So as the saying goes "Once bitten, twice shy" which will have meaning, I'm sure, for a lot of people, myself included.
"There aren't any decent men out there" I completely understand this, I really do, but does that mean it's perfectly acceptable for those of us men, who actually have decency, to be tarred with the same brush?
One thing I should mention is that this works both ways, there are women out there that are down right cold and walk all over guys. Sometimes it's our own fault for this, I'm a classic culprit of it, but I also know that not all women are the same, everyone's different.
I DO understand that the terms "All men are the same" or "It's a 'man' thing" are comments generalized but they couldn't be farther from the truth for some of us. It's usually followed by the phrase "it's hard to find a nice man" or "where are all the decent guys out there?"
There are a lot of men out there that are absolute bastards, even as far as to say that some don't even deserve to be called human beings but what about the guys that do have morals, do have decency and have hearts. We are out there.
I treat des like a princess, I spoil her every chance I get, I adore her and dote on her and that is the way it should be. My enjoyment comes from knowing that I'm taking care of my lady. That I treat her with love, respect, compassion. I am not, nor have I ever been one of those "treat them mean to keep them keen" type of guys that a lot of women are drawn to initially.
I just don't have it in me to be one of those men. I love, I feel, I am romantic, I'm extremely soft-hearted and sentimental, I would also like to think that my dad brought me up to be a gentleman.
I know there are men here that would like to add their own comments to this post and I would be grateful for comments from both men and women on this.
Don't be shy with your posts, if you disagree with me then say it, I won't be offended and would be glad for the debate.
The page you were looking for no longer exists
Dauntless posted on Apr 09, 2009
| views: 111
Comments
-
Me-Myself&I said on Apr 09, 2009....
i have never been adored or no one has doted on me. maybe it time to find someone who will treat me like a princess, you think?!
nice post.
-
the_infernal_optimist said on Apr 09, 2009....
I agree with you. I think it's offensive when a bunch of any one gender seem to use bashing the opposite gender as an acceptable pastime. I have cringed inwardly as a friend went on a man-bashing rant, and likewise, I find it disheartening when a man just throws his hands up and proclaims that he doesn't understand women. Any woman, all women. Some of us aren't a nightmare of head games and heartache! :-p
~Infernal
-
uniquely-ironic said on Apr 09, 2009....
You're right, it's not fair to generalize. I think both sides do it. Usually when they're frustrated and venting. I know I do and I'm usually honest enough to admit (after I've cooled down) that I was making a generalization. -
Hegemone said on Apr 09, 2009....
There are decent men out there, you just really have to work to find them, they don't come bounding out in the open. Unfortunately decent men are a breed nearing extinction ... we need to reverse that trend really. -
Twylarants said on Apr 09, 2009....
Regarding each other as a different species is the problem. It's easy to paint all of one sex as being difficult and hard to understand when someone is having trouble with their partner, but the reality is that people are different from one another regardless of their gender. Personalities are different, egos are different, thought processes are different, upbringings are different, and experiences that shape our opinions of each other are different. -
Dauntless said on Apr 09, 2009....
Hiya MeMy. I'm sure there will come a day when that man finds you and will treat you as you deserve to be treated! I wish all speed to him making his presence known to you soonest!
Yes Infernal, it is both sexes, a lot of men do exactly that, I have an acquaintance who's forever bitching about the women in and out of his life (and I really do mean he bitches, like a drama queen! lol) And yup! Not all women are a nightmare, just most of you :P (*ducks*....hehe! missed me!)
A lot of people do it ironic, that's for sure, if it's said in the heat of the moment that's one thing but those constants like my mate are soooooooo frustrating! Grrr! lol.
I really agree with this statement Hege. My dad brought me up to have respect and honour and I really uphold those values. It's true that there aren't many decent men around and I think it's partly a generation thing, and also various other factors just as twyla says.
Absolutely Twyla! It's definitely a species problem, I find it just as annoying men bitching about women as I do vice versa. Why? If you don't like a particular person then you don't like that person, there shouldn't be a group painted with the same brush.
Thank you for your comments, opinions and insights! It's refreshing to read such positive feedback :-)
-
one_wired_kitty said on Apr 09, 2009....
From my experience ... the men my age are total flakes and will cheat regardless of what you do.I figure cheating just comes with a relationship. -
cntlvmenuf said on Apr 09, 2009....
This is a tough one.... I too falls in the category of never been dotted on, spoilt, treated like a princess...the whole 9 romantic yard. The other thing is not only have the sexes come to expect men to be assholes and women to be bitches, we condone it. When we find a "good" man or woman, especially if we've been in bad relationships, we tend to ask, "Alright. What's wrong with you???" We stay in abusive relationships way too long.....walk into some of them with our eyes wide open...sabotage our happiness.
I do believe there are good men out there....I just dunno how to attract them yet :-(
-
Dauntless said on Apr 09, 2009....
I can understand that cntlvme, it does seem like it's the norm these days in relationships to seek out something wrong with the other, when you do find that other piece of puzzle though, that person that brings out the "you" in you everything else fits and all the doubts and suspiciousness disappears out of the window. It's natural to be untrusting initially, but the big one it won't be, there will be no issues.