I'm sort of aggravated right now. My dad came in to tell me he was going up to his buddy's house to get the front loader so they could do the next step of the septic work. I asked where my husband was. He said he didn't know. I asked if he was even here, and he said he didn't know. How could he not know if he was HERE? Then he told me that my husband had seen somebody pull in at the farm and took off over there.
So my husband is supposed to be helping my dad do this work because his back is getting pretty ragged. He just up and walks away even though his dad was home at the farm, so its not like nobody was there. PLUS, as I found out, it was his brother and his buddies. So he took off and got involved in something else and wasn't here at all to know the next part of the job here. So I called him and told him what was going on, asked him if he'd be coming back soon, to which he said yes. Then I asked him what was going on at the farm and he told me that his dad, his brother and his two buddies were going down to the neighbor's to help them finish cleaning out their barn since they're moving. Then I asked him if he was going to get into trouble for helping my dad instead of doing that. He said no, but then I had a thought after I got off the phone.
Why the hell should I have to wonder if he's going to get into trouble for helping my dad who has a bad back, especially when he's doing something that I can't help him with, that his buddies don't have time to help him with and that he can't afford to just have done. Why should my husband get into trouble for doing something like that? Its not like this is on a whim, we can't even crap at home, so yeah, I see that as important. Toilets are necessary. That pissed me off that I even had to wonder if he'd get into trouble. Such bullshit.
I'm not really mad mad, but it did sit wrong with me. I think he just walked back over, so I need to go outside since dad isn't back yet and he can't come in the house (poop boots). I need to ask him who was driving like an idiot anyway, since somebody peeled out and scared the shit out of all the cats. I hate when people drive like that. If you can't drive reasonably, stay the hell out from behind the wheel. Grrr.
Hegemone posted on Apr 17, 2009
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wishyouwerehere said on Apr 17, 2009....
Wow - Hege - sounds like a whole lotta work. No wonder you are aggravated - glad you could let off a bit of steam! -
crybabylu said on Apr 17, 2009....
I can certainly understand your frustration. Bet you can't wait for the problem to get solved. Seems like it's taking awhile, doesn't it? I also agree with you about drivers driving reasonably. Catch ya later, and take care! -
travelr712 said on Apr 17, 2009....
not sure which is funnier, mad mad or poop boots! :-D -
Dauntless said on Apr 18, 2009....
Why should your hubby get into trouble with his dad? He's a grown man who can make his own decisions surely!
I'm sorry to hear that your 'toilet troubles' haven't yet ended, I hope they're fixed sooner rather than later! I can't even begin to imagine just how much the new system is needed in place but I'm sure you're really desperate by now! lol.
I could offer a bush for your garden if you want! It's got a twig on it that's perfect to hold a roll of paper! ;)
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mixednuts said on Apr 18, 2009....
WOW,heck,darn,chucks,yuck -
Hegemone said on Apr 18, 2009....
Wishy - Yeah, it helps to vent here off and on.
Cry - Yes, I cannot wait to go number 2 at home again! Stupid rain keeps slowing us down though.
Trav - Lol, glad you're enjoying ... personally, I like the poop boots.
Daunt - Long story, but my FIL is the type who feels he has to be in complete control. He owns the family farm, my husband wants it bad, and every time he doesn't comply with his father's wishes he gets told that he's not getting the farm. It upsets him terribly, so we try to avoid it. It's useless mind games, but they get played anyway. Lol, hmmm ... a bush with a built in TP branch ... tempting.
Mixed - Lol ... yeah ...
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Dauntless said on Apr 19, 2009....
That really sucks!
The inheritance thing isn't big over here, there really isn't that much to 'inherit' usually unless you are part of a well-to-do family. I can see the mind games though, what with previous posts about your FIL, I can understand how that game goes. It's a power trip, your hubby should use reverse psychology and tell FIL he doesn't want the farm, that he has to make his own decisions. I can imagine he'd fear losing the farm but I don't think that would happen, it may wake FIL up a bit, even just a wee crack ;)
Of course, it could backfire and he may well strike him out of the inheritance just to be mean and vindictive, but is he that bad?
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Hegemone said on Apr 19, 2009....
Daunt - Well, in a word, yes. He is that bad. My BIL and SIL both have told him that he's ruined it for them and they don't want it anymore either, which wasn't a problem for him because then he started leaning harder on my husband. The few times my husband has spoken up and said he doesn't even feel like dealing with shit over there anymore, his FIL just says "Fine, then I am going to sell it, your mother and I will move away and nobody will have to worry about anything." That's not the only example of how bad he is, but it would take lots more time and energy to express just why I know he is that bad. I wouldn't put anything past that jerk. -
javadewd said on May 11, 2009....
My wife and I get into quibbles about stuff like this all the time. She works 12 hour days throughout the week, being "on call" and stuff. I, however, don't have a schedule, which sometimes means that it's dictated by customers. Unfortunately, on her days off, her list of things to do sometimes trumps mine. Sure, honey, I'll forfeit / put off a few hours of income so you can go buy shoes... We all have our priorities!
Also, early on we had the whole fight over parents. She would want to go to hers about mid-day and we wouldn't [be allowed to] leave until nearly 10pm at night. This was a definite day-killer, and we've gotten better about putting limits on nonsensical family drama... Because that's what it is, a live-action drama...
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Hegemone said on May 11, 2009....
Java - Heh, well, yeah I don't know that I've ever pulled that one on anybody ... making them put off a possible income earning task so I can go goof off? That's not right. At least mine and my husband's schedules mostly coincide so his time off is mine and vice versa most of the time. Plus, I get off a little earlier so it gives me a chance to get a head start so that he only has to do the things I can't do by myself. We've begun the process of putting our foot down and not getting into the gook called "Family Drama" when it comes to either side. It's just not worth anybody's time. -
javadewd said on May 11, 2009....
Yeah, her priorities tend to be somewhat different from mine... I'm sure we'll get things ironed out before "baby makes three" arrives eventually. That's my hope, anyway... I said the same thing prior to the wedding, too. -
Hegemone said on May 11, 2009....
Java - It'll work out, you just have to make sure to communicate so you both know what path you're on and can get on the same wavelength. It's like this ... you can't fix it if you don't know what to fix. How long have you guys been married now? -
javadewd said on May 11, 2009....
True. I'm a fixer. She's a nurturer. We've been married going on eight months. -
Hegemone said on May 11, 2009....
Java - Oh wow, only 8 months? I for some reason thought you guys might have been married longer. My husband and I will have been together 3 years on November 21st. Men are naturally fixers, women are not, we don't always take the direct approach. If you guys can figure out how to work with those, intertwine them to both of your best advantages, life will be peachy. Communication is so utterly important as I've come to find out over time, and not just with my husband, I've come to find that out with my dad too ... I'm a female living in a house with two males ... we HAVE to communicate clearly or else somebody would be a goner and it wouldn't be me, lol.
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