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Hubby and I are done with Stanford visit for a while. Might I say what a beautiful place to visit.
We spent the day with a wonderful psychologist who talked to us at lenght and tested hubby. Things aren't final yet, but the diagnosis is pretty much looking like ALZHEIMER.
He's only 60. But his mother had what they call early onset alzheimer.
My daughter and I don't want him to know. No good can come from knowing you have alzheimer. We've been telling him he has short term memory problems from his seizures and though frustrating, we can manage it together.
He seems ok with it for now. My daughters help has been a blessing. We raised a sweet and wonderful girl who I love very much.
When one finds themselves in this situation, one can't help but think of all the wasted moments spent on triviallity, silly arguments and time that could have been used differently.
Why did I so easily pass up moments that could have been speacial and positive ?
Now I feel as if I'm watching him sail slowly out to sea, never to come back.
All of the moments in life are important moments.


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  • secretlife said on Apr 10, 2009....
    Amen.
    It's part of the human condition i think-  none of us are any different- 
    we spend our lives worrying about things that when push-comes-to-shove and we're faced with life/death issues we realize were trivial.
    even now, i see my mother at my father's deathbed urging him to 'live' so that they could do the many things they never got around to.....so much regret for letting time slip away.
     
    i agree with you that no good can come from knowing-
    and i hope you are able to make the most of the good time you and he have left.
  • tonibell said on Apr 10, 2009....
    secretlife; thankyou.....I was hoping to hear your comforting words. We will make the best of it all. The prayers and goodwishes are felt. Life teaches us many lessons , even the ones we don't want to learn. I suspect the trick is to be a good student!
  • secretlife said on Apr 10, 2009....
    yes, in the end, all we can be is good students, right?
     
    i'm smiling with you because i know how it feels to be the student.
     
    happy easter to you and yours.
  • quietone said on Apr 10, 2009....
    they have come a long way with alzheimers these days.  There is a lot of new drugs out there to slow the process down.  I wish you both many treasured moments together.  
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  • KathQuiet said on Apr 11, 2009....
    What a beautiful, but sad, analogy.  Very evocative.  Saving him from knowing is the best gift you can give.  You're a sweetheart.
  • Hegemone said on Apr 11, 2009....
    Hello, nice to meet you!  This has truly got to be a deeply sadening experience.  However, I think its amazing that your daughter is sticking by your side to help you get through this experience.  You need to all stick together.  I hope that you all come out winners in this.
  • tonibell said on Apr 12, 2009....
    thankyou so much, all of you and your comments are a gift to me. 
  • copsunite said on Apr 27, 2009....
    You be the stronge one. we are here for and with you always!
  • tonibell said on May 03, 2009....
    copsunite: Thankyou. It means so much to me to have people like you caring for me.
  • mixednuts said on Sep 26, 2009....
    I've been waiting 4 your GRAND RETURN!

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