• silverwhisper said on Sep 01, 2006....

  your ex is a bit of an idiot, isn't he? in your position, i would let it be known to him that if he thinks it's OK to talk about those things you shared w/ friends, you could do the same.
  
  although i'll confess, i've always found it a really great thing to hear about oneself. of course, maybe i'm just a pervert. :>
  
  ed
  

• defector said on Sep 01, 2006....

  i think i'm not that unlucky as yet. don't have girls saying things about me and stuff.. i don't mentioned about them.. as love making is really personal. couple don't describe the scenes to a 3rd party. it the couple does.. it isn't a love relationship to me. more like a fling
  

• anarchist said on Sep 01, 2006....

  Ed, I neither tell nor brag about what he says. I mean, it would definitely look bad on my part, right? In any case, those people who have heard him say that "I'm the best he ever had" are now quite interested in me.
  
  It's a bad thing. Not a good thing. That last sentence.
  
  Defector, me and my ex broke up last year. He's telling his friends now - while he's seeing other girls - about that (see above or see entry). I hope our 2 and a half years together is not considered as a "fling" to him. In any case, do you tell people about intimacies you had with someone? (even if you didn't specify who)
  

• secretlife said on Sep 01, 2006....

  the best he ever had in what sense?
  
  the best girlfriend he ever had? Ok, that's a compliment.
  
  the best friend? ok, that's a compliment.
  
  the best fuck? hmmm....i'm not so sure I'd take that as a compliment.
  
  So it depends on the best what.
  

• silverwhisper said on Sep 01, 2006....

  anarchist: i don't think you're understanding me. every man fears what an ex will say of his performance or endowments. every man. he could be a porn star and hung like a rhino. he's still afraid. or he would be if he had two brain cells to rub together.
  
  ed
  

• anarchist said on Sep 01, 2006....

  SL, this is going to be hard to say.
  
  *ahem* He said: Best (1) girlfriend, (2) friend, (3) LOVER - in ALL the sense of the word.
  
  BTW, I was talking about how he was talking about how good I was with #3.
  
  Ed, NOW I understand what you meant! But I won't go as low as tell people what I think of his.. er, performance.
  

• silverwhisper said on Sep 02, 2006....

  o, i wasn't suggesting that you should.
  
  i was however suggesting you should remind him that what he's doing is rude and if you were particularly displeased, you could give him reason to regret it. :>
  
  ed
  

• anarchist said on Sep 03, 2006....

  Suggestion appreciated, but it was a bad breakup, see, and with a LONG and SAD history that I learned and grew up from. I neither regret nor deny it. I simply moved on from it and I think, he hasn't even tried to.
  
  It's really sad, but I won't try to convince you. Just take my word for it ;)
  

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