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Hate

MsStar39 posted on Apr 22, 2009 | views: 297 | Tags: love and hate, thin line, My take, crazy, psycho, romance

I ask this question after reading about the man that hated his Ex wife so much that he cut his finger off with  the ring still on it and presented it to her, what a cruel thing to do. You have to think that at one time they had to love each other. I couldn't help but wonder, what happens in a marriage that causes Love to turn into Hate?

He said it was his way of breaking free of her and that he would never marry again.He was charged with assault and Harassment. He stated that he has no regrets and could function fine without the finger.



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  • CayenneMan said on Apr 22, 2009....
      I'm sorry for the language but he's a fucking asshole. It's the mentality of people like this that make me question the future of mankind. Unorthodox behavior is starting to show up all over the globe. Society in general is becoming a violent environment. I sometimes question the future of our children. I'm glad you posted this, I hadn't heard about it. It makes me sick to know that he is alive and amongst us.  Looking back at my first marriage I realize I was to blame. I wish I could have made it work but to many things were going on in my life and I chose to secure my future. Still to this day I love my ex wife, but we have one child between us. Maybe that has something to do with my feelings today ? We are still friends, but nothing more. I can't even imagine hating somebody that much to do something like that.  I wish he had worn his ring around his penis.
  • wombat said on Apr 22, 2009....
    Sounds like she made the right decision when she left him. (I hadn't heard anything about this, but refrained from making the joke that came to my mind)
     
    I totally agree with CayenneMan's observation about the world today.  Bizarre, horrible things are happening at an escalating rate.  Is everyone going nuts out there?
     
     
  • secretlife said on Apr 22, 2009....
    omg, what a sicko!
    she's well rid of him-
     
    i wonder what they did with the finger? 
    ewwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww
     
  • fragglesrock said on Apr 22, 2009....
    i have to stand up and applaud cman!!!!!! bravo! i agree, he should've been wearing it around his penis.  i try not to be quick to judge, but what in god's name could have possessed him to do something like that?  you do bring up a good point with how does love turn to hate like that?
  • superbozo said on Apr 22, 2009....
    What a weirdo. At least he turned his anger on himself. I can't even begin to think how this fools mind works. "I know how to show her...I'll mutilate myself...then she'll know I hate her" WTF.   This guy should be locked away. If he can do this to himself what is he capable of doing to others. Lets hope his self loathing continues and he walks of a cliff or something.
     
    BWAAHAHAHAHA......ring on his penis......Way to tell it CMan
     
     
  • crybabylu said on Apr 22, 2009....
    something wrong with his brain
  • MsStar39 said on Apr 23, 2009....
    CM you said it right, society in general is becoming more violent  i hhave gotten to the point that i hate reading the newspaper. The good thing is that he didn't hurt her, he has a screw loose somewhere. LOL to that ring on the penis.

    wombat, it's really terrible, something new almost everyday.

    Secret he is a real sicko, don't know what they did with the finger.

    fraggles CM said it right, you have to figure that at one time they were in love,
    How do you grow  to hate someone you loved that bad?

    SB he is a real sicko but but at least he didn't hurt her, to often men are seeking revenge and killing the whole family lately. Him walking off a cliff before he does anything else would be good.

    crybaby he definitely has a problem.
  • travelr712 said on Apr 23, 2009....
    not to be argumentative or change the subject, but as to violent behavior, life was incredibly violent worldwide up to the end of the second world war, and world population has doubled in i believe the last 15 years, so there's allot more crazy people to do crazy things. the difference here is that we have access to the reporting of so many more of these incidences worldwide that it just seems like violence and bizzare behavior is increasing. 20 years ago, you never would have heard of these isolated individual acts unless they were in your town, or they for some reason became sensationalized. now you just sign onto yahoo and there it is.
     
    but yeah, the guy's a loon.
  • HollyGoLightly said on Apr 23, 2009....
    *MsS*~  my first reaction to your ??? is that something like that doesn't just spring up from nothing...it's my guess that those 2 never had anything close to "love" in their relationship...
     
    many things masquerade as "love", are attributed to "love", but could never, ever even come close to what is true love~defined...
     
    good post  :)
     
    *~*Holly*~*
  • mommyof2 said on Apr 23, 2009....
    I would have to agree that he has bad issues. Also it's very true that it's a thin line between love and hate, and that you can love someone but not like them.
  • PieterOpie said on Apr 23, 2009....
    Makes you wonder who was the bigger nut.  The guy or her for marrying him.  If my spouse cut off a finger and gave it to me I'd shove it up their nose.  I was going to say [[censored]] but you know..... the kiddies. 
    That missing finger is going to remind him of her for the rest of his life.  Not very smart - for more reasons than one.  Stupidity is its own reward.
  • Hegemone said on Apr 23, 2009....
    I don't care how much I hate a person, I could not justify cutting their finger off!  I mean, think about it, this idiot had to have known that she'd do something about it, thus causing them to be in each other's lives all that much longer!  She probably hurt him, and wanted out, and he couldn't handle it so he flipped the story.  Sick bastard, I hope they cram her severed finger up his ass, HUGE diamond ring attached.  As far as what makes you go from deep love to hate ... that's a tough one to answer because perhaps its something that you're predisposed to, it's been happening all along.  Then again, perhaps it all depends on your level of communication (i.e. how much do you bottle up?).  I couldn't see getting that upset though.
  • MsStar39 said on Apr 23, 2009....
    Travelr you are right, we are getting worldwide news almost as it happens, but this guy is a total loon.

    Holly it was a good masquerade then, they must have thought that they were in love at one time but it just came to me that a lot of people jump into marriage thinking they are in love but instead they were in lust and not true love at all.

    Pieter you are right , he will have to live with that missing finger for the rest of his life and think of her. He said it was worth it but I don't think so, Stupidity is its own reward.

    Hege he cut his own finger off so he really hurt no one but himself, He was an idiot.


  • starchini said on Apr 23, 2009....
    hmm, what makes love turn to hate? Well let me dig out my big book of answers here...Ahh HA!!! Let me see, it says here:   "Often times there is a thin line between love and hate.  As people grow they continually change in their lifetime sometimes closer and sometimes farther apart.  Day to day struggles with stress and miscommunication can make a once loving couple resent eachother.  This resentment if not resolved can be what leads some down a path of lies, deciet and betrayal.  If at this point neither of the twosome is willing to work on bringing the love back, a divorce would be in order.  However due to religious beliefs, stubborness, stupidity, a divorce does not happen and we are left with no other choice than to sever our fingers from our hands to prove a point.  "....I swear, thats what my big book of answers says, word for word... : > 
  • HollyGoLightly said on Apr 23, 2009....
    *lol*~  the "penis ring" comment brought a faint memory of Lorena Bobbitt!! lol, sorry guys... but if ANY woman had some mad cajones, it was girlfriend there...the story to me (as at that time, i was an abused "partner" as she) was not only outrageous...but righteous, powerful, hilarious, (not saying i condone man-bashing or man-chopping off so to speak...lol but this guy was a class A "dickhead" hahaha) the hilarious part not even being the chopping-off but the picture in my mind of the "afterglow"~ she driving down the freeway, and casually tossing what was left of John Wayne Bobbitt's wee-wee,  out the friggin' car window!!!!!!  omg...lmao.....
     
    *~*
  • PieterOpie said on Apr 23, 2009....

    Ahhh.... the passion, the sex, and the aftermath.......


    Pleasure and Pain

    Break my body, with the back of your hand
    Doesn’t make sense from where I stand
    Baby, baby, why you wanna mess it up
    Sooner or later I’ll find my place
    Find my body, better fix my face
    Please don’t ask me
    How I’ve been getting off
    No please don’t ask me
    How I’ve been getting off

    It’s a fine line between pleasure and pain
    You’ve done it once you can do it again
    Whatever you done don’t try to explain
    It’s a fine, fine line between pleasure and pain

  • phoeby said on Apr 23, 2009....
    that turns my stomach..

    according to eckardt tolle, the pain-body (which we all have in varying degree's) can run rampant in a close intimate relationship and 'take over'. It is the one doing those horrid things (not that it's separate from the person, it's a name given to our negative emotion/past conditioning/memories/thought processes)

    the normally kind person becomes horrid when something is triggered by a look or a comment. pain bodies create all sorts of awful things.

    the answer is to become as conscious as possible 

    love phoeby
  • MsStar39 said on Apr 23, 2009....
    Star I think your big book is right, When a  couple stay together so long that they can't stand each other but continue to hang in for the sake of the children , religion or financial reasons, they sometime snap. A divorce would probably have been best.

    Holly that story still get me, now that was some serious revenge, Lorena  was on Oprah today. I still think of hurt throwing it out of the window but I still don't know how they was able to find it on the side of the road.

    Pieter, Pleasure and Pain, I like it.

    Pheoby that is good advice, to remain as conscious as possible.
  • PieterOpie said on Apr 23, 2009....
    "Pleasure and Pain" ~ 

    A song by Aussie band  The Divinyls  and sung by Chrissy Amphlett
  • phoeby said on Apr 23, 2009....
    cool song! *cracks barbed whip*
  • queenparanoia said on Apr 23, 2009....
    ewwwww... that's all...
  • Hegemone said on Apr 24, 2009....
    OH OH OH!   I read it wrong, I read it as he cut HER finger off, well hell, I think that's a stupid thing to do, but hey, its his own stupidity, you're right.  
  • HollyGoLightly said on Apr 24, 2009....
    *hege*~  it makes all the difference doesn't it?  lol  funny @ your comment bcuz, "that's your own stupidity" is one of my favorite r/l lines...i use it liberally...especially if i'm feeling foul...(which has been often as of late...) lol!   ;)
     
    *~*Holly*~*
  • HollyGoLightly said on Apr 24, 2009....
    ps~ *pieter my love*~~ soon as i saw the lyrics i knew...Divinyls have always been badass in *Holly-world"...lol  ;) thanks for dredging them up here!!
  • PieterOpie said on Apr 24, 2009....
    You're welcome...  they've been dredged up quite a bit in their time. 
    So....... "badass" is good?  Right?  Different to "butt-ugly" for example?  I do wish you Americans would stop doing these strange things to the language.  I can't keep up.  Like... "what's up?" means "what's going down?"  It's very disconcerting.

    OK... I am going to become wicked and chill up now,  bye bye.  kissy kiss.....
  • Mudded|Clarity said on Apr 26, 2009....
    it's kind of romantic in a.. creepy kind of way
  • blueraven6 said on Jul 25, 2009....
    I've made quite a study of this problem.

    Sheer exhaustion can make couples become aberrant. I remember the many hours of sleep we both lost until the little bugger could sleep all night.

    The biggest problem today is infidelity. On both sides.

    I've come to the conclusion none of us are hard wired for only one person. What do you think?

    The real solution seems to be the extended family. I can think of no more perfect a relationship than having access to many more than one woman, with her having the same privilege.

    Communes like this are shown to be quite successful for the safety of the children involved, which is the real reason for marriage.

    What's your opinion?

    blueraven6
    [three times married]
    [more lovers than I can count.]
    Romance Writer
    Publisher
    Searcher Publishing Haus

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