I loved my father-in-law very much. Lots of people loved him, but unfortunately they never knew his dark side.
My wife on the other hand hated his guts. You see, she grew up in a house where alcohol ruined the family as well as her self image.Her father would often throw her mom her brother and at times even her around the house in drunken rages of fits before going off to bed and passing out for a day or 2.
He stopped drinking after we got married but had forgotten how to love. He didn't have a clue how to love anymore. He was never at home but always driving around living in his own little world. Because he had never shown love, how could others show love towards him?
For 17 years of married life my wife told me how she couldn't wait for her father to die and that there was not a chance that she would even cry let alone even go to his funeral service the day he did eventually die.
When her father was 60 my mother-in-law decided that enough was enough and got a divorce from the old man and re-married to a man who gave her love for the first time in 40 years of married life. Father-in-law went and lived in a type of retirement home and this is when his life started going downhill very fast. From being a national sport hero he became an old, old man overnight. His life was ruined.
Anyway, about 4 weeks ago the old man died. He died of a broken and a lonely heart. My wife told me that a week before he died she knelt beside his bed and told him that she loved him and that she forgave him for all his wrong doings during her upbringing.
For 4 weeks my wife has been morning his death. She cry's at the drop of a hat over his death. Why, because she never gave him a chance.
Please guys, before it is too late, say "I LOVE YOU"
We only have one chance in this life and on this earth. All you have to loose is your pride, but believe me it is worth it.
No one knows what tomorrow may bring - go for it and say "I LOVE YOU!!!!!"
makefriends posted on Sep 11, 2006
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dailyachesandpains said on Sep 29, 2006....
Hey Make,
I too LOVED my father-in-law. My Husband loved him, but backed away from him when his fathers common law wife made a stink over a comment made by his sibling over Christmas dinner. The 'incident' happend well before I joined the family.
I had a conversation with my Husband about him not talking to his Dad like Father and Son's talk. He brushed it off,over and over, until, one day when I told him to take me to see him and I'm so glad he did. He is also now so glad he did. From that day on, we went to see his dad and his 'wife' every single weekend. They suddenly bonded again. He realized his 'step-mother' wasn't so bad and only dismissed her because of his siblings. Much like peer-pressure.
We were married in the fall of 2001. March of 2002 we found out that his father was terminally ill, cancer, of course. His second time around with it, but after 30+ years of being cancer free. His first time was when he was in the military when he was much younger.
On Halloween 2002 he got to see the ultra-sound of our un-born baby girl (taken that very day) and he talked for the first time in days. My Husband got to tell his father how much he loved him and forgave him for anything he thought he may have done to him. I was on the speaker phone at home during this conversation and he said to me in his slurred speach '**** the baby is beautiful, I will be there when she comes. I love you, I love her, thank you for bringing *** back into my life, and take care of my son for me'. I told him that I loved him and thanked him for raising such a fine man. I tried to give him one last laugh and said 'If you're there for the delivery of the baby, please, just make sure you're standing near my head' and I did get a laugh out of him, and my Husband said he had a frail smile and a tear rolled down his face. He didn't speak again and passed away 2 hours later at his home while he was 'sleeping'.
We both miss him so much. Unfortunately, events after his death by his father's so called 'wife' ended up tearing up our relationship with her and her children. We miss them too, and we love them as well. A series of unfortunate events.
Daily
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makefriends said on Oct 02, 2006....
What a lovely story - thank you for sharing it!
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