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Jealousy,the green eyed monster rears its ugly head.

Jealousy means "resentful and envious" of someones else
achievement or success.

Jealousy has a lot to do with how we feel about ourselves
and how confident we are.

A lot of jealousy start as children, thinking that a mother loves
one brother or sister more them them, or a grandmother shows favor to one
child more then another.In some cases this is true and nothing hurts more.
 I meet adults that still carry the pain of feeling second best.

The jealousy sometimes is over a job promotion that someone
got that you knew you deserved. Your best friend wears a size
two and you wear a size twelve.

Your next door neighbor bought a Jaguar and you are still driving the old car that your parents gave you.your sister just bought a vacation home and you are still renting an apartment.

There are many times that others seem to be able to do more and have more and the
 little green monster will once again rear its ugly head.

How jealous are you?



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  • queenparanoia said on Apr 30, 2009....

    i get jealous now but it concerns more about love...

    i use to be jealous of someone else's appearance. i do sometimes but not that much... i gues i'm still growing up and i need to work on this...

  • gingersoul said on Apr 30, 2009....
    Ms.......I am very jealous when i am in love and over my friends.....and i am proud of it. I also likes when my man is jealous of me as well....:-)
     
    Naturally we are not talking of behaviors that borderline with possessivity, stalking, or else..
     
    For me jealosuy is actually a healthy feeling because its not envy............
    I don't envy my lovers or my friends......because i love them i want only the best for them ...(with me)....lol...
     
    I don't really believe jealousy is necessaruily associated with low self esteem and blah....people who proud themselves of not being jealous....nah....they lie...or they dont love enough......:-)..
     
     
    I remember i had a very interesting conversation with Silverwhisper about the same topic....i cleared up the misunderstanding when i explained Ed that in Italian we completely separate - in the ethiomological meaning of the words -  jealousy from envy...
     
    We use the Latin and Greek meaning of "desire to be the only one"....without necessarily imply that we have negative wishes upon the chosen one(s).
     
    But I can be envious of possessions one else might have....
  • uniquely-ironic said on Apr 30, 2009....
    Hmmm, well, I consider myself somewhat competitive, so by some of your definitions I'm pretty jealous.  I'd say I'm less jealous than most, but still human.
  • Hegemone said on Apr 30, 2009....
    Ummm, I can be pretty jealous on instinct and first impulse, but after a moment I usually have the presence of mind to think of 5 reasons why I'm better off.  For the things that I can't rationalize, well, I just try to put my own best features forward and hope they look better.
  • wombat said on Apr 30, 2009....
    I try to separate "jealous" and "resentful" from the word "envious," even yes, they mean the same thing.  I try splitting hairs on that, but I am very envious of people who have a house with a great view of the mountains and no worries about driving up and down in winter.  (read: can afford the view and money enough to have things brought to you)
     
    I'd be in hog heaven if that was me.
     
    Too old to be jealous of other women around my old man.  We'd get a kick out of it he got the attention!
  • superbozo said on Apr 30, 2009....
    I've never considered myself the jealous type. You have got me thinking though. I'm sure I have been jealous about something but I really can't recall the what,how or the why. I'm like that though. Something annoys me for a few minutes and is gone. I often sit around wondering why I was angry just 15 mins after being angry. Can you be jealous of the people who know why they are jealous.
  • MsStar39 said on May 01, 2009....
    Queen when it comes to love it's easy to get jealous.

    Ginger I do think that people are lying when they say there is no jealousy, or it's as you say the love is not strong enough.

    Uni at least you are not as jealous as some people are.

    Hege, that is a good thing to stop and think about it and remember the good qualities  that you have and remember that you are better off.

    Wombat that is something that I think i would like to have that house with the view plus the money that goes with it but behind the scenes the ones that seems to have it all are the most miserable.

    SB that is a good trait, to be angry and not not stay that way and make others miserable around you, you are a pretty mellow kind of guy then.

  • superbozo said on May 01, 2009....
    I am a pretty mellow guy. Though I must admit to being hulk like when I'm angry. You know the whole "don't make me angry, you wouldn't like me if I'm angry" Like the hulk once it's gone I'm perfectly human again :) but when I'm there it's fugly.
  • Brunettebmshell said on May 01, 2009....

    I'm generally not a very jealous person.... but as you said, jealousy can rear it's ugly head while I am in a relationship. I'm not particularly proud of that... I think that if you aren't level headed about something like jealously and can't keep it in check, then it can definitely ruin a perfectly good relationship. If my boyfriend doesn't give me a reason to question where his loyalty lies... than we don't have a problem. Women will always hit on him, and men will always hit on me (and everything else that has a vagina and walks upright, lol), but as long as we are both secure in knowing that we will never stray, bring on the unanswered advances!  

    BB


  • MsStar39 said on May 01, 2009....
    Brunette I think it's natural to have some jealousy when in a relationship, some women are just bold about hitting on someone else man so it pays to stay on your toes.
    Like you said as long as you are both secure, that is a good thing.
  • HollyGoLightly said on May 02, 2009....
    hi *MsS*~~ oohh...this is a great topic!! (i'm sooooo jealous that you thought of it first!!)  lol!!  ;)
     
    but seriously...in love...in my less-emotionally-mature years,i was always more possessive, (possessiveness brought on by feelings of disrespect)  than "jealous"...jealous to me, being an almost "hateful" state of envy..i don't experience that, have too much confidence in myself i suppose, and even when i've had nothing to my name in past times, (except for my beautiful babies...) i never coveted anyone else's things...that's just the way i am...
     
    however, i did (once or twice) feel a serious lack of respect, if the man i was  with decided (to his ultimate loss usually) to show more attention,or more of an interest (even if it's only "helping") another female, or if he made an inappropriate comment, especially if i was right there...i didn't feel JEALOUS...i felt ANGRY at him, for what i viewed as total disrespect of me, and our relationship...especially when the other woman KNEW that we were in this relationship...and here he was making an ass out of himself (this was usually answered by the man as..."i didn't even realize...blahblahblah baby...", "i didn't mean anything by it" (typical Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus" behavior...
     
    and perhaps..truly, they didn't...but if it walks like a duck...yeah, whatever...so i would, by what i viewed as disrespect of me & our relationship, jump into possessive mode (which naturally follows, as possessiveness is a means of trying to protect/preserve that relationship...) and eventually realize that possessiveness wasn't really my bag either...not a means really, of "holding on" to anything...and of course, coming to grips with the fact that i wouldn't want to "hold on" to anyone like that in the first place...(like i said...working my way through to 'somewhat' emotional maturity...lol)
     
    anyway...that's my take on it...  :)
     
    *~*Holly*~*
     
     
  • MsStar39 said on May 02, 2009....
    Holly you really laid it out, glad i thought of this one first because you write on so many great topics.. You are right about Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus.
    It's amazing how they can do something right in front of you and don't realize that they have done anything wrong.

  • HollyGoLightly said on May 02, 2009....
    *MsS*~~~thank you darling...and oh yea...LMAO at that last comment!! sooooo TRUE!!  (guys sometimes...>hello?  duh...) omg... but...mostly...ya' gotta love 'em, they do the craziest things to grow on a woman...!  :)
     
    *~*Holly*~*
  • blueraven6 said on Jul 25, 2009....
    I realized I was jealous when I came home from work one day, and found myself with a roaring dose of the clap. I left screams and fingerprints near the john.

    The only sexual favors I'd ever enjoyed had been with my wife.

    blueraven6

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