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Well, I'm sure you all know about the problems my husband has been having with his meds. Something just popped in my head about the conversation we had a few days ago. Lemme give you a little background first. Hubby was hurt on the job about 2 years ago. He was a nurse at a rehabilitation/convalescent hospital. He was giving a man who weighed around 300 pounds a shower when hubby went to reposition the man, lost his footing in the shower stall (that had no slip resistant floor) and down came humpty and hubby. Hubby took most of the fall because he didn't want the patient to get hurt. Good man.Long story short, he's still in pain and still out of work. His meds totally screw with his libido. Which brings me to my post.
       A few days ago, Hubby and I were talking about me getting breast augmentation, mainly for my self esteem but he said since we're in the marriage for life, he wants me to look good. We were walking around our house and he mentioned about bringing another woman maybe once in a while. He said it would help out because for those times "jr" (his penis) didn't want any part of this, I can still be pleased.  He said pretty much we'd use this woman for stuff I didn't want to do..anal sex?...he said I can spread her cheeks apart while he goes in...she could eat me while I'm sucking him..and on and on. I asked him if this is before or after my boob job. He said it would be after. I told him to ask me then.
      While we were in our marathon sex session, which is very rare to even have a 10 minute session, he brings up the idea of having our roommates sister who's lesbian as the other person. No I said. I don't think so.  That night we dined in and ate out just about the whole night. It was amazing. He rarely eats me. I do feel sorry for him. I was giving him a blow job and he was hard! but only for a minute or two..and then started shrinking. He would be in me and I could feel him shrinking. What the Hell?! I'm thinking. Is it me? then he went to the restroom to masterbate and he couldn't get himself hard. I am thinking I don't want a 3rd person. I don't like to share. To me 3somes are just a person way of cheating, but with permission. Does that make sense? Maybe next year or so, when I do get my boobs, I'll feel different than I do now. As for right now..I want my husband all to myself. Sex or no sex, hard dick or shrunk dick. I want it all for me.


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  • HollyGoLightly said on Apr 19, 2009....
    i think i'd feel the exact same as you *sweetie*...interesting that the when the suggestion was brought up that it was to "be for you", since "jr" hasn't been feeling it...but then it quickly turned to you spreading her while HE enters her...yada yadda...sounds kinda...hmmm... ya' know?
     
    maybe he is really desperately looking for a way to spice "jr" up, but they have pills for that these days...i wouldn't fall for it if it's something you aren't comfortable with...maybe it's a mid-life crisis thing?
    anyway, I'm too selfish for the  fmf 3some thing...I want all the attention, and I want all the man ( you know what i mean)...so i see how you feel...
     
    don't let him talk you into what may be the ultimate compromise that breaks the marriage if you feel it's wrong...if i may be so bold...if it's "jr" that has the trouble, then some alternate satisfaction for YOU would seem more in order...wonder what would happened if you agreed to the 3some, but insisted on another male?
    mfm would be much more fun for you...lol...at least you could use that idea to flush him out ( as far as his true intentions here) if nothing else.
     
    *~*Holly*~*
  • travelr712 said on Apr 19, 2009....
    it kinda surprised me too that he would suggest another woman to 'help you out'. why didn't he suggest another man?
  • fosjoh said on Apr 20, 2009....
    THat is plain and simple - No. Don't do it. The voice in your head is correct. Stay awat from the three some. It will lead to serious relationship problems and could split th etwo of you forever.
  • Hegemone said on Apr 20, 2009....
    Huh, well I'm sort of speechless at first, but the words are coming.  I'd say you're right to want him all to yourself.  At least you're being fair and not saying NO (although I would be saying an absolutely unanimous no myself), you're just telling him to wait until after you've had the augmentation so you can see how you'll feel then.  If you're not comfortable with it, that's just the way it is.  No harm in it, and there's no reason at all ever to feel that its not fair to him.  I see what you're saying and have thought the same thing in as far as a threesome being like cheating with permission.  I'd stick with saying no, and maybe suggest he get some different medication, he could talk to his doctor and explain that his libido is suffering and that he'd like to change that.  Also, why does your husband suddenly care that you look good?  Didn't he think you were before?  Why does he all of a sudden want to make all of these changes?  I'd be cautious all over if I were you, but I wish you the best of luck!
  • chickencat said on Apr 21, 2009....
    Thank you for all your posts and opinions. It's glad to know the  majority is with me on this. We haven't spoken of the 3rd party since then. Our relationship....well, I'm not going to sugar coat it...Our relationship is a tough one. He's the master of manipulation; he's one of those people who can find a weak spot in a person and use it to his advantage. When we first met, I was so docile and broke that if a person looked at me wrong, I'd cry. Over time of being with my husband, I have discovered my voice..I almost have half a spine now. He's even said I love him more than he loves himself. I show him what unconditional love is. As for his wanting me to look good...I have put on the pounds (as everybody does over the years) but in the last 10 years I think I have put on like 50. He'll be getting a settlement from his lawsuit so that's why I think he's saying this. I believe all the years of putting up his crap is finally going to be rewarded. LOL I think like somebody suggested, a slight case of midlife crisis. 
  • HollyGoLightly said on Apr 21, 2009....
    *cc*~  you go girl!!  got your back here in *holly~world*...lol
     
    the "master of manipulation" line explains alot with re: to the question of why he decided another woman added to the mix "for YOU" would be helpful...  :)
     
    men are curious creatures...carry a big stick (lol)...and give yourself a bit more credit darling...sounds like your spine is strong and intact..just always be true to YOU... (((hugs)))
     
    *~*Holly*~*

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