• sigroid75 said on Sep 03, 2006....

  i usually fight with my boyfriend on the issue
  of marriage. eventually, he asked me to find
  another venue to vent my feelings. i found
  soulcast.:-) hope you find something else
  other than your honey. build your relationship
  with him instead. ur a great woman!:-)
  God bless you!:-)
  

• Lovethebeach said on Sep 03, 2006....

  Thanks. I just hate feeling like there are some "taboo"topics. But you're right!
  

• Jenna said on Sep 03, 2006....

  That must be hard to feel you need to censor. We are here for you.... so spill it sister. :) Maybe you and honey need to have a heart to heart discussion on the topic. Maybe he is feeling insecure about something. Just a thought....
  

• Lovethebeach said on Sep 03, 2006....

  Thank you. I just get so aggravated at the ex. I know he upsets me. I feel ( maybe wrongly so) that the people I love should be there to support me when the ex gets me upset.
  If I talk to him, what do you suggest I say to him ( honey)?
  

• secretlife said on Sep 03, 2006....

  My personal opinion is you should tell 'honey' how you feel.
  

• Jenna said on Sep 03, 2006....

  ditto
  

• sigroid75 said on Sep 03, 2006....

  i believe in honesty in a relationship.
  telling the truth even when it hurts,
  however, also be sensitive to your
  honey's feelings. remember, your ex
  and ur current are two different things
  that could hardly get along.
  
  so if ur honey is getting fed up with
  ex talks, i suggest u find a friend
  or blog on! hahaha
  
  let's just be sensitive with our partners,
  not really just to fight for peace, but
  moreso because we also want to protect
  them from hurt. a relationship is two sides
  to a coin.
  
  God bless all the ladies here!:-)
  

• silverwhisper said on Sep 04, 2006....

  LTB: what exactly does he mean that he's sick of hearing about your ex? does he mean that he's sick of hearing how he's a time bomb waiting to explode, how he's a danger to your children, or perhaps that he's frustrated that your ex as a conversational topic turns up a lot?
  
  ed
  

• Lovethebeach said on Sep 04, 2006....

  He's frustrated that the ex turns up in conversation a lot. I mean, I can understand, but when he does things to upset me and the kids, I don't feel I should hide my feelings and not talk to him about it. Sometimes venting just helps. Having a supportive ear ALWAYS helps.
  

• ALIENated said on Sep 04, 2006....

  Maybe Honey is cut from the same cloth as Ex. Men and
  women tend to choose the same partner over and over.
  If Honey does not know that your problems are his
  problems, you might want to find a different Honey.
  

• ellaywest said on Sep 04, 2006....

  Well, similarily, I have had complaints about his dad
  and my boyfriend has told me the same thing.
  He said that if I had a problem with him that I needed
  to talk to him.
  
  If you are bothered, there must be an issue...if there is
  an issue, there is a solution. Maybe venting is just not
  the answer. You can vent all you want but if you are
  not handling what is making you so disturbed, then, that
  is why he is sick of hearing these things. It hurts
  but Honey is interested in you standing your ground and
  fixing your issues with a man that YOU laid down with.
  
  For example, I decided to talk to my son's dad about his
  absence and inconsistency with spending time. Like a
  women, I stood up, tongue lashed him, even used a few
  curse words. It wasn't loud, but I told him what I feel
  about his actions because it did affect my relationship
  because my man is the one takes care of his son daily
  but it is not his immediate place to talk to my ex for me
  or listen to my complaints that I don't express to the
  person it should be expressed to.
  

• Lovethebeach said on Sep 04, 2006....

  Alienated, no, thankfully, Honey is much different...in every aspect. I am going to talk to him tonight and explain why I feel the need to tell him when the ex bothers me.
  Ellaywest- I think there may be some validity to your theory. The ex and I do go round the same mountain over and over. I do need to resolve some issues. This could be honeys offense of the situation.
  Thanks to you both.
  

• scalywag said on Sep 05, 2006....

  My opinion is that when he married you, that you having to deal with your ex is part of the deal, and that he should be supportive of you.
  

• Lovethebeach said on Sep 05, 2006....

  Thanks, all for your support! Assuming he's not exhausted tonight ( today was the first day of school and he worked 7-7) I am going to talk to him. Otherwise, maybe tomorrow!
  

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