I don't like doing serious punishments. Let me say that at the outset- it makes me feel grouchy and sad that I have to do so.
I think this comes from my mindset as a dom- my subs are cherished possessions, whom I prefer to take good care of and, if we're honest, spoil just a little bit. Now, in my mind I can reconcile the idea of discipline with caring properly for my pet, after all, if one has a dog, one has to teach it not to jump on the couch while it's wet and dirty so that pet and owner can live in happiness and harmony.
I can understand that, but I just can't feel it. While I'm not going to be sharing what my pet did to earn a true punishment, I will record what happened. Pet was given 15 minutes of corner time to reflect on her actions, and then was restrained and given her first introduction to my cane. For those of you keeping score, my cane is about two feet all up, with a wooden handle, and the striking end made of fibreglass coated in latex. It is, in a word, vicious. All up, she received 22 strokes to the backside and thighs.
It was odd, then, as little as I was enjoying it mentally, to find myself responding to it physically. I was aroused, even had an erection to prove it. I'd like to attribute that to the fact that I have a serious, serious fetish for using canes, and that in her pretty fishnets and garter belt, my pet was looking particularly ravishing as she took it. And she did take it very well.
Much as I don't like giving punishments, there is something wonderful in the aftermath of it, comforting my pet as she cried, feeling her slowly come down in my arms and curl into me, the anger over. Her trust in me, after having just hurt her to the point of tears, was incredibly touching. That's one of the simplest things about D/s relationships, and also one of the most powerful; the depths of trust it can build between two people and how resilient that bond is. Though I still don't enjoy doing punishments for real, I think last night was ultimately a positive thing. I learned that I do have it in me to punish and still be caring, and she learned that even though I do not like it, I don't fuck around when it needs to be done. I think that's an important lesson for both of us.
WyldWyl posted on Apr 03, 2009
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Sir. said on Apr 04, 2009....
:)
some things just make me smile, this post is one of them.
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WyldWyl said on Apr 04, 2009....
Ummm...thank you? -
WillsRose said on Apr 04, 2009....
thank You for sharing Your insight, Sir. -
rupert7 said on Apr 04, 2009....
sorry but I just don't get this kind of stuff! -
Sir. said on Apr 04, 2009....
it's cool rupert, a lot of people don't. -
pusscat said on Apr 05, 2009....
I thank you also Wyl Sir.
I know it isn't something that most Doms like to do but I can honestly say, if I were NOT to be punished for doing something that I really knew to be totally wrong, i would be so confused! To believe a punishment can take place then for it not to be followed through would be mind blowing in a very bad way for me. I speak from experience of the latter i'm afraid.
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anonymous said on Apr 10, 2009....
What exactly is the difference between this action taken, which you clearly state is a beating, and outright abuse? Domestic violence? In my opinion, and any right thinking person, there is none. -
Sir. said on Apr 10, 2009....
see rupe? told you a lot of people don't get it. -
WyldWyl said on Apr 13, 2009....
What is the difference between this anonymous attack on consensual behaviour between two people of legal age and outright trolling? Being a dipshit? In my opion, and any right thinking person's (that should be a plural, moron), there is none.
Go away, mind your own business, die in a fire and have a nice day. :D
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pusscat said on Apr 13, 2009....
anon - the difference is - now please pay attention - CONSENSUAL. When one partner beats the crap out of another cos he/she feels like it and the other one has no choice, that is abuse. When I can say 'Mercy, Mercy' or 'Red' or 'Amber' at any time I like to stop things, then I am in control of my own body and fate. I do hope that clarifies things a little. If I didn't like the type relationship I was in I would be out like a shot so again, it's about choice. -
Sir. said on Apr 17, 2009....
i figured the question really did not deserve a reply of more than a couple of words.
did'nt feel like wasting finger energy on something so obvious.
again, PC saves the day!!!!
woo PC!!!!
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PieterOpie said on Apr 20, 2009....
SILLY.
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