• madisonluvsex said on May 14, 2009....

  By the way, do any other subs here have a situation where their Master has another friend outside of their relationship?  One that you don't like but have to deal with?

• pusscat said on May 16, 2009....

  Aaw I am pleased for you hun - I can almost feel how happy and excited you are ;-)
  
  My Sir doesn't play with anyone else but I can understand how awkward it would be if I didn't like her.  It all depends too on who was there first.  If he already had that friend and then he met me, i would have to respect that she was his first.  I would do my best to try to get to know her and see if we couldn't maybe get on.  It can be a real bonus to be able to talk to the other girl about worries, insecurities etc.  If my Sir just took on another girl when he was already with me, then that is totally different.  I am an equal partner in our relationship and things would need to be discussed.  When you meet a Dom, it is best to make certain things clear i.e. if a third person is being brought in, you want to be part of that process of choosing them as 2 subs not getting on can be a disaster.  If my Sir rode sough shod over my feelings and the deal we had made then there would be serious implications and I'd have to wonder if i was with the right Dom.
  
  Never be afraid to tell him though how you feel about there being another girl involved.  When there is another sub, it is very easy to get jealous or insecure and the Dom needs to ensure that all his subs feel comfortable and at ease.
  
  Have a wonderful time hun ;-)
  

• madisonluvsex said on May 16, 2009....

  Thank you so much for your comments - I was definately here first - but I'm having a hard time sorting out my feelings about her.  I don't want my dislike to based just in jealousy - she's actually not so bad - just young and kinda rude sometimes is all.  I think I overreacted a bit, now it's awkward trying to get along cause her rudeness and my overreaction is in the way a bit.  Master has been honest with me about her from the start so - no real complaints there I guess.  Though I wouldn't be honest if I didn't admit that I would be happier if he simply dumped her because I want him too.  Just another lesson to learn I suppose - I'll trust my Master to figure out where to go next.

  Thanks again for your input - it's very much appreciated!

• pusscat said on May 16, 2009....

  You are most welcom hun.  Thing is, the Dom doesn't have the right to do what he pleases just because he is the Dom.  Respect has to work both ways.  i only respect a Dom who respects me. When he decided to take on another girl what discussion did he have with you?  Did he ask you how you felt about it?  How much of your feelings and concerns were taken into consideration?  You were his first sub and therefore his first priority. 
  
  If you would still like to work things out with her maybe you could write her a letter and ask your Sir to pass it to her.  Tell her how you were a litte concerned.  Tell her in all honesty that it was not her personally that you were peeved with but the fact that your natural human emotions took over.  You never know, she probably feels exactly the same.  a little jealous and that was why she acted rude.  It may have been a defence mechanism.  After all she had a lot to live up to - his first sub :-)  I think your Sir would be most proud of you if you could resolce the issues.
  
  Never, ever forget though darling, that our Sirs do not have any right to just bring people into play without our opinions being sought after.  Our emotional welfare should be as important to them as our physcial wellbeing.  don't be afraid of upsetting him either with your views and opinions.  I'm sure he doesn't want a dumb doormat for a sub but someone who has a mind of her own who can express her true feelings to him.  Honesty and communication is the key to all relationships not just the BDSM ones.
  
  I hope you continue to have fun and I don't ever mean to overstep any mark or judge your Sir at all, it is just that i know of many subs who believe their Dom has the right to do what he likes.  That is so wrong.  We subs are strong, valuable people who earn respect :-)
  

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