• queenparanoia said on May 01, 2009....

  wow... she had him arrested??? although if i were him i would stop bothering my mother if she didnt want me then fine... i'll go to my mother who raised me...

  this is just sad...

• CayenneMan said on May 01, 2009....

          It's a sad situation for all involved including the judge who signed the arrest warrant. Sometimes life is pathetic. It a shame he was brought into this world to one day face this reality but it happens. I don't know the whole story but his mother didn't want him around and he should have excepted that. I know that sounds cold on my part but there was no other choice, this was bound to happen. It sounds like his mother is really wrapped up in her own life and has no time for others regardless if it's her own son or not.
       Without knowing all the facts, it would be wrong for me to second guess her action. I do think it's sad she took it that far, but we have to except it. I think she has a heart of stone, something happened in her past to make her this way, I just don't know what.
     If I was Joe, I probably would have done the same thing . I wonder if Joe will keep his distance when he gets out ?
  

• Hegemone said on May 01, 2009....

  At first I'd be shocked, and then I'd be pissed, because whoever would have given me up gave me to the people I call my parents, namely, my asshole father.  Then I would need answers as to how the people/person who gave me up could be so much worse than my dad.  THEN I'd demand answers of the people I grew to knew as my parents.  At that point, I have no idea what else would happen, as it would probably depend on what else I found out.

• uniquely-ironic said on May 01, 2009....

  That is one very soulless woman.  She carried him for 9 months, so I find it baffling that she could have him arrested for stalking.  His real parents are the couple who took him into their hearts.

• MsStar39 said on May 01, 2009....

  Queen I was shocked that she had him arrested but he should have accepted that she did not want him in her life.
  
  CM I agree he should have accepted the fact that she didn't want him around, all mothers that gave up their kids for adoption does not want to be found.
  She really has a heart of stone and i hope that Joe will keep his distance when he gets out.
  
  Hege I think he was very hurt to find out that his real mother wanted no contact with him. At least he was adopted by people that loved him.
  
  Uni you are right, I agree that the people that raised him are his real parents, I am sure that he will accept that now and go on with his life.
  
  

• fragglesrock said on May 01, 2009....

  what a shocker that would be.  talk about messing someone up in the head with the arrest thing. 

• Brunettebmshell said on May 01, 2009....

  
  
  This is just simply awful....
  
  
  To feel unwanted and unloved by someone who birthed you.... couldn't even imagine. This is very sad and makes my heart hurt : (
  
  
  
  

• woman said on May 01, 2009....

  Adoption is a tricky thing but I'm grateful for it. I have 4 children, 3 through adoption. I tell them, and I believe it, that they all came to me through God. The child that was 10 when he/she arrived, had memories and went to visit birth mother. Was welcomed, but by a woman who had so many problems my child knew enough to leave. It was good closure for themand I'm glad they went. Others have had no interest but I would support it. Whatever makes them happy.

  I'm sure the rejection hurt this young man but as an adult he needed to cut his losses and embrace his blessings. This certain didn't enrich his life.

• simplyconfused said on May 01, 2009....

  One of my friends is adopted. He doesn't talk about it much, but when he does he just wonders. He was adopted when he was 3 years old, and had memories of foster homes and such. His parents used to lie about his mother to him so he would stop asking questions which, honestly pisses me off so much. I know that if he did try find his real mother, he would just want answers to his questions and that is that, I can't say he would make her a big part in his life.
  I think that this man was just desperate for these answers. I can understand that. I don't think this woman should of brought it as far as arrest, but I think the man should of perhaps sent her a letter. Maybe he did and she didn't answer. Either way, I think she is more in the wrong, the least she owes him is some closure. I think that's all he wanted and needed. I feel great sympathy for this man.

• MsStar39 said on May 01, 2009....

  fraggles you can imagine how this messed his head up, he did not want to accept the fact that his own mother wanted nothing to do with him.
  
  Brunette this story really saddens me also, it's like i can feel his pain.
  
  Woman it's  wonderful that you have  raised three adopted children. I can imagine that it makes them feel loved when you tell them that they are a gift from God. I think that it is important that they know early that they were adopted. It's good that the 10 year old did get to meet his mother, I think that maybe if Joe had gotten to meet his birth mother sooner , he might have been able to accept the rejection and got closure sooner.
  
  SimplyC. I think that she went to far in having him arrested but i guess that he would not accept that she wanted nothing to do with him.
  She was an attorney and her career meant more to her then her son.
  

• woman said on May 01, 2009....

  Maybe his mother knew she didn't have it in her to be a mother. It's the love and the raising that makes a real mother. Giving birth is a wonderful experience if you want the baby. It doesn't guarantee feelings of motherhood. I hope he can find some peace.

• wolfafterurazz said on May 01, 2009....

  I found out I had a sister when I was 35. I met her too! It was some kinda weird but it's all good, we get together every now and then. My mom is great with it, she is from my dads side from before they got married .......I think.........scratching my head and counting. Joking WOLF

• MsStar39 said on May 01, 2009....

  Woman that is a very good thing to remember, that just because you carried a child for nine months does not guarantee feelings of motherhood.  I hope that he will find peace also. it's probably something that he will carry with him always.
  
  Wolf that is amazing to meet a sister at 35. LOL about the joke of you counting,
  Makes me think about the song Daddy was a rolling stone, not in your case of course,but there are families like that,
  

• travelr712 said on May 02, 2009....

  yeah, that sounds like a lawyer.

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