Now, on to my husband. He’s getting another talking to tomorrow. I’ve been dropping hints for the last three days now that he needs to shape up. He quickly fell out of the ‘nice husband’ category over the weekend. As I previously mentioned, Friday about the time our friends came over. He’s been in a mood this whole week, just gripey and snotty every time we are alone. When I comment about it, such as ‘What’s got you in a mood?’ or ‘Why do you keep snapping at me when I haven’t done anything to you?’ he says ‘I’m not crabby or in a mood.’ Really? Could have fooled me considering I’m the one getting short snappy remarks. If I’m doing something to piss him off I’d like to know. I’ve given him plenty of opportunity to tell me, including asking him point blank. If I’m not doing anything and he just thinks he can get by with it … heh, think again fucker. I’m tired of this shit where we have this big long conversation and he shapes up for a few days and then falls right back into his old habits. I’m not saying he has to be happy and smiling all the time or doing nice things for me 24/7 but at least don’t snap at me needlessly and don’t act like you’ll catch the plague from me if we touch.
Oh yeah, also tonight he tried to play that ‘we can’t just cuddle, my penis won’t let me’ game. I put a stop to that real fricken’ fast. His eyes got huge, our conversation went as follows:
Him: You need to go take your bath before you start something.
Me: I just want to cuddle; I’m not trying to start anything.
H: You know I can’t just cuddle, it always starts something.
M: Well you better learn to just cuddle.
H: I can’t! ‘He’ *points to his crotchal area* won’t let me!
M: Well you better learn to just cuddle pal.
H: ‘HE’ won’t let me!
M: Well fine, if HE won’t let you, then I won’t let you do the other thing and we’ll both be happy. You don’t have to cuddle and I don’t have to endure what you call sex.
H: *eyes huge*
M: *raised eyebrows*
H: *huge eyed stare*
M: Yeah, I said it. If you don’t learn to control your penis you won’t be using it anytime soon. Got it?
H: Are you serious?
M: Do I sound like I’m joking?
H: Go take your bath.
In hindsight, taking myself away from that, it’s pretty funny actually, lol. I think he got the message though, so that’s good. We’ll see how he acts tomorrow though. I’ve just decided I’m done playing around. I want to be able to have a great sex life, a great relationship and be able to manage all the other shit. I don’t want one becoming predominant over the other. It will take work, and I’m willing. He’ll both be willing and try or he won’t and I’ll quit wasting my time. I’m not going to just stay quiet and ‘deal with it’ anymore. I have a right to stick up for myself in this relationship and get what I want to. There’s no reason that he gets to have his meals made for him, avoid dealing with monthly bill paying, hardly EVER have to clean, get his back or head rubbed off and on regularly throughout the day once he’s home, receive random nice surprises, have a no questions asked policy when he has to go to the farm, sit on his butt and watch TV without being bothered, ignore or ‘forget’ little things I asked him to do and various other things without me getting my fair share in return dammit!
