• beyondtheveil said on May 10, 2009....

  lioness- Neither myself or my wife had to bring our kids to work, our day care center always had someone there. But I don't understand why you think there is shame in having to do what you did. Its not shameful at all, you do what you have to do. 

• Lioness said on May 11, 2009....

  thanks beyond, I wish there were more day care centers here.. It's really unusual that babies are brought to work. And I never really thought I'd do that someday. 

• RollingC said on May 11, 2009....

  I also don't think you did anything wrong Lioness....it's a shame that your building or company is not big enough to have it's own daycare center for the employees.
  Many do around here and many daycares have caught on and opened up on or near an office building complex.
  Rc

• PAPERBACKWRITER said on May 11, 2009....

  
  I think it is cool, that you could do it in the company where you work, Lioness.  Some very established corporations in Germany have their own day care within the company (for babies & toddlers!). When I first heard of it, I thought it was an ideal set up for parents (particularly for working mothers) to have their children in the "proximity".  This is a very rare though.  (I had this tab open for so long, lol doing stuff in between... but I read in another tab that RC mentioned the same thing in the US)
  
  I am still getting acquainted with the system here in the Netherlands, but I have heard so far that they are one of the family friendly country, which is a member of the Eurpean Union.
  
  3 years ago, when I went back to work, an entrepreneur (she was in real estate before she decided to change career) convinced me to join the private English school for children she was setting up.  Our agreement was that my two girls (6, and 3 years old then) could stay in the school while I teach my classes.  In return she pays for my training, and I would work for her exclusively for 2 years.  I finished the training successfully, but she did not keep her end of agreement.  She changed her mind about my girls being in the school.  I felt misled because I would not have accepted the job if I could not bring my girls because it would be counter productive for me to work and pay for daycare, which will be more than what I would be earning!  I blogged about this, it makes me still sad when I recall it.
  
  But everything happens for a reason, I realised again in hindsight.
  
  Again, I think you are great that you did not hesitate to bring your child at work, and the company was agreeable to the arrangement. :)
  
  paper ~
  
  
  

• Lioness said on May 11, 2009....

  Thanks  RollingC, as a matter of fact, I doubt if there are any company/building who have day care centers. If there happens to be, those would be the very large corporations. I envy very progressive countries like yours. They give importance to working employees/parents.
  
  Thanks Paper, "ideal setup", that is the very appropriate term for it. So far, the boss welcomes the idea of me bringing her to work rather than me taking a special leave. Come to think of it, he might have thought it's more practical, although we don't have a designated place for kids here, only a temporary one, but it's good enough.
  
   I am sorry for that experience. Yeah, God had a better plan for you that's why that happened.
  

• superbozo said on May 11, 2009....

  Don't be ashamed of taking your child with you to work. Sometimes you just have to do what you have to do.
  I have not taken my girl to work with me. I work construction and it's too dangerous. However my father used to drive trucks for a while when I was 11-13 and I loved nothing better than school holidays and sitting up in that truck with my Dad. It changed our whole relationship with one another. Because we got the time to be together and there was nothing to do but talk on those long trips.

• fromtheheart said on May 11, 2009....

  I am not married yet but I have experienced that... I brought my 1 year old nephew at work, yup a year old- with that age you need to give full attention -  it was a very hard day for me as I had to double work as a nanny of my nephew and as an employee of my company but I really enjoyed it.

• uniquely-ironic said on May 11, 2009....

  I have a long history of bringing my children to work.  When my daughter was born I worked from home with trips out to clients which meant that the kids came too.  They came with me to work on occaision at the ER and at many of the medical offices I have worked at.  My daughter comes to work with me now when she's visiting.  I think it's good for kids to see their parents "in action" at work.  They get to know what it is that their parents do to earn the money that supports them and in my opinion they learn to respect that their parents are multi dimensional.

• Hegemone said on May 11, 2009....

  I bet that's got to be so difficult because I know there are many employers that can't or won't allow that sort of stuff, either because of safety or because they're jerks.  I bet it brightens your work day just a little bit, doesn't it?  I don't have children, but honestly, if I did and if the situation came up, I'd have no qualms about bringing my child in if I needed to.  I mean, they either get me and my child and get the work done, or they get neither of us and no work done.

• MsStar39 said on May 11, 2009....

  It's so nice to be able to bring your baby to work, very few places allow that.

• secretlife said on May 11, 2009....

  i like that your company lets you bring your baby to work.

  where i worked, mine would not allow it, and i'd be forced to take sick or vacation time whenever one of my kids got sick.

• gingersoul said on May 11, 2009....

  Lio.....my company allows mothers and fathers to bring their kids at work. I see often little fellas walking around, one mom was even changing diapers on top of her desk..lol..
  
  We are having three baby showers next week....i am sure we will see all these babies popping around soon or later.
  Some kids are quiet, some are not. But its ok.
  
  I brought my daughter to show her my office one day ...she was so impressed by my desk and my nice computer, and that we had to swipe my security card to use the elevator...lol...
  
  It gives us working parents some pride and to our kids an opportunity to see the real world in which we spend so many hours of our days.
  
  So, don't feel guilty at all. You are doing the best that you can. {{hugs}}
  

• fragglesrock said on May 11, 2009....

  i used to work in a very small medical office and my boss allowed me to bring my son in 1/2 day 3 days a week. my son was in kindergarten at the time.  it was awesome of him to allow that :)  no need at all for guilt!

• queenparanoia said on May 11, 2009....

  awww that is cute ate lioness... ;-)

  pakialam nila... babae ka... besides youre not disturbing anyone so who cares!!! ;-)

• wishyouwerehere said on May 11, 2009....

  One of my coworkers brings her little guy in from time to time - I personally love it!
   
  It sounds like your coworkers got a charge out of that gummy little smile also - how sweet!

• speaking_up said on May 11, 2009....

  Why is this post called shame?
   
  I admire mom's who know how to get the job done.  A real woman.

• gingersoul said on May 11, 2009....

  Well said, speaking up.....:-)

• Raindropkisses said on May 11, 2009....

  thats a good gesture than being absent from your work..i tried this also several times before...a salute to a great mom...

• Lioness said on May 11, 2009....

  Hi superbozo, you’re right, I had to do that out of necessity. I feel more at ease when I know that my child is safe (right beside me). Your time with your dad must’ve given you the chance to strengthen the bond. I remember when I used to go to my mom’s employee lounge at work (she was a hotel cook). It was cool.
  

  
  

  Hi fromtheheart, I agree, it must’ve been a big courage for a one year old to be brought to the office. In fact, my other officemate assists me once in a while. I am sure you’d make a good mom someday. 
  

  
  

  My salutations. I agree unique, parents are role models.I bet that gave them an idea of what they want to become when they are old enough to work.
  

  
  

  It’s not easy Hegemone, but yes, having her with me, just a glimpse away somehow eases the worry. They must make a wise decision in that regard. :)

  
  

  I must be one of the lucky ones MsStar. Majority of my co-workers have children, so somehow they understand my situation. I hope time comes when all offices would have a place for babies and toddlers too.

  
  

  Hmm, imagine how many leaves that would take. If I had a choice, I’d love to always bring her to work, secret. But I guess the boss won’t allow it because my job is not only confined within the office corners..but once in a while is enough than not at all.

  
  

  Hi ginger, I could imagine that scenario in your office. I do that too, but close the cubicle door first. LOL. Our office is lucky she is the quiet type, I would not want to know what to do if she cries and whines a lot. Gag her perhaps? Haha.. I bet your daughter has an idea now where she wants to spend so many hours of her time someday. :D

  
  

  I hope I’d have a boss like that when she reaches that age fraggles. They just don’t know how much help they give by allowing us to bring our kids to work.
  

  
  

  I wish I had that attitude queen, it’s good though that the boss insisted I’d bring her to work once in a while. Mahirap kasi umabsent ako sa trabaho, maraming nadedelay. Today, she was left at home and everyone keeps asking where she is.
  

  
  

  You are so right wishyouwerehere, yes, they scream in delight whenever she smiles. She seems to be a very sociable baby.

  
  

  Hi speaking_up, I guess I should change that title. Thank you for your kind words.

  
  

  Raindropkisses, cute username. That’s what the boss is thinking the reason why he allowed me to bring her to work. I bet you know the feeling. I salute you too.
  

  
  

   

  Thank you so much for dropping by and sharing your thoughts!

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