Do you think you're ugly if you wear a scarf over your head?? Well, in my opinion I think we look much better with a head scarf on. I know, I know, some would say what about my beautiful hair!?! Nobody will be able to see them!!
But do you know that actually we are not allowed / 'haram' to show our hair?? The Quran says that we are only allowed to show our face and hands to any other man besides our husband. I actually started to where my head scarf even before I converted into a muslim. Not to show off but get used to the idea as it is a must for all Muslim woman. I was afraid if I were to wait until I converted, I would not be wearing it as there are still so many converts that does not wear the head scarf and I would be influenced.
After I started wearing the scarf, there was one funny incident with my late mum that still makes me laugh until to date. I've just gotten home from work (I used to work at a pizza restaurant), the night shift. I didn't immediately took off my scarf and just sat at the hall watching TV without the lights on. My mum came in and said she got the shock of her life as I looked like a ghost!
:-p
You can still look pretty with the scarf on as there are so many fashions in wearing the head scarf nowadays!
elia_ann posted on Sep 12, 2006
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thenack said on Sep 12, 2006....
Whomen should not be required to hide themselves to compensate for men. If your husbands are so yealous, perhaps, they should be whearing blindfolds. You should not pay for them to be able to controll their lust. ( not that this is even a garantee)
Good luck to you and I'm sure you look fine like that, its just a very rediculous and unfair thing from my point of view.
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missb said on Sep 12, 2006....
Is it really a must for a muslim woman to wear the head scarf? I don't think so. I have many muslim friends who don't wear it. And I see lots of muslim women over here in Indonesia who doesn't either. So I guess it's just a matter of choice.
Where do you live, if you don't mind me asking.
Cheers! :)
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SeanRenaud said on Sep 12, 2006....
No I don't think you ugly with the scarf. I do think that you would look a lot more attractive if you let your hair down but that is a personal preference. Pretty much thenack hit it on the head that you shouldn't be FORCED.
Honestly as long as it only applies to Muslims I've got no problem. What I have a problem with is the numerous nations in the ME where Sharia law is official and thus people who do not ascribe to that way of life are forced to obey its laws.
To Missb: My understanding is yes they do but just like you can find Jews who eat bacon or work on Sunday you can find Muslim women who don't adhere to that law.
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missb said on Sep 13, 2006....
SeanR:
What I meant was, just because your don't wear headscarf, doesn't mean you're a bad muslim. Vice versa.
I know a lot of muslim women who don't wear it, but still they're still good muslims.
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SeanRenaud said on Sep 13, 2006....
Actually I was saying that atleast in my opinion it does make you a bad Muslim if you don't wear the headscarf. It is written the laws that they believe were handed down by God/Allah and they are rejecting them because modern fashion doesn't agree? When did we become good enough to edit God's laws to our own choosing. I specifically countered by saying that you can find Jews who eat pork, once again Pork is not Kosher. I don't care if we know how to cool it properly to avoid worms. Unless God came to you specifically and told you that pork was ok then you are still wrong for breaking his laws.
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missb said on Sep 13, 2006....
We could go on.... Let's just agree to disagree ok.
For me religions don't define what kind of human beings we are. So, just becuz you don't do a thing or two of what the holy book said, doesn't mean you're a sinner.
Only God can judge me. Not humans...
Cheers ;)
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missb said on Sep 13, 2006....
Oh, PS: My muslim friends who do not wear headscarf feel that they're not ready yet. Not becuz of modern fashion.
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elia_ann said on Sep 13, 2006....
Hey guys,
Didn't know my topic was interesting to get so many comments!
Anyway, I agree that not all muslim woman who does not wear the head scarf is bad. But you must know that it is the law of 'Allah' (God) for all the muslim woman to wear one. If you do not want to follow 'Allah's' rule than whose will you follow??
It's true like what "missb" said that most of the ladies are just not ready to wear it yet. Cauze if you start to wear the headscarf you have to leave most of your bad habits behind. Eg; Smoking, drinking, colouring/dyeing you hair, no more tight clothes, etc... You don't expect a woman who wears a headscarf and smoke in public right!! You might as well don't wear the headscarf at all. But in Malaysia, the teenagers have already started smoking even with their headscarf on! Oh what a sad sight! :-(
But of course like what "missb" said we cannot condemn them or not be friends with them. We are not 'Allah'(God). Let 'Allah' judge them. Not us.
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missb said on Sep 14, 2006....
Thank you, Elia :)
I'm friends with anyone who is kind and nice. Religious or not.
Cheers!
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chingform said on Sep 14, 2006....
i think beauty is deep inside.. beauty of the soul and thoughts.
yes I do think head skarf could be a nice fashion too.. why not :)
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habibti said on Sep 17, 2006....
JUST SHARING:
I never really knew how serious Muslim women were about wearing "hijabs" until I started hanging out with them.
There was one incident where my Palestinian friend, Loosen, after saying her prayers, had to fix her hair and hijab. So, she asked me to keep our office door closed while she did so.
The teaboy, suddenly came, just gave 2 knocks and opened the door. (Without waiting for a reply).
He saw Loosen without her hijab on. And this made him turn around almost immediately. Loosen got really mad. She started shouting at the teaboy too.
I really didn't understand much so I told her to calm down. And that maybe it was partly my fault since I should have locked the doors.
She said she wasn't mad at me, although she can't let the incident pass since it was "haram" for other men to see her without her hijab on, especially since she was already married. Loosen said it was like she had "sex" with other men.
This really puzzled me. But seeing how furious she was, I dared not ask any more questions that day.
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elia_ann said on Sep 18, 2006....
Hi there everyone!
Habibti,
Your friend Loosen is actually doing what every Muslim woman should be doing.
In the Quran, the punishment for letting someone other than your husband see your hair is as bad as when you are having pre-marital sex. All of your hair is being pulled off and it will grow back. This will be a continuous cycle, it will keep on repeating and repeating itself!!
Imagine the pain!!
I really salute your friend Loosen! I'm not even as strong as her. I don't wear my scarf when I'm hanging my clothes outside or when I'm at home with guests. Not everyone is perfect right?!?!
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chingform said on Sep 20, 2006....
hi elia_ann, thanks for visiting my blog.
:)
paying you a visit here ...
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elia_ann said on Sep 21, 2006....
Thx Chingform!!
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harlyma said on Nov 26, 2008....
Ansalamalakum!Hi,I am a Chinese muslim with a head scarf on ,I am moved deeply by your words,as you said:"You can still look pretty with the scarf on !"yes,you are right ,I look much better now!Thanks Allah!I do fully appreciate!I am so glad to know you on line~hope to become your friend!wishes for you!
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