• uniquely-ironic said on May 11, 2009....

  nice sentiment and unfortunately like the real world people squabble here.

• fromtheheart said on May 12, 2009....

  I don't know.. but I am also new in SC but everyone is welcoming and it feels like family here...

• travelr712 said on May 12, 2009....

  some of us have been here and posting nearly every day for a very long time. myself for nearly 2 years, uni even longer. when you spend that much time around some other people, cyberspace or not, you form relationships. over the years, i've seen a lot of people come, get immensely popular, and then leave. i also happen on people now and then who have been here for awhile, but they don't comment on other people's blogs, so no one knows they're here, there's just too many pages. and yes, there's the occasional tiff, there's even been a few all out wars in the halls of sc, you shoulda seen the sparks fly! but at the end of the day, the dust settles, people go back to blogging about what they like, reading and commenting to who they wish, and sc goes on. i guess that's why i'm still here.

• speaking_up said on May 12, 2009....

  I'm new here too, and have already been assaulted with unnecessary words.  But, I am not new to cyber forums and realize it is all part of the game. 
   
  There will always be people who will try to push your buttons, and then there will be others who are living out a horrible personal existance, and have the need to dump their rages and anger on others...behind the screen where no one can see them.  These people are called cyber bullies.  I just try to stay away from them, and certainly not take it personal.
   
  I enjoy a good debate on many subjects, but when it gets personal to the point of hurting, I just slowly back out of the room.  Not the building, just the room.
   
  Just like in life, not everyone will like me.  And I don't like everyone.  I do try to respect everyone, however.  Who knows what is going on in their life?  I wouldn't be happy if I thought I was making a miserable person even more miserable.
   

• anonymous said on May 12, 2009....

  If you don't agree with the clique, you'll get shunned.  Truth.

• speaking_up said on May 12, 2009....

  No, I'd only be shunned by the clique (whoever they are, I still do not know); there are many in here who have no interest in making best friends, but simply like to blog and debate, and pass a few kind words on from time to time for socialization.
   
  I was never in the 'clique' in high school, and looking back I am proud of the stand I took in not being a blind follower.  It means that today I do not need to depend on the group to survive.  I am human, and enjoy friendliness and compassion; but I won't compromise my views to hang onto people I do not even know!

• travelr712 said on May 12, 2009....

  is there a clique here? if there is, how does it work? i mean, when there's a clique in a high school or an office or a church, those people get together outside that environment, such as for lunch or for a trip or whatever, and don't invite or accept those outside the 'regular members' of that group to participate. but how would that work here? you 'get shunned' by whom? this or that person doesn't read or comment on your post so you're 'shunned'? and who are these people involved in this 'clique'?
   
  there are some people who have been writing and commenting on this site for years. some of those people regularly make the 'front page', some of them are unknown by most. there are some people who are relatively new that fit those same categories.
   
  there are some people here who regularly make the 'front page'. they do this because several different people comment on their posts. the way sc works is that the more different people view and comment on your post, the higher it rises, that's something nobody but the programming controls. it's the same for everyone. people like fragglesrock, hegemone, uniquely-ironic, they regularly make the front page because, if you notice, they subscribe to hundreds of users here, and they comment on dozens of users posts every day. if you comment on allot of different people's posts all the time, allot of those people are going to subscribe to and comment on yours. you'll regurlarly be on the front page. you'll seem popular in an environment like this. you'll eventually make good, long lasting cyber friendships if you stay around. that's simply human nature.
   
  now, there's another way to get to the top of the list regurlarly it's something i suggested to a former user over a year ago, and mixednuts picked up on and does very well. you create a dozen alts, you write a post, and then you sign on to those alts and comment on your own post. shoots you right up to the top. look at the time stamps on his posts when he makes the middle of the front page. usually within an hour or less. look at everyone else's, 4 or more hours. look at the time stamps of the first 6 or 8 users on those posts. all within a few minutes of each other, and a few minutes after he made the post. now compare that with the time stamps of anyone else's posts. look at those first 6 or 8 users. they comment immediately on his and you very rarely see any of them comment on anyone elses. pretty obvious to see that mixednuts manufactures their own popularity, which is exactly what i laid out 2 months before he suddenly appeared with all these other new users who had no posts on their blogs. you could do that too, and look like you're popular to someone who's not paying attention.
   
  there's no clique on sc. there are some people who regularly read and comment on each other's posts. if you don't want to feel like you're 'being shunned', comment on allot of people's posts, you'll make some friends, they'll comment on yours, you'll have your own 'clique', and you'll make the front page regularly, if that's what you're after.

• auroralost said on May 12, 2009....

  Hmmm I'm not sure if there are really clique's or not as I have not yet to experience it..........but perhaps I am oblivious.  I often am.  Ok, you all are right people are going to fight, argue and act crappy to one another just as much here as in real life.  I just saw someone say to another that there post was pointless and childish.  I thought to myself, self isnt the point to write about what you want here..........the crazy part is I answered too.........why yes it is.   Ok so I was drinking at the time, it happens.  Ok, I guess sometimes people will be harsh critics and I will just say ah......there they go again and move on. 

• travelr712 said on May 12, 2009....

  there've been some all out wars on this site aurora. the last one started in september of 2007 and lasted until february of 2008. not that there was a fight every day, but it was ongoing. and there were effects. if you look at the front page, you'll see that the bottom post usually has between 2 and 4 comments. imagine this site when it took a minimum of 12 different people commenting on your post to make it to that bottom slot. the top post regularly had between 35 and 50 comments, and quite often had over 100. the price of those 'flame wars' was that 3/4 of the members left, which was the design of the person that started and continued them. the people who are still here mostly stayed out of the fray, and are somewhat leary of all that starting back up again. that's why some of them get a little upset when controversies brew, and i fully understand their view. i however, am one of those who've been here for a long time, and don't mind controversy. i know it'll blow over quickly, and it keeps the site from getting really stagnant, which it did for several months after the last war. that also caused allot of people to leave, it got boring.

• wolfafterurazz said on May 12, 2009....

  Lifes too short to fight with people your never going to meet.........turn the other cheek and move on. WOLF

• anonymous said on May 22, 2009....

  Every notice how it's always the people who are part of the clique who deny its existence?
  

• UnicornForm said on Jul 26, 2009....

  Amen aurora.
   
  yes anon.

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