• PAPERBACKWRITER said on May 14, 2009....

  
  I am the quiet child in the corner, that just watches and wishes it would stop.  My child role... My adult reaction, I try to not let it affect me, if I have had enough, I would do the same as you and write out my frustration.
  
  your pisces sistah, always
  
  paper ~
  
  
  

• Hegemone said on May 14, 2009....

  Paper - You know, that really does seem fitting.  Yes, I couldn't take it anymore, things have gone on long enough, and I couldn't stand to hold it in any longer but yet at the same time I don't want to get drug any farther into it.  It's such a thin line.  Thank you for passing through.  (((((((((((((HUGS)))))))))))))))

• uniquely-ironic said on May 14, 2009....

  been here, clueless

• Hegemone said on May 14, 2009....

  Uni - Heh, you're better off that way, duck and cover, lol.  I'm growing more and more nuclear about this as it continues.

• uniquely-ironic said on May 14, 2009....

  Which should I cover?  My ass or my head? LOL
   
  [duck walks away with one arm covering ass, the other covering head]

• queenparanoia said on May 14, 2009....

  when stuff like this happens to my younger siblings i try to be in the middle and be the mature one... it's hard but you have to...

  anyway, has soemthing happen in work today hegemone?

• Hegemone said on May 14, 2009....

  Uni - BWAHAHAHA, just for giving that mental image, you're totally safe, you're granted immunity, LMAO!
  
  Queenie - Yes, and the problem right now with this particular situation is figuring out 'Who's the mature one(s)?'  I can tell you it didn't involve work, but I'm not gonna divulge any further.  This was a much needed outcry.
  

• speaking_up said on May 14, 2009....

  I am in the dark, but I get your point.  When I started a new job recently a lady showing me the ropes told me she didn't like a certain coworker, and that I should stay away from her too.  My intuitive reaction was to beware of the person doing the badmouthing.
   
  Within a week my own gut feelings came to be...the one doing the badmouthing was everything she had accused the person she was warning me about!  It was surreal to watch.  Today I really enjoy the friendship of the targeted one.
   
  I stay away from people who try to sway me to dislike someone.  There is something really creepy about that whole scene.

• mixednuts said on May 14, 2009....

  Now that was a great rant!

• Hegemone said on May 14, 2009....

  Speaking - Yes, it just gets old really quickly and it makes me want to avoid EVERYBODY involved, not just this one or that one.  It also makes me feel weird because if I do continue talking to each person involved, then I fear that at some point I'll get the snappish "OH, well since you like so-and-so so much why don't you just go talk to THEM instead blah blah blah..." speech.  It puts a cap on a friendship quickly.
  
  Mixed - Yes, and a much needed one too!
  

• mOOn_platOOn said on May 14, 2009....

  O
   
  I have NO IDEA who you could be talking about but MAN do they sound childish! What is WRONG with people these days? I hope these morons shape up and stop upsetting my friends. Oops, did I say "morons?" That's inflammatory. I meant to refer to them as chemically challenged.
   
  Thanks for a voice of reason.
   
  O

• speaking_up said on May 14, 2009....

  Hegemone;  well, what I am learning (operative word, learning) to do is to be more observant, and less talkative.  Perhaps in the past I would have empathized, or been a good listener, to the nasty coworker!   I may have been afraid, and tried to stay on her good side...even.   I wouldn't have said anything bad (that's not my nature), but I would not have put a stop to it either.
   
  I have a long way to go, myself.
   
  So, my response was to listen to my gut and stay clear of her (as much as I could).  As the first week wore on, the targeted gal was so friendly toward me (consistently), where as the first gal seemed moody.  When there were a lot of customers she seemed to go into a huge stress mode, yelling out orders to staff (and she had only worked their 4 months), acting like the world was coming to an end.  My new friend, however, helped keep me calm (I was new, afterall) and was a huge help to my training.
   
  One thing the first gal said to me was that her 'enemy' was really bossy, and I should watch out for her.  Now I have been their five weeks, and there isn't a bossy bone in my new friends body!  However, miss moody is the bloodiest bitch I have ever run across in times of stress.
   
  I am fortunate, she called in sick for a week, then the day she was due back she called 10 minutes before her shift and quit. 
   
  Trust your gut, observe, do not engage with people in their negative nasty yak about someone you don't know, and remember the golden rule. 
   
  And, if someone doesn't like you for liking someone else (which is what I think happened in my case), ah well...that kind of immaturity you don't need anyway. 
   
  Hold your head up high.  Always.  *smiles*

• bluegum said on May 15, 2009....

  * smiles*this can't directed at ole lovable me cause i like ole sargent shultz out of Hogans Hero's'' i know nothing ,nothing herr commandant.''shaking head.lol blue

• CreativeWoman said on May 15, 2009....

  I try my best to keep my clothes clean when the mud starts slinging.  :-) 
  
  CW
  

• speaking_up said on May 15, 2009....

  Now I'm confused...?
   
   

• Twylarants said on May 15, 2009....

  I'm the sibling who yawns and walks away because I'm not interested .  My motto has always been "Get a real problem...then I'll care."

• Hegemone said on May 15, 2009....

  Moon - Glad to see you stop in and add your two cents.
  
  Speaking - Thank you much, sounds like you fared well out of your situation as well.  Yes, there is something to be said for keeping to one's self and remembering the golden rule.  A person who will shun another for not getting into the middle of somebody else's mess indeed needs to take a second look at themselves before passing judgment and handing out punishment.  I've removed myself from it so far as I'm concerned, and I'm pretending it never happened.  If things are the same, great, if they're not, well, it's their loss, not mine, if they choose to get hissy pissy and lose me for a friend.  Oh, lol, and don't be confused, no need to.
  
  Blue - Nope, lol, you're in the clear by far!
  
  CW - Good way to be, I, unfortunately managed to be walking by the wrong place at the wrong time and somebody drove through and splashed a whole mud puddle on me, or so it felt.  My dirty clothes are in the dryer now ... mud almost forgotten.
  
  Twy - Ah, the indifferent sibling.  I try to be that way most times, but when it becomes unavoidable, I become that screaming ranting terror (not literally, lol) until somebody STOPS the madness.
  

• Twylarants said on May 15, 2009....

  Heggie ~ Uh huh, that's me.  If I absolutely have to be around it, like in work, and people mistake my indifference and silence for agreement and an invitation to keep whining hour after hour, day after day, about the same stupid shit, I blow up.  "OH FOR CHRIST'S SAKE WILL YOU JUST SHUT THE F**K UP!!!"
  I have little tolerance, no tolerance really, for constant whining by people who just can't seem to let little things go.
  There's a woman at work like that and everybody humors her except me.  Oddly enough, she's nicer to me than she is to those who stroke her ego. Go figure.
  One particular day she was going on and on about how no one works as hard as she does, no one cares as much as she does, everyone was lazy, yada yada yada...
  I told her if she wanted to play martyr she'd have to light the fire underneath her herself and not to look to me for matches.
  "What do you mean?"
  "I mean shut the hell up. No one cares."
  "Oh. Oh."
  "You get it now?"
  "Yes."
  "Good."
   
  

• Hegemone said on May 15, 2009....

  Twy - Yeah, I HATE when people mistake inaction for something else.  I mean, gosh, just because I'm not jumping in YOUR drama it must mean I hate you and think you deserve every horrible thing coming your way, right?  It's amazing also how some people will appreciate those that are truthful to them more so than those who kiss their ass.  At least then you know you are getting the truth, not what you want to hear, so it's not as difficult when things try to come crashing down.

• superbozo said on May 15, 2009....

  i know what this is about.....I agre witj yer

• mOOn_platOOn said on May 15, 2009....

  O

  I must admit, due to the current state of the economy I only put in 1.6 cents.

  O

• Hegemone said on May 15, 2009....

  Bozo - Thank you, glad somebody does ... lol ... if you're thinkin' what I'm thinkin'.  Can't give it away now can I?
  
  Moon - Didn't you know 1.6 cents is the new 2 cents?  Did somebody forget to send out the memo?  Crap!  Lol.
  

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