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the comparison just isn't fair

HeavenSentHalo posted on May 04, 2009 | views: 94 | Tags: Affairs, relationship, adultery, Married Woman Cheating sex
ok, it's monday morning.. i didn't get a chance to meet the guy this morning cause i have an appt , so i think we are going to walk either at lunch or after work.  my anniversary was this weekend and my husband and I did a 'staycation'.  the whole time, i think i emailed the guy like 10 times while we were out. my husband of course asked me who i was texting, and i said the babysitter, which was true, i just added some time in to email the guy,
 
so i don't know if it's fair or not to compare my feelings for the two guys.  i know 'the guy' reads this blog, so i will be careful with the words i choose, but i'll keep it  real.  i had fun with my husband and really enjoyed the time. i think if we play it right, it could really be the beginning of fixing things that are wrong with our relationship, but at the same time there are a lot of things wrong with our relationship. 
 
On the other hand, i couldn't stop thinking about how t hings would have been if i was spending time with the guy.. for example, when me and the hubby went to the movies - i know the guy would have leaned over and kissed me a few times during the previews - my husband and i sat beside each other like friends for the most part. 
 
and now the juicy part - when we did do what married people do - i was doing most of the 'serving' which sucks cause i'm not the kind of person to ask for something (i guess that's my fault) but i thought at least he would try serving me up for a time but that didn't happen.  so of course i'm like when i'm with 'the guy' he's always concerned about me having an orgasm first.... so i didn't have an orgasm on my anniversary weekend - doesn't every woman want a man to just take control of the situation.. and the next morning i couldn't even get wet enough to have sex -  so while i was trying to mentally get to that point my husband has his orgasm and that was that for me.
 
so i know my relationship with the guy is way beyond sex, it's the friendship and the fun and me being attracted to him... so now i'm like but i did have a good time with my husband ..  but maybe i thought about the guy way too much over the weekend.
 
 


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  • simplyme77 said on May 04, 2009....
    What a tangled web we weave.  As a woman, I know that I have a hard time separating my emotions from sex.  Sounds to me as if you're becoming emotionally attached to "the guy".  Be careful hon. 
  • T's_Pet said on May 20, 2009....
    Wish I could advise you but I'm in much the same place.  Awesome, Hot, I cannot wait for it SEX with my lover and good friends with my husband.  It's a tough situation and SO MANY of us are in it. 
     
    I think my husband and I just ignore our problems - most of the time, they are liveable so we just live, just exist, usually without too much drama. 

    Of course, part of the attraction to the other guy has to be that you don't deal with the daily crap - you don't know if he takes out the trash, or looks at other women, or works too much or any of the stuff wives deal with.  You get HIM, basically on vacation time - when you are focused, relaxed, and can enjoy it.  I know that is the case for me.
     
    It is tough when you get emotionally involved but find me a woman who doesn't . . . Wish we could have sex like men - just do it and then not have all the emotions that go along.
     
    I enjoy your posts - relate to much of what you say.
     
    T's_Pet
  • I_have_an_opinion said on Jun 04, 2009....
    where has the husband gone wrong....as humans we try to please our significant other but on our terms not on thiers ...... your setting him up for failure to look elsewhere also....if he feels there is no spark and no interest from you someone will give him the same attention you are giving the guy.....round and round until the truth surfaces and ends up ugly....If you left everything today for the guy would he do the same .....and under the circumstances you met do you think you both will trust each other if you do end up together....I have been with a married woman before and to her it was purely physical and I was the one to get attached....the more time you spend with each other the harder it will be to be apart...

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