I feel terrible posting somebody else's confidential mail here,but I received it unsolicited. This young lady has been trying to contact me for a few days but this is the first time I have actually got more than the statement that I need to speak to her! It sound to me that she is trying to attach herself to me somehow and I don't know how to handle this situation. I know half a million people in her country were killed,in a frenzy of "ethnic cleansing" and I feel sorry for her! I can't post her picture because I would have to put in on flickr and that would be totaly wrong! She is good looking and certainly not dressed in rags! I.E. she doesn't look like a refugee! Here is what I received today, I am a bit disturbed by the overall tone of her email! here it is:
My
name is lolita i am (24) years but age doesn't matter in a real
relationship,so i am comfortable with your age,I am from Rwanda in
Africa,5.4ft tall, fair in complexion single,(never married ) and
presently i am residing here in Dakar as a result of the civil war that
was fought in my country some years ago. My late father Dr ALEX
RUBA was the managing director of Alex & Associates (Ltd) in
Kigali (the capital of Rwanda) before the rebels attacked our house one
early morning and killed my mother and my father in cold blood.
It
's only me that is alive now and I managed to make my way to a near by
country Senegal where i am leaving now as a refugee under a Rev rend
father's care and i am using his computer to send these messages to you
since few days now.
I would like to know more about you.Your likes and dislikes,your
hobbies and what you are doing presently.I will tell you more about myself in my next mail.Attached here are my pictures.
I will also like to see yours today!
Hoping to hear from you soonest
Yours forever,
Lolita
HELP S.C.!!!!
rupert7 posted on Apr 08, 2009
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CreativeWoman said on Apr 08, 2009....
She may be using the term refugee because of the violence forcing her out of her homeland. My suggestion would be to say that you are very flattered by her interest in you, but you are only interested in friendship. Leave the ball in her court. In this day and age you have to be careful of scammers.
The other option would be not to respond to her email at all if she is giving you bad vibes.
CW
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the_infernal_optimist said on Apr 08, 2009....
Very suspicious to me, Rupe...I wouldn't respond.
~Infernal
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evil_twin said on Apr 08, 2009....
Rupert, this is a very well known scam. I've gotten these messages before too. Just delete it and move on. Eventually she'll ask you for money and stuff like that. Trust me. This is a huge email scam and the countries are often different and the situations, but it's always a tragic tale, and the goal is to ask you for money to get them to somewhere else, etc. Just ignore it, okay?
-evil_twin LA
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Hegemone said on Apr 08, 2009....
I'd be extremely suspicious and not buy into it Rupert. Sounds like she's just trying to get her claws in to you, get your guard down, get your sympathy ... and then get into your wallet. I wouldn't proceed any further, delete messages, etc. However, if you must correspond with her, do not give any personal information, I wouldn't even send a photo of yourself and make it clear that you are only friends and have no intentions for it going elsewhere. This is right in line with all of those Nigerian scammers. Be careful, okay? -
rupert7 said on Apr 08, 2009....
CW - Bad vibes for sure.....I didn't come down in the last shower!!! There are literally hundreds of young single men on that site, why is she targeting me??
Infernal.....she pesters me every day, but I am not stupid,though I do feel sorry for her.In the pictures she sent me she looks a real glamour puss!....refugee? Hm..??
evil - a young glamour puss ignoring all the young studs and throwing herself at the feet of a 58 year old grand pa!....yeah right! lol It is true that horrendous things beyond our comprehension happened in Rwanda, so I am inclined to feel sorry for her but I agree with you - hey I wasn't born yesterday!
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rupert7 said on Apr 08, 2009....
Hege.......you and the others here have confirmed my suspicions. Actually, my post "can we write a chain story between us," was inspired by her name,(Lolita) which I really like! I have not spoken a single word to this woman nor will I. She just suddenly popped out of "nowhere." I had never hear of her until she sent me an email on the other site. (She is a member there but has not contributed anything! Perhaps she is just scanning for "victims." I would say a good 80% of members are under 40, there are not a lot of us oldies there!
I am convinced it is a case of DANGER,DANGER,DANGER!!!!
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CreativeWoman said on Apr 08, 2009....
She probably thinks you have money, rupert. Don't let her play on your kind heart. I wouldn't respond to her at all. You may not be the only one she's sending that email to. You know?
CW
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travelr712 said on Apr 08, 2009....
don't answer that email or anything sent from this account or they will know they've contacted a computer they can use as a bot. your computer could unwittingly be used in a cyber attack. this is what's called 'phishing'. they're looking for anyone who will respond. like et said, delete it, forget about it and go on with your day, nothing good will come of it. -
queenparanoia said on Apr 08, 2009....
i think it's a scam... so just be careful rupert... -
rupert7 said on Apr 08, 2009....
CW and Trav....thanks for the advice, while I do have a soft heart I am not stupid! By the way CW she wouldnt get far on my bank balance, if she was lucky she might get outta sight on a dark night! lol -
rupert7 said on Apr 09, 2009....
Queenie - Thats what I thought,now everyone agrees I don't feel bad about getting rid of her! I don't even know where she came from in the fisrt place!! -
bluegum said on Apr 09, 2009....
Rupert old chap shes old stuff just brush her off ,hit the delete button you wont kill her in fact i think she might be a he ,they all use exotic names lol.blue. -
rupert7 said on Apr 09, 2009....
blue....I know - I know!......Lets get real here!- what would a hot 24 year old chick want with me?...apart from my wallet! And even if she just wanted sex, I am honestly not interested! (but I know thats not what she / he wants! LOL -
Hegemone said on Apr 09, 2009....
You know, I did suspect that that's where the name came from for the story. Heh, by the way, have you popped in to check on it lately? Isn't it turning into a riot, lol. -
uniquely-ironic said on Apr 09, 2009....
Your heart is in the right place but I think this is not above board at all. I'd not respond. The potential for trouble is too likely. -
rupert7 said on Apr 09, 2009....
Hege - look at my Help post, you might be just the ticket!! Pretty please? Well I thought Lolita sounded a good name for a villianess lol! The story is going great!!
uniquely - hey maybe you could join Hege.....your 23ish right? - perfect! Have a look at my Help! blog....pretty please. Don't worry,I will not get involved with Lolita, I am really not that silly.!
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starchini said on Apr 09, 2009....
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HollyGoLightly said on Apr 09, 2009....
*rupe*~ don thy armour and slay thy serpentine vixen!! with I as your resident doting-damsel-in-distress, she goeth where angels fear to tread, as hell hath no fury like *~*Holly*~* scorned!! as sweet as I may be, I am also quite vindictive and cunning when it comes to the defense of those close to my heart. shall I cast away my gown and crown for more suitable attire, mount my dapple gray steed, and zealously join you on the hunt for this poisonous, vicious, vile, contemptable harlot "Lolita", who so threatens the well-being and livelihood of my dear protector, and his flawless kingdom?? I carry upon my person a silken bag, secured round my waist, in it, a vial the contents of which has been known to fell giants, trolls and other repulsive creatures, ensuring their painful and torturous demise. I also carry, secured within a satin garter belt, a silver stake, which when plunged through the heart of this whore, will expose her true nature, cease and desist her human form here on earth, and banish her evil spirit to the place of unending darkness...you need only say the word, my dear knight... ;)*but seriously*~ by writing the above, I am only continuing our playful scenario in which, perhaps for once, I could save your day!! my very best advice is (if there is no way to block her), everytime you receive something like this from her, BEFORE you delete anything-- hit "REPORT SPAM", since whether or not it is "technically" considered spam, after hitting it enough times, they will pay attention and determine to block this type of mail from making it to your in box. I too, have had a similar experience. I reported, deleted, ignored, (don't ever respond!!), and also, reported it to my internet mail carrier, which got wonderful results, as I was receiving these e-mails several times per week. You may also do a search through your carrier as to the recommeded way to deal with these scammers, or google it, because there are many available "watchdog" groups- committed to ridding the internet of these preying criminals.You have a good heart *rupe*, which is why it probably bothered you at first...but like you said...you're not stupid, and have too much savvy and moral fortitude to be taken in by this garbage... let us know how it turns out please, I'd be interested to know what avenue of choice you decided on, and what ultimately worked for you.In the mean time~*~*~*blessings*~*~**~*Holly*~* -
RollingC said on Apr 09, 2009....
You have no idea how good these scammers are at pulling your heart strings and getting away with your loot...'cause that's what they are after.
If you never heard from her how did she hear from you?
All that aside....she good looking? Ask her to send you some pics showing some skin !
(just kidding) :^)
Rc
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GrapeKoolaid said on Apr 09, 2009....
Don't fall for it.
It's called a 419 scam. It's named after section 419 of the Nigerian penal code.
You know what you can do though... Is bait them. Get them to send you money, or at least take up their time so that they don't prey on other people. Make them think you're interested without ever sending them a penny. :)
Like this guy, or these guys.
More info on 419 can be found here.
From the last link:Internet Romance Scams/Pen Pal Scams
There are many variations of this type of scam but they all have one thing in common: The scammer always tries to develop a very personal and trusting long-term relationship with the victim over the internet. This relationship is often, but not always romantic. They like to use instant messaging to communicate.
Often the scammers will ask their victims to cash (fake) checks for them.
In one variation, the scammer will use the victim's address as a drop for expensive items purchased online with stolen credit card numbers. These items will start showing up at the victim's home. The scammer will then ask that the victim ship these items to him/her.
The scammers in this type of scam are very patient. They have been known to cultivate their relationship with their victim over a long period of time, sometimes more than a year.
You can usually meet these scammers at social websites. MySpace.com and most dating websites are overflowing with these scammers.
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GrapeKoolaid said on Apr 09, 2009....
Oh yeah... Forgot to add.
Your sister fell for a variation of the scam, I think.
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rupert7 said on Apr 09, 2009....
Star - Yeah, I know......but its so sad, don't you think, that people will stoop so low?
Holly - Ah my Lady! my heart doth like the lark at break of day arising from sullen earth sing hymns at heavens gate (shamelessly stolen from Shakespeare!) prithee gather thy potions, let us sally forth , a force most formidable! In mine eye I see thy wondrous form upon thy intrepid steed, a fearsome foe, destined to destroy yonder vixen! Come M'lady....let us away! I must confess, I have cast a spell of ine own upon yon harlot and me thinks she has fled! Here be the spell I cast upon her wretched form!:
evil woman.... I am a man in the autumn of his years but my senses have not deserted me unlike my hair, which long since fled, leaving just a silvery halo. An impressive array of wrinkles adorns my face and other secret parts of my torso! I can’t run…. Goodness, I can barely walk some days! Grumpy is my middle name and weariness is my shadow. None the less I am blessed with a devoted wife and family including delightful grand children, the seeds of the future. I am a man well contented, surrounded with love and Joy.
Alas an interloper who would destroy it all! A succubus of sorts has cast her evil shadow upon me! A callous predator! A young woman who came uninvited and showered me with glamorous pictures and winsome word designed to entice and charm then without a second thought destroy my life! The queen of scammers! – Shame on you Jezebel be gone!
Methinks perchance she is fled, for a certainty her tongue is stilled, for she speaketh no more!
Forsooth,on bent knee I beseech my gracious lady, let us ride regardless, yonder meadow doth beckon on this sunny day! Perfect for a dalliance! Come I beseech thee in all earnestness...come! lol
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rupert7 said on Apr 09, 2009....
Rolling - Is she good looking?....she sent 2 pictures (since deleted,even they can contain a trojan etc!) Good looking......she looked like a model beee- U- tif -uuul. A glamour puss! Expensively dressed, some refugee!!!
Rolling - I never contacted her at all. I joined another blog site and she was there already,3 days ahead of me,(you can check these things out on that site) she must have targeted me after I arrived. There is a facility much like personal messages here,she messaged me through that. I had a closer look at her,she has posted no blogs,she doesn't seem to have interacted at all! I can only conclude she is there only to target the vunerable! She got herself a tiger by the tail this time! lol
Grape - thanks for the info, if you read the above you will know that I did not fall for anything. I was initally concerned for her as it is true that horrendous things have happened in Rwanda and other 3rd world countries. Things inconceivable to us! But the name Dr. Alex Ruba.....that rings a faint bell in the back of my head for some reason, and so briefly lent her a little credibilty. But not for long! *smile*
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rupert7 said on Apr 09, 2009....
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HollyGoLightly said on Apr 11, 2009....
well, thank god for that! I loved your spell *rupe*!! how very effective it must have been!
*rolling c*~ I think that initial comment of yours was totally inappropriate as *rupert* was wrestling with a serious issue here...that wasn't very cool
*rupe*~ one more thing I wanted to add~ if this ever happens again, don't ever, under any circumstances copy those guys that determined themselves to "fight fire with fire". It inevitably backfires, and the penalties here in the civilized world are much more stringent and severe. Obviously, because this 419 scam has gone on for years, and they rarely catch up with the guys. But, you could easily be picked up for perpetuating fraud through an on-line ( or otherwise) connection. FCC stuff, etc. Oh yeah~ did anyone on here actually believe that girl sent her true pic? I hope you guys aren't that gullible...
ok~ my rant is over...
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rupert7 said on Apr 11, 2009....
Holly - I know that the day after I posted my "spell," Lolota had closed her account ant vanished as suddenly as "she" had appeared! I think he,she or it got the message!
The chick in the pictures I received was drop dead gorgous! She wasn't dressed in rags either,she looked like she had just stepped off the catwalk in some high fashon show! I think whoever sent that message saying they are mine forever is probably a 70 year old male that looks like a bag full of baboon bums! LOL You would have to be extremely desprate or intellectualy challenged to believe that a 24 year old would ignore all the young studs and throw herself at a 58 year old!
I don't want revenge,for what, I am unscathed, however it might be a good idea if you just keep the dapple gray saddled,M'lady! lol
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