• MissMimi said on Apr 21, 2009....

  That's a hard question, mostly because if I hadn't gotten married, I wouldn't have had my children.  But if you take them out of the equation, then knowing what I know now, no, I wouldn't do it again.

• crybabylu said on Apr 21, 2009....

  Thank you for commenting, MissMimi.

• Hegemone said on Apr 21, 2009....

  I couldn't honestly say.  I mean, in the past, in the recent past might I add, I have said that if this one doesn't work out, I'm not doing it again, in so far as marriage.  But then, how do I know how I'll feel in the future? It's only about paperwork anyway.  Do you want to sign papers that say you're connected to one another, or do you want to trust your own brain, heart, body, and soul to know you're together?  Also, are you getting married for your own benefit, or is it to please others who might not go along with you just being committed to one another?
  

• ALIENated said on Apr 22, 2009....

  
  I have only been married once and that is likely to be the only time I will 
  be married. I was in my mid-twenties when I married and we did not have
  children for a while, so we got to know each other pretty well. I think
  some people get married too young and have children too soon. When the
  children grow up and move away, then you have time to realize you do
  not even really know the person you are married to. I have seen that
  many times. I would marry again, if I had it to do over, but I am not likely
  to marry another person, if the opportunity arises.
  
  

• crybabylu said on Apr 22, 2009....

  Hegemone---I didn't see the need to get married this time around, but because of his beliefs, we did the paperwork, etc.  I definitely think marriage is of the heart and a piece of paper shouldn't be the thing that binds you together.

  Alienated---Sounds like you found the right one.  And it's been good for you.

• CreativeWoman said on Apr 22, 2009....

  I'm in the middle of the road on this one. 
  
  CW
  

• crybabylu said on Apr 22, 2009....

  Thanks CW.

• mommyof2 said on Apr 22, 2009....

  I think,It's too much money to marry and divorce, I also think it takes more love to just hang as long as I have, going on 21 years, my only marriage was at 16, lasted only a few months, was done only to become an adult right after my mother died, only knew him a month or so, I knew it was a stupid move but I did not want to be put in a girls home.

• crybabylu said on Apr 22, 2009....

  mommyof2---I would have done the same thing.

  Congrats on the 21 yrs.

• the_infernal_optimist said on Apr 22, 2009....

  If, as Mimi said, you take the kids out of the equation, then no.
  
  ~Infernal
  

• dyingman said on Apr 22, 2009....

  Yes.  I thought hard about it.
  Not even close.
  Yes.
  
  
  

• the_infernal_optimist said on Apr 22, 2009....

  Wait, are you asking if we'd do it the same way if we had a do-over? That's my no. But if it is whether we'd do it a second time in the same lifetime...I'll fence-sit.
  
  ~Infernal
  

• crybabylu said on Apr 22, 2009....

  Thanks, Infernal.

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