• PAPERBACKWRITER said on May 14, 2009....

  
  (copy-pasting my comment, for the sake of multi-tasking, des... hope you don´t mind! i would like to follow the discussion here too :) <3)
  
  I watched, and loved this film. It has shades of the elements that fascinated me in my all time favourite film "It... Read More´s A Wonderful Life". Whereas the latter´s message is, you are a success if you have friends, Family guy says you are a success if you have a loving family. :)
  
  I think, after reaching this point in my life, I could say with conviction, I am not materialistic & would choose love.   I am much stronger person when envelope in the warmth of my partner´s and my family´s love that I could pursue my dream. Celebrating eventual career/dream triumph would be much sweeter with them.
  
  Beautiful post.
  
  paper ~
  
  
  

• pusscat said on May 14, 2009....

  This may sound very mushy dd but it really is the truth.
   
  My dream is to be with my darling Sir so I can honestly say I would never leave my love behind to chase a dream.  Whatever we do, we can do it together :-)

• destinydiva said on May 14, 2009....

  "Whatever we do, we can do it together "  I loved this line pusscat:-)
  awww my thoughts exactly !!  it is mushy, but I love mushy!! :-) I hope that you get to be together with your sir as soon as the time is right (((((love&hugs)))) :-) xx
  
  thank you paper :-)
  ... lol dont worry, I copied & pasted too :-) I can be much more honest about my feelings and so much more open and true to myelf with regard to my opinions  here at soulcast than I can in the other world :-)  but it will be interesting to get some opinions from both worlds :-) ..paper, I feel like I am following in your footsteps again :-)  funny how we have done that throughout our time here isnt it :-) I know exactly what your saying and I agree whole heartedly :-) ((((love & hugs))))))  xx
  

• Dauntless said on May 14, 2009....

  The biggest fear I've ever had is that of not being successful.
  
  To me, success isn't measured by how high on the food chain you are in work.
  Nor is it how big your bank account is.
  Money is common, everyone has it, if I really wanted oodles of cash I could easily get it but why? So I can buy junk that I will use once or twice at the most?
  Sure, buying things is nice but if there is no challenge to actually get there, to acheive something that you work hard for what would be the point?
  
  The Family Man strikes a big chord in me. This is real success. After 13 years of marriage they are just as much in love as ever. 2 kids that they adore. A family.
  That is success in my eyes. Not ever having a family before I've always craved it.
  There are lots of films that you could class as "feel good" films, which this is but it's more for me. It shows just what I think is  I loved the scene in the mall, wearing scruffs and strolling round as a family.
  
  I look at it this way. What is the measure of a man?
  I believe the measure of a man is how he is as a person. How he is as a husband and how he is as a father.
  
  I am one of the luckiest men in the world. I have all I have ever wanted in this world. I am successful in it's true meaning. I am completely devoted and dedicated to taking care of my wife-to-be and my kids. I realise just how lucky I am to have a loving wife and 3 gorgeous children. I count my blessings every day I wake up next to you des and I am the proudest father to our children! xx
  
  This film made me see Nicholas Cage in a completely new light and will remain one of my favourite films.
  
  I would also reccommend watching The Family Stone. That is also another great film :)
  

• PAPERBACKWRITER said on May 14, 2009....

  
  Yes, I feel the same way, des!  I wrote already to you before how I found so much catharsis in your blogs 2007 when I was lurking.  I wished I commented, you would have known how much you have helped me!
  
  I am so happy for you and Dauntless *big warm smile*.  It just absolutely warms my heart to "see & share (indirectly!)" your joy together, and with the kids.
  
  Pssst, Piet is a big fan of Nicholas Cage! ;)
  
  paper ~
  
  
  

• Hegemone said on May 14, 2009....

  You know, I've never been in the situation to have to choose so I honestly don't know.  However, as I'm already married and did choose love above school and all that other stuff, maybe that is my answer.  I know at this point in time, I still would stick with the life I have over going away so I can have tons of money and possessions.  I'm just too attached to the people I love I suppose, although, if I knew for certain there was a time limit on how long I'd be gone while making my money and success, I might do it so I could bring it all back for my loved ones and make their lives easier.

• uniquely-ironic said on May 14, 2009....

  Hard to say.  At this point no, but when I was younger, who knows ......

• queenparanoia said on May 14, 2009....

  choose heart first then brain later...

  your dream will always be with you wherever you are... but love... i would choose love...

  i never saw this movie before but now i'm interesteed to watch it... ;-)

  kinda like the movie "17 again" dont ya think? ;-)

• wishyouwerehere said on May 14, 2009....

  I'm going to be a spoil sport here - I left my dreams for the man I loved and he turned out to be a shit, so now, almost 20 yrs later, it's back to my dreams ...
   
  But you know what?  Now that I started typing this, I realized I wouldn't have changed it for the world.  It is what it is - good times and bad, and it has made me who I am today, so in a way, it was worth it!

• diabolicdame said on May 14, 2009....

  Never seen the movie.. but I'd choose heart over brain any day.. I trust my heart more.. logic can sometimes confound instincts.. although I really feel that when you feel right about something in you heart, it will lead you to both you dream and your love. Life doesnt have to be a compromise.

• Brunettebmshell said on May 14, 2009....

  
  
  Entirely in love with this movie. And if you asked me this question a year and a half ago, I would have said my dreams.
  
  
  Now it's a completely different story. Materials are just materials. They can make ya happy for a while, but eventually we get bored and throw them out. Love, true love is happiness. I could be scraping by, living in a mediocre home, driving a mediocre car, and as long as I have the love of my life standing beside me, nothing else matters. Heart over head any day : )
  
  
  
  

• Lucytorial said on May 14, 2009....

  I have always followed my heart, some times it brings wealth with it, but the best kind of wealth it has bought into my world is love, that in itself is pricless.

• travelr712 said on May 14, 2009....

  there's a 1990 movie with the same theme, but from the opposite viewpoint. you'll love the title, "Mr. Destiny". the adam sandler movie 'click' has the same theme. there's also the christmas story 'it's a wonderful life' with jimmy stewart. just thought i'd give you a few suggestions :-)

• fromtheheart said on May 14, 2009....

  I am young and  quite successful and I can say that I am happy but not completely happy- becasue I am still searching for a missing puzzle of my life - and that's LOVE!!! At this very moment if I had to choose between love and career - without a doubt - I will choose love!!!!

• gingersoul said on May 14, 2009....

  Des.......i left my dream job as journalist, my dream house, my dreamed future to follow my heart 13 years ago. My choice brought me, here from Italy, in another country...doing a job i would have never done if would have remained in Italy...facing situations that i wouldn't have to face ..
  I followed my heart..
  I had no choice..
  
  Now that dream is over..the man left..i moved on....but i wouldn't do differently..
  
  Have i learned a lesson? Am i following my heart again, despite that bitter experience?...
  My heart is a stubborn child, Des......as much as i try to teach him some sense he smiles at me and says:
  "Follow me"
  
  And I go....:-)
  

• Me-Myself&I said on May 14, 2009....

  my dream in life for myself is to have a working farm, living off the land. to make that dream Perfect, all i need is a "good" man. so, i can have my cake and eat it too by finding someone who wants the same....lol. hey, it's my dream. *smile*

  my heart always rules my head!

• dreamloser said on May 14, 2009....

  it realy is a good movie. but my thing is when your so in love that you think your soul mates or whatever, you tend to alter your dreams or build dreams together... i'd have to say in this i don't know what i'd have done. you'd like to think you can have it all! an that after than year, you would still be together!

  i like to think i can have it all one day, but i know in the end i would choose love. because that kind of love really only comes round once.

• Fallyn said on May 14, 2009....

  i'd definitely go for love over things. it's just who i am.
  i'd rather live in a shack up in the mountains with someone who i truly loved and who truly loved me than have a million dollars. or even a billion dollars...i think i've said this before.
   
  i remember in that movie that he found out in the "glimpse" that he had gone to london.....and had flown back later....he didn't stay for her.....he came back because he realized how much he needed her.

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• GrapeKoolaid said on May 15, 2009....

  Once.  Just once I'd like to know what it's like to follow my brain.  By some accounts, it's not too shabby of a one at that. 
  
  But alas...  Too bad I'll never know what that's like... 
  
  This brings up an interesting point for me.  It appears to me that the idea of following one's heart seems to be connected to the amorphous idea of fate, predestination or destiny (you?) while following one's brain/intellect/life plans/goals denote a connection to human will (supposedly free in some context, though I contest that the will is bound by many things like faith, culture, et al.)
  
  So are we just marionettes dancing as the strings are pulled?  Is all the world a stage, like Shakespeare claims?  Dreaming that we can all be real boys and girls if we believe hard enough? 
  
  Well...  I guess some parts are made of wood anyways.  ;)
  

• destinydiva said on May 15, 2009....

  dauntless :-) you are the family guy in his full glory :-) your everything that I admired in nicholas cage in the film :-) I like how you measure a man :-) uinfact , I think I may write a post about it :-) ..the family stone we'll defo have to watch :-) I love you xxx
  
  paper :-) I hope you get to share the day with us in real time :-)
  ((((((((((((((hugs))))))))))) xxx
  
  hege :-)  it sounds like you did it already :-) you chose love :-) but I understand what your saying, leaving each other for a short set period of time for a definite amount of money that would help you out maybe worth considering, for me it is a bit like working on christmas day, (for those that choose too, not those that have no choice but too)  you may get paid a load of money...  but is it worth missing that special day? especially with little kids, I wouldnt do it for all the money in the world, it isnt the money, or the amount of presents, or the value of presents, its sharing the day together as a family and no amount of money for me, is worth sacrificing that one day of the year :-)  geez.. I went off on one didnt I then..we not even talking about christmas!! lol :-) thanks for your comment hege :-) xxx
  
  unique :-) hellooo :-)  I think, if you were swept of your feet and fell head over heels in love, you'd choose love without a doubt :-)  xxx
  
  queenieP :-)  i've never seen 17 again, but now I'm curious to watch it :-) I think you will love family guy!!!  I'm with you queenieP.. love first! always :-) xxx
  
  wish :-) aww I'm sorry it didnt work out, but sooo glad to read you feel it was still worth it :-) taking a chance, even if it doesnt work out the way you imagined I think, is better than always wondering..what if.. dont ya think?  :-) xxx
  
  DD :-) great comment!! :-) I trust my heart/instincts more than logic too :-) and I just love that...  "life doesnt have to be a compromise" :-) thanks dd xxx
  
  
  brunette :-)  hey you :-) it's been awhile since I have seen ya around here :-) your comment makes me guess you found the love of your life in the last year or so? :-) I'm grinning from ear to ear for ya :-)  ..nothing else matters.. thats something dauntless and I say a lot... it is sooo true, it doesnt matter what life throws at us.. and life does throw shit even when your head over heels in love :-)  love doesnt take it all away, but with your love by your side..  anything can be overcome :-)  I agree with you completley :-) thanks for stopping by xxx
  
  lucy :-) heeeeelllooooo :-)  yeah!! love is priceless :-)  and ya know, I have seen this, in books, in movies and in real life...  following your heart does usually bring greater wealth.. and doesnt always have to quash your dreams.. there are ways around everything :-) like in the film, he gave up his dream.. but 13 years later, his dream still came alive.. and he was wealthier from choosing love than he was choosing his dream.. in the love sense that you said not money :-) thanks lucy xxx
  
  trav :-) I love wonderful life, it's one of my favourite films :-) and I enjoyed click too, I havn't seen mr destiny.. but yeah, his name makes me wanna watch it :-)
  ..but you didnt answer the question..  xxx
  
  welcome to my blog fromtheheart :-)   I hope that you find that missing puzzle piece soon, as the age old tradition says..it snaps up and bites ya on the ass right when you stop looking for it :-) ...  but I have to say..it is hard to stop looking for it by choice, in my experience,  I didnt stop, but rather reached a point where I was content enough without it..and thats when it came along :-) thanks for stopping by :-) xxx
  
  ginger :-)  that comment was beautiful to read :-)  you have such a way with words :-) I understand to some extent how wrong it went following your heart the first time,(the heartache, and hard times, the bitter times...I read about them and felt a lot of the emotion)  but, you came out of it a stronger, wiser person, it made you the person you are today, you have a beautiful young lady brought to you from that decision, and Italy will always be waiting for you :-) it just makes me admire you all the more that you are still prepared to follow your heart :-) it's not about being stubborn or learning a lesson I dont think, it's more about taking a chance, I dont think because it didnt work it was the wrong thing to do, I think you did it in the first place and wether it worked out or not..you took the chance and you will  again,  your one special lady miss gingesoul!  :-) xxx
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  
  

• fromtheheart said on May 15, 2009....

  thanks for the warm welcome- yup I agree.. I am happy being single and enjoying the journey to my well deserved love.. ;)

• travelr712 said on May 15, 2009....

  you're right, i didn't des, because you already know the answer.

• destinydiva said on May 15, 2009....

  from the heart :-) good for you :-) xxx
  
  trav, I meant present/future  not past xx
  
   
  

• travelr712 said on May 15, 2009....

  well, in the past, i've done both, so i guess as always, it would completely depend on the circumstances. i very nearly did give up everything the last time i was faced with this situation, more than once over a year's time. but in the end, i didn't. i have my regrets about it, but also in the end, i believe i made the right choice. in that situation, there was one particular thing that had been a deep seated goal of mine for decades, and i would not have been able to finish achieving that goal ever again had i stopped, and i still believe that it would have been lost to me forever. 9 months from now, that goal will be achieved. i don't see being put in the circumstance of having to make that same choice in that time, so if i am ever faced with it again, it will be a very easy one. i would go in a hot second!

• destinydiva said on May 15, 2009....

  memy :-) I truly hope your dream comes true, you deserve it memy, you really do!!  :-) xxx
  
  dreamloser :-) yeah, thats a nice way of putting it, you do build dreams together :-)
  It would be great to have it all but life never works that way does it :-)  I hope you find it soon DL :-) xxx
  
  fallyn :-) helloooo  :-) yeah, in the glimpse he came back, it makes my tummy go all awwww :-) lol
  love means so much more than materialism doesnt it, when your with your true love it doesnt matter where you are :-) xxx
  
  huang :-/  noo I dont want a watch thanks!! you could have at least answered the question if your gonna be cheeky enuf to advertise on my post ;-)
  
  grape :-) helllooo stranger :-) ..I'm gonna come back and try and understand your message later when I'm not sooo stoned :-) ....saaaaaaay whaaaaaaat??  lol :-) xxx
  ps..  the whole worlds a stage thingy, that would make a great post..you should write it!! :-)  I do think the world is a stage, we each make our own reality, and our own choices, but I think there is something bigger than life watching over and maybe directing us on to the right path, ever noticed how true love finds itself only when the time is right..   I believe fully that if it happens, its meant to be, if it doesnt its just not time yet.. mabe there are more lessons to be learnt... so I dont see it as we are just puppets on a string, but I do think we are guided in some way.. :-) thanks for stopping by grapey :-) xxx
  

• destinydiva said on May 15, 2009....

  well trav, I strongly believe everything happens for a reason 

• travelr712 said on May 15, 2009....

  well i guess one way to look at it is that we make our choices for a reason, whether we understand that reason at the time or not, so in that way, it would follow that everything happens for a reason :-)

• GrapeKoolaid said on May 17, 2009....

  Pot? 
  
  Nice to meet you. 
  
  -Kettle-
  
  :D
  

• andora said on May 17, 2009....

  a brain out of touch with its own heart joins into a lethal agreement with its body.
  
   - Paul Pearsall
  
  in a best case scenario the brain, heart, body and will all agree to create an aligned existence. Until then, we get fractal loneliness and defensiveness, which is boring to say the least
  
  
  

• Voltaire said on May 18, 2009....

  If the gal is worth it, then yes. Other wise, no. Straight forward and simple.
  I'm selective when it comes to gals, but most likely she's a good one on the movie; as usual right? :-)
   
  Later,
  Voltaire

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