• uniquely-ironic said on May 19, 2009....

  I'm interested in seeing how the men respond.

• fragglesrock said on May 19, 2009....

  i'm with uni on this one, gonna sit back and watch what the men say...

• MsStar39 said on May 19, 2009....

  Well I hope the men show up soon.

• wombat said on May 19, 2009....

  Kind of confused with your comment "I don't think I could handle that."   You are speaking for the man here?
   
  Most of the men I know would be jumping on an invisible trampoline......a woman who wants his fantasy.  He's hoping to see that....
   
   But yeah...if she is willing to get married, he should be just a tad worried.
   
  She might change teams for good, given the chance.  Have her cake and eat it, too?  Never mind...just laughing at that line.......
   
  Please, men.....jump in here.  All I've got is the "Friends" situation with Ross and his ex......Need info!
   
   
   

• Hegemone said on May 19, 2009....

  Well, since I'm a girl I'd have to flip this ... if it were my potential husband wanting to do this with another man ... I don't think I'd be OK with that.  It would just show me that he's not fully committed to me, that somehow I'm not enough for him, and that would eat at me, so there would be no point in beginning a life with a person that I couldn't even feel I was enough for.  I'm never going to live my life for another person, and that definitely wouldn't be the way to do it if I was always doubting whether I was enough.  As for what the men will say ... yeah, I think that'll be interesting to see.

• superbozo said on May 19, 2009....

  Man jumping in here :)
  Couldn't help meself popped in and saw a bisexual title and giggled. Ok have had experience here.
  When I got to australia whirlwind romance and got married. We were so in luuuuurve. A year after getting married wifes twin sister came out as lesbian. Shocked everyone even wifey. Well things started to change in our marrige. We were both beginning to realise that we might have married too quickly I think. (it was the only way I was allowed to stay) Wifey mentioned that she wanted to be with a girl or try it out. Cut a long story short it was decided that we should have a threesome. For a short period it became like a vibrator.....something you would do now and again for fun then back to normal. After a while it became more frequent. Then wifey had a GF who didn't want me involved. The conversation went well maybe I should have a GF too (her suggestion) It basically came to a point where wifey admitted that she prefered being with girls. We had drifted apart in every aspect of our lifes. I think we would have drifted apart even without wifey coming out. She later admitted to fantasisng about girls all her life but her catholic upbringing blah blah.
   
  My ex with to whom princess was born. Well she was bi from the beginning. When princess was born however (or when we got pregnant) we decided that we should settle down together. Be there for one another. No problem. After princess was born ex wanted to be with girls again on her own now and then. I agreed but in short time hated it. If we argued off she would go to her gf. Leaving me with princess this came to a head it's me or her. She picked me but then a whole new load of probs. That lead to us spliting and me having to sell my house.
   
  I think your friend should move on. Being with someone for life is a commitment you make together. Will he be allowed a girlfriend, probably not. If he was bi would she mind if he had bfs. Probably not. Not saying it couldn't work but what are the boundries. If after they get married and she splits from her current gf will she be allowed to find a new gf. Is it just a sexual thing or an emotional attachment thing. I can't see it working in the long term if there is true emotioal attachment. Then there are 3 people in the relationship. When the marrige goes through it's difficult periods will she just run off for emotional/sexual support elsewhere. What will he do then. Go out and get a gf how would she react to that.
   
  Most men love the idea of a threesome, but I know from experience that if theres a 3rd person involved when things get tough it just complicates things even more. He will find there are times when he wants her there with him and shes elsewhere. She will come home moody at him because she has argued with her gf and visa versa. If the gf demands she make a choice will she dump him for her.
   
  In saying that I know a couple that are married with kids. They partner swap and she likes to be with girls also, so now and then they share a single bigirl. They do not however form emotional attachments to them it's just a way to spice up things once or twice a year and they do it together. Not by having someone else on the side. It works for them.
   
  As for me.....no. As a single guy if it was a one nighter 3some thing and both girls are attractive yeah sure. However I really want to find that someone special and I would hope to be special enough to them that they desired no other.

• MsStar39 said on May 20, 2009....

  wombat I am speaking as a woman that had a fiance with a homosexual lover, the answer is no I could not handle it.
  I know that some men might like the thought of being with two women.
  
  Hege that is the the thing that I can't handle,she is letting him know up front that she is not committed to him, it shows that she is not ready to settle down.
  
  SB so glad you are here to give your take on this and to find out that you already experienced it how crazy is that?
  
  Sorry to hear how it ended for you but you did get a beautiful daughter out of the whole mess.
  
  I have always heard that it is every man's fantasy to have a threesome like that
  but It soon get's old because there is no real commitment there to start with.
  
  You said it, it's Ok for a one nighter.
  Thank you for the man point of view and I hope that you find that special one that knows how special you are and have no desire to be with anyone but you.
  

• scipio said on May 20, 2009....

  Enjoy - best of both the worlds.
   
   

• ipmat said on May 20, 2009....

   the thought conjures images that would be pleasurable but call me old fashioned ,i would prefer a girlfriend /wife who would be mine only.i believe that when a commitment is made it should be a commitment whether marriage/friendship because when i give a 1000% i expect 100% .those willing to compromise will end comprising things in life.
  
  

• MsStar39 said on May 20, 2009....

  Scipio, you are not alone in your thinking.
  
  ipmat, I agree, I want full commitment.
  

• wombat said on May 20, 2009....

  I wanted to apologize for my comment that probably made no sense.  I didn't understand the post, I don't think.  And I was just rambling like I am prone to doing.  Another oops on my part maybe?

• MsStar39 said on May 20, 2009....

  Wombat no problems here, thanks for the comment.

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