• Hegemone said on May 28, 2009....

  Wow Queenie, well, I'm happy that you don't give a damn what all of those pigheaded, egotistical, chauvinist, ass wipes think (no offense to your family ... well, no offense to the part of each of your family members that you love, lol, only to the part of them that thinks its OK to insult you).  You're darn right you should just accept the compliment when somebody says you're beautiful.  You are and it's high time you knew it, accepted it and loved it.  They're the ones who are missing out on so much because they're so fixated on looks.  You'll be having the last laugh by far Queenie.  Let them spend all their time worrying about how you LOOK, you can go on to do other things that are much more worthwhile.  Also, it does really frustrate me that it does not seem a single one of them have brought up losing weight because of HEALTH, only because of vanity.  Either way, it doesn't matter, but damn, at least if your family is gonna be on your ass about it they could worry over that much extra!  Argh, okay, sorry, going on a tangent here, I'll stop now.  Suffice it to say Queenie, yes, you're right, you are beautiful and you better never forget it!  Long live the Queen!  ((((((((((HUG))))))))))

• CayenneMan said on May 28, 2009....

    You're beautiful queenparanoia, I was self conscience about my appearance until I reached my teenage years :o(  .  Once I realized that nobody cared about my antlers it was all smooth sailing from there. 

• fragglesrock said on May 28, 2009....

  qp - you know that i always t hink you are beautiful, inside AND out, but especially out b/c you have some good knockers. ;)  this post just proves how beautiful you really are!

• Twylarants said on May 28, 2009....

  You're beautiful, I've seen pictures of you.  Anyway, you can't believe parents, mine always talked about how tall I was...made me feel like a freak, some kind of Twylazilla monster.
  I'm not even 5'5 for crying out loud!  They were so short they thought I was tall, and I didn't realize how short I was until I was 20-something.  And you know how my father used to introduce his daughters to his co-workers?
  "This is my brilliant daughter, Angela, this is my beautiful youngest daughter, Deborah, and this is Twyla."
    I guess I was so nondescript I didn't warrant an adjective.  But you know what?  I knew I was cute, so poop on him!
  

• uniquely-ironic said on May 28, 2009....

  You are beautiful queenie.  When someone is smart enough to see that and say something to you it's okay to smile and thank them.  What is even more rare about you is that you are beautiful inside as well.

• diabolicdame said on May 28, 2009....

  What a wonderful liberating post queenie!! Yes you absolutely are beautiful! Dont let anybdy tell you who or what you are. Nose job? Are you serious.. thats what she said? Your nose is cute as hell!!  :-)

• Lucytorial said on May 28, 2009....

  Queenie, social standards of beauty can be bought into if you are shallow and like that kind of thing, personal value of beauty will always come down to who you are.
   
  One of my best friends all through school was very very overweight, I'm not talking a little adult chubbiness (which is what you have, you're boddies gonna change again when you hit late 20's) she was damn huge.
   
  You know what, she was the most beautiful person, not just her face, her mind was beautiful, her intentions were beautiful, her thoughts, her friendship was beautiful, she was a beautiful person - that is the standard of beauty I believe.
   

• moonriver said on May 28, 2009....

  hi miss beautiful.
  has anyone told you about your engaging smile?
  apart from trav of course... :-)
  
  

• travelr712 said on May 28, 2009....

   :-)

• wombat said on May 28, 2009....

  I love how your posts always complete a circle of thought and emotion and are dotted at the end with a positive note.  You make me think (and change my way of thinking when I'm feeling down)
   
  I think you are lovely, and a lovely lady.  I don't think anyone told me I was anything at all when I was younger--pretty or not--but then I didn't look all that good until my 20's and 30's, then I started back-sliding the other way.  Ha.  But people can be cruel with comments, whether they mean them or not.  It's great that you know your own self-worth and can see the real (beautiful) you, inside and out!

• doortoinsanity said on May 28, 2009....

  You are beautiful.  I love how you're real.  That's true beauty.

• MsStar39 said on May 28, 2009....

  Queenie, you are Beautiful, so just accept it. When someone says that you are beautiful, they mean it from the heart.

• cntlvmenuf said on May 28, 2009....

  Look at you and your exotic beautiful self! You've realized early on what some women never come to realize, the only beauty standards that matter and apply are the only ones YOU validate. With globalization, the Western beauty standards (the US) seem like they are becoming the world standard. How sad is that?!

• hotaka said on May 28, 2009....

  You know what? I had a girlfriend once whose parents treated her the same way. It was very hard for her. She was bright, had a cute face, had drive and ambition, was actually active and enjoyed some forms of exercise but was overweight. Her parents wouldn't let her be beautiful for all her good points. That she was overweight was the only obstacle to her success in life (meaning finding a husband). I didn't care that she was overweight. As long as we got along well and had fun together and respected each other weight was not a concern. In the end we broke up because her attitude was changing. she was becoming too bitter, too self-loathing, and too much of a bitch to me and my best friend.
  
  Your grandmother is right. In a Western country you would look exotic and many men would think you are beautiful. But as you say, who really cares? What is most important is that you accpet who and what you are and live happily with that. Change what you can, accept what you can't change. Love yourself. A lot of beauty actually shines through from the inside. I see beautiful girls here everyday, slim, fashionable, gorgeous, exotic looking to me, who have such bitchy looking faces. I am not interested. I prefer someone who is real and fun to be with.
  
  Once you are yourself and loving it other people will be attracted to that. Then it doesn't matter what kind of nose you have or how your skin condition is.
  
  My student came.I have to go. Hugs to you, queenP!
  

• queenparanoia said on May 28, 2009....

  hi guys... will comment later... just woke up... mother made me do chores...

  just droppin by to say hi...

  anyway... can't believe you find this beautiful...

   

  

  
   thats what i look like today as i wake up... god i need to brush my hair.... lol...

  be back later to individualy comment on you guys... ;-)
  

  keep on blogging!!!

• Morfo said on May 28, 2009....

   different people prefer different kinds of beautiness but the most important what YOU think about your appearance .... it's you who decide if you are beautiful or not :)

• queenparanoia said on May 28, 2009....

  hegemone: girl you always make me smile... ;-) well i'm the only skinny person in the family so they think they have the right to tease me about my weight... but were okay... ;-)

  cayenne: i agree. it doesnt bother me so i dont care and then nobody will care..:-)

  fraggles: bwahahhahahahha thank you pretty girl...

  twyla: oh i know what you mean... when compare to my sisters i was introduced as the fat one... nice huh??? lol.... ;-)

  uniquely: same to you uni... ;-)

  diabolic: here in our culture they think that having a large and flat nose is ugly but i'm proud of it!!!

  lucy: that is so true... ;-) i'm glad you shared your point of view on beauty.... ;-)

  moonriver: hehehehheh salamat... ;-)

  trav: :-)

  wombat: thank you wombie... ;-)

  doortoinsanity: thank you... ;-)

  msstar: i know that now... ;-)

  cntv: very sad indeed...

  hotaka: oh i think you mentioned her before... the standard of beauty is changing i guess... lol.. thanks hotaka... ;-)

  morfo: thank you... ;-)

   

   

• Goose21 said on May 29, 2009....

   Beauty is indeed in the eye of the beholder. Beauty also comes from within. Being told you are ugly, worthless doesnt do much for your self esteem, especially if its from
  the people who care about you.
  x
  

• GracieLee said on May 29, 2009....

  that picture of you above is really pretty. no kidding. it is. you look a little angry or serious though. i wouldn't just flatter you.

• TheThinker said on May 29, 2009....

  I know most people know the phrase
  '' beauty comes within '' , 
  
  most people misinterpret its actual meaning, but for me
  beauty = understanding
  
  and understanding one another takes time, do you understand queen?
  I think you do.
  
  
  

• Edriisxe said on May 29, 2009....

  Seriously? That is ugly? Thats not ugly. I cant even think of a beautiful enough word. I'm the kind of person who things that anyone is beautiful as long as they are confident. Without this, others will find you to be a nasty person. Now, from what I've read, you are as confident as they come. You have been through a lot with your family. I want you to listen and not care what your parents say. What I mean by this is, they are your parents. Religious or not, you must honor them. Now, am I saying that if they call you ugly, for you to believe them because they are your parents?...absolutely NOT! Never listen to any negative words that people throw at you. No matter who the HELL they think they are. NEVER!

  Believe your words and your words only! And if someone comes up to you and says, "You are beautiful." TAKE IT! I'm not very fat now, but I was gaining a lot of weight at one point because of a heavy depression stage I was going through. Lasted about 2-3 years...maybe more than that, now that I think about it. Anyway, my father is one to be straight with anyone. He told me, "Honey, you're gaining a lot of weight." He even tells my mother, whom is overweight, that she needs to go to the gym. I sometimes feel embarassed for my mother. Just last night, my parents were watching the achievements of the people on Biggest Losers on Opera and my father goes, "Look honey, she looks kinda like you and now shes 125lbs. You can make it." And those people were OVERWEIGHT!

  I was sure my mother didnt find it pleasing because she never says a word when my father talks about her weight. But my father, nonetheless, everyday, hugs my mother and kisses her like she was the only beautiful person in the words to ever exsist.

  Now, the was your family treats you is nothing compared to my parents relationship. No matter your weight, no matter what you think when you look like in the mirror, no matter if you don't look like those people on TV or in the magazines. You are beautiful to God, you should treat yourself and tell yourself EVERYDAY (even if you dont believe it at first) that you are beautiful, and someone out there in the world is DEFINATELY going to find you to be beautiful. It takes confidence, and I see that you've accepted it at the end when you said,

  "next time if someone call me beautiful...

  my answer would be...

  i know... ;-)"

   

  That made me smile!! Keep it up Queen. Believe anyone when they say you are beautiful, never let ignorant people get to you. Keep your head held high. As long as you know you're are beautiful, you will forever reign as a very gorgeous person. No matter how far out your muffin top hangs! =] Cuz we all got it. lol

• queenparanoia said on May 29, 2009....

  goose21: well i'm over the phase where i need people's approval for my appearance. i accepted me for being me... thanks for dropping by... ;-)

  gracielee: thank you... i just woke up when i took that pic thats why i look angry...lol... ;-)

  thethinker: thats so right... and yes i understand... ;-)

  edriisxe; i finnally believe that i am because someone important point it out... thnak you for your words that is so sweet of you. i guess its hard to undo some meotional stuff inside of me but i'm doing something about it... so thank you. youre right beauty is confidence... ;-)

   

• Raindropkisses said on May 29, 2009....

  hehe, queen, nice post...why your mom is like that?..anyway, remember physical beauty is not as good as inner beauty...YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL INSIDE AND OUT...we are all beautiful in our own right...so carry lang...pag may mag compliment, smile because it will make us more beautiful...gwapa gyud ka dai...period!!!

• queenparanoia said on May 29, 2009....

  raindrop. salamt gid... yup my motehr said that and i know she'll deny it... eto smile lang ako sa mga comment nyo... ;-)

• Lucytorial said on May 29, 2009....

  I think its honorable as a person to to want and try hard to have beautiful intentions, a beautiful mind, a beautiful perspective on life and be a good person.  Thats where beauty really shines for me.
   
  Take the cheeky fire monkey for example, he has a beautiful mind, Jo has a beautiful heart, Uni has beautiful intentions, the list goes on.

• travelr712 said on May 29, 2009....

  and i have a beautiful... well, use your imagination ;-)

• queenparanoia said on May 29, 2009....

  lucy: that is so true.... and lucy has a beautiful spirit... ;-)

  trav: bwahahahahhahahhahahahahaha

• MsStar39 said on May 30, 2009....

  That is you just waking up? you are very pretty.

• queenparanoia said on May 30, 2009....

  msstar: yeah it is... thank you... ;-)

• MsBradford07 said on Jun 05, 2009....

  What is beautiful?? You are beautiful. You have to learn how to love you because no one else can do that, but you. I went through that, too. My mother and my grandmother told me I was beautiful, but they always wanted me to lose weight and I had low self-esteem from and as I got to know me, I loved me and told them not to worry about my weight. Right now, I am concern about my weight and I trying to get under control, but I still loved in a size 22 or size 2. 
  
  
  Always remember, to love you.

• queenparanoia said on Jun 05, 2009....

  msbradford: i'll always remember that... ;-)

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