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I don't mean to brag, but surprise! We're preggers (1:40-2:40)... Or at least we think we are. The silly yet expensive pee test (heh, pee on this!) says we have a legible yet faint cross on the testable side. And so the long hard nine month road to fatherhood begins.

Am I excited? Sure. Am I jumping up and down like a schoolgirl? No, not yet. We have to get it confirmed with the witch doctor and all, plus we were thinking of telling the parents either this weekend (if we can be graced with the presence of our witch doctor) or on the 4th of July when we will have face-to-face access to everybody. With four parents in three states, it's not exactly a "y'all come" kind of phone call.

So if any of you folks feel that I've been just a bit more on edge than normal, especially on the topics of anything child or pregnancy related or of the still-born economy, then your instincts were right. Things of this nature have been dwelling on my mind as of late. They are important to me and therefore my priorities have once again only slightly shifted from those of before. Those who show up in the "friend" category will certainly understand and those in the "tool" category will still be scratching their ass in a corner somewhere saying to themselves, "Well what did he mean by that?" Either way, it's hardly worth re-hashing at this point.

Now for the journey ahead, which still includes : renovating the house, selling the house, stocking the child's savings fund, groveling back to corporate, attempting to maintain whatever business I have and whatever ends up existing after I take up a corporate job, buying a new house, paying off all my old debts, and then whatever else may come in the meantime which does not exclude : family issues (on both sides), family health problems (on both sides), financial stability issues, time management issues, the elimination of cluttering items and any so called "free time" that may escape like vapor in the next nine months.

Renovations on the house are slow but finally kicking in. We finished all but the trim and the closet door in the bedroom. Without surrendering my personal sovereignty, I'll just tell you that for a slab 1950's home kit, the wood flooring was a great addition. Next we demolish the kitchen (remove cabinets, walls, etc) and the "wet wall" that connects the bedroom that is now a decent laundry room (the facilities were in the kitchen before). We're expanding the wall and removing even the hint of any mold that may (or may not) be there. Once the "wet wall" is a solid 2x6, the kitchen will be put together to a functional point and then we're fixing up the laundry room to be solid. At this point we'll re-insulate, re-drywall and paint the kitchen and putting in the rest of the lower cabinets (upper cabinets are no rush at this point). Meanwhile, we'll be putting in an attic access in the laundry room. With this, I can get my wish granted to wire the whole house for phone, cable, data, stereo and the necessary control interfaces to make this house "smart"-ready.

After that, we plan on getting a voluntary crew (many a friend close by who will work for beer and BBQ) to help us rip out the front wall of the house. That day will include swapping the bath tub, changing out all the windows ($3,000 tax credit... Yay!) and doing maintenance on the water heater and HVAC. At the end of the day the siding on the front of the house will finally match the other three sides. The following weeks will include re-flooring the "office" and possibly moving around the closet in that room to be more posh. There's a little bit of wall work to do, so it will probably be a pit stop compared to the remaining work. The bathroom will be next -- floor, walls, trim, fixtures, etc and then the living room. The living room is hardly a task, because once floored all that we will have to do is re-paint.

We thought about doing landscaping (it runs in her family), but it will depend on when the front of the house goes up. By that time it may be fall... And with an expecting date (tenatively until the witch doctor blathers otherwise) of late February, we may simply have to meg-shift something to get through winter.

About stocking the child's savings fund. My original idea on this was to put in $50 per pay period per kid (or $100 per month per kid -- she's suseptible to twins) for nine months or so, then flipping the accounts into a trust that can't be touched until they are at least 18 or so. If we put it in a CD at 6.75% (good luck there) and put in $100 per month per kid, then that will barely cover college for them. We still expect our kid to (at 15-16 years) to seek a scholarship for college and if they're going out of state (or military) then they can pick up the niceties themselves.

On groveling back to corporate -- I hate the corporate mentality, but a good friend of mine has already offered me a straight (8-5 M-F) job at the local college doing IT work. If I put the right people in place, I can still run my business just fine, but that's all subjective at this point. I'm just going to go with the flow of applying for this gig and see what happens. I'm used to doing most of my growing during the third quarter, but given the climate of the economy, I think I'll count on consistency more than my own abilities, since it is going to affect more than just me at this point.

Well, I could go on for days, but I have to go gear up to be a responsible person now... Not that I wasn't in the midst of doing that before, but now it's game on!


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  • uniquely-ironic said on Jun 14, 2009....
    tenative congratulations!  No advise other than, you'll figure it out.  Parents always do. :)
  • fragglesrock said on Jun 14, 2009....
    congrats! and no need to apologize about bragging, i expect we'll get to hear lots of that from now on :) and pssst...i take back everything i said in my one comment to you where i said kids give you facial twitches ;)
  • travelr712 said on Jun 14, 2009....
    it's the most expensive piece of technology she'll ever pee on :-)
     
    congrats jd.
  • diabolicdame said on Jun 14, 2009....
    Congrats!! I think you sound well prepared.. I'm sure you'll figure it all out.. :-)
  • Mrs_Javadewd said on Jun 14, 2009....
    And here his bro and sis in law just get preggers and how for the best.  Mean while we have a plan of action that's longer than my foot, and trust me I have a long foot. 


  • javadewd said on Jun 14, 2009....
    Thanks everybody. I may try to hawk (hock?) some server space somewhere and post some ambiguous pictures of the renovations...
  • andora said on Jun 14, 2009....
    plans are good

    having children was THE best endeavor of my life - and still is,
     congratulations

    and

    there is really no way to prepare for children, it's all such a surprise day after day

    you sound very reasonable and capable to me, good job!
  • superbozo said on Jun 14, 2009....
    Congrats java and mrs java. Good luck with everything. It looks like your gonna be busy.
  • gingersoul said on Jun 14, 2009....
    Congratulations, Java!

    Pfiuuu.....those are a lot of plans.....they always make me dizzy...:-)

    I wish you and your wife all the best.
  • Twylarants said on Jun 14, 2009....
    It's a good reason to brag, JDewd.  How you feeling, Mrs. Dewd?  He's not making you tear down walls, is he?
  • UnicornForm said on Jun 14, 2009....
    i thought it was called prego
  • scipio said on Jun 15, 2009....
    Now that you have figured it all out - just follow the road map with intermittent junction stops to check whether you are on the right track.  Hope all goes well.
    Best of Luck.
  • doortoinsanity said on Jun 15, 2009....
    Congrats!  Baby Java's!
    :-))
  • javadewd said on Jun 15, 2009....
    UF - Like Ragu, it's in there...

    Thanks again everybody. Just to be sure she did another stick test today and it was a bright blue cross, not just the faded ones. We're going to call the witch doctor today, so hopefully they can come away from dubbing reasonably healthy people diabetics for a few moments so that they can declare that she has [at least] one in the oven.
  • alabamagirl said on Jun 15, 2009....
    Ahh, baby java!  or java's.  Congratulations!  
  • hotaka said on Jun 16, 2009....
    Welcome to the parenthood club. It seems you are ready and already thinking about sending your kid to college. Dads. You've got lots to think about. When I first heard my wife was pregnant I felt like cleaning the whole apartment to make a nice home for the baby to come home to, even though I knew we were planning to move before he was born anyway. As for savings, we've been putting aside any money the city gave us in his name and whenever my wife or I get a 500 yen coin (about $5) we put it in a piggy bank (not actually a pig but my wife has a savings tin and I use an old bulk film box). He is now the richest person in the family with about $2,500 worth in yen saved for him and he only just turned one!

    Good luck with all your projects and enjoy spilling the beans (so to speak, I think you already did  that in a way) to the family.

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