Even my husband and him got on very well. We had one of those relationships where we were both young, both fairly open about life.
He was a slice of heaven on a stick physically. Tallas a bean pole, jet black hair, strong chin and jaw line, sparkling black eyes. Quite attractive.
Inside he was highly intelligent, create not like the norm, he had a flair for sewing and also physical sports like karate and the like.
When we split, hubby and I caught up with him one night, unfortunately for me I was going to a ball with my family so couldn't stay home to wax lyrical.
By the time I did get home, my ex was on the couch snoring, hubby was in our bed snorring and I stood there thinking "this is some weird ass way of having your ex over huh girl" well they ended up getting rolling drunk together that night.
The next morning we all had breaky together, it wasn't uncomfortable in the least, both men are confident and strong characters but no competition there. Quite an interesting dynamic.
My ex was definitely a tender soul, I remember him saying "as long as you're happy and make sure you take care of her" those kinds of things.
Anyway, my curiosity got the better of me the other day and I looked him up on facebook. I wasn't sure I'd found him, he's changed as one would expect over the years. Still I remember those eyes and took a chance.
So I've caught up with my ex partner, and I have to say it doesn't surprise me what he is doing wth his life, how he got there. What's really wonderful is that after all these years i still respect the man and he me.
Its important for me to realise this, as a person I never walk away slaming doors shut, I never have and never will be the type of person who shuns shuts out or creates cavernous splits in relationships.
The doors to my past are always open and with a willing and hearty smile I keep them that way. Treading lightly on the world especially with matters of the heart, they are the most important matters one can hold tenderly and gingerly, like a new born making sure not to hurt, tear or rip away the magic that once existed and now has changed and grown into something else.
How wonderful to have taken the chance to find him and say hello after all these years. I feel very blessed in fact to say that my ex is a friend all be it one who is not in my life, still a friend.
