when I passed on what I’d been told.
Yesterday I took a call from the teacher telling me that everything was fine in class and that my daughter had done nothing to deserve the title of bully and that little L was just being over sensitive but she’d monitor it just in case.
Now I know my youngest can be a bit of a monster. She has major issues especially over control and is exceptionally competitive but she has damn good reasons for being like it too, and knowing that helps me get through the rough patches with her but to have her called bully triggered something in me and I dread to think how I’d have reacted if she really had been doing so.
And I fear the day when she actually deserves the title…
Comments
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EvilTwin said on Sep 13, 2006....
Hang in there Alyss. I don't blame you for reacting the way you did, all things considered. I do hope the title isn't deserved and that it was all a misunderstanding...
[Hugs]
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hotaka said on Sep 13, 2006....
Do you mean you think someday she will deserve the title?
Some parents just stick up for their kids way too much without being rational. She should have approached the teacher or you (as you were there anyway) and dealt with matter in an adult fashion and not like a child herself.
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silverwhisper said on Sep 13, 2006....
i'd suggest reaching out to the overly sensitive kid's mom. perhaps there's a way that she can learn not to be an idiot from your example. :>
ed
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Alyss said on Sep 13, 2006....
Hotaka; for reasons I can't go into there's a fair chance that yes one day she might well deserve the title.
SW; the Mum is actually one of the more sensible ones so I think she was just doing the whole 'lioness' thing and dived in without thinking it though.
The protocol here is to always approach the teacher and not the parent directly to avoid nastiness.
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silverwhisper said on Sep 13, 2006....
in that case, she might prove a useful ally.[/machiavelli]
:>
ed
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Jenna said on Sep 13, 2006....
Alyss... ahhh.. the trials and tribulations of being a parent...hang in there. Support your little one . And god luck. I truly wish there was a parent manual.
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Jenna said on Sep 13, 2006....
That was good luck....missed the edit time!
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mr_right14 said on Sep 16, 2006....
Sorry for this interruption....
Alyss sorry for the spam that I've made.
Thanks for being patient and kind.
It won't happen again.
I do not intent to deliberately make spams but just want to drive attention.
But from that, I forgot my manners and conduct in this community.
Hope I could bring back my reputation.
I may not a good writer co'z I ain't a writer and never be one.
But I'm a technical researcher specially in the world of engineering specifically, electronics or satcom.
Sorry for the intrusion...
Mr_RiGhT
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Frlncwrtr said on Sep 19, 2006....
Alyss:
I do not know how old your daughter is, but somehow I find it utterly ridiculous for an adult to call a little girl a bully.
I'm not advising you to do this by any means, but because of her approach, I would tell her to go screw herself!
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Alyss said on Sep 19, 2006....
Frlncwrtr; she's just five.
And, oh the irony of it, now the other little girl has decided that my daughter is her best friend and wants her to go and play at her house!
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EvilTwin said on Sep 19, 2006....
Perhaps that's the beginning of a good friendship?...
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