I would like to begin by saying Thank You to everyone for the warm welcome you have extended to me.
Today's post will be about respect. I have found that over the years, in my experience, although you may think the lines are drawn quite clearly, they are in fact, not. There is no clear cut specifications. The D/s relationship doesn't come with a rule book, although we may wish that it would!
Each individual Dom in His own relationship should draw the lines clearly, and from the beginning with his sub partner. The sub always takes your lead, Sirs, and is left confused, upset, and insecure if you have not taken the lead, and drawn the lines clearly with her. She wants and needs direction, limitation, and attention. Many Doms have clear expectations of their subs, but don't adequately communicate these expectations, again leaving her insecure and unsure of how to behave, or respond.
I also find, to my great disappointment, many Doms who believe that they should be respected, however their sub is not in need of any special consideration simply because of her position as sub. So untrue! A Dom should always carry himself as the Lion, the Master. Always above reproach, always the protector of the D/s relationship. As the Master, you Sirs have the responsibility of making sure that not only is your sub respected in every way by yourself, but also by everyone around her, and anyone that may come in contact with her. It is your responsibility to ensure that she is not shamed, humiliated, or made to feel anything LESS than the beautiful, willing, loving sub that gladly serves you.
How often it will come to my attention, and again I will say, this is not common to all Doms, but to the ones that do behave in a disrespectful manner towards their subs, (they may not even consider that they are being disrespectful here) but it is a fine line she walks each day, keeping your reputation intact, if she is a good sub, she does her part to protect the relationship, but you must be the strength that she can rely on, you must do all you can to ensure that your D/s relationship is like a cocoon of your protection, love, support and respect of this woman you have chosen to bind yourself to. Again, BE ABOVE REPROACH, in other words, do not sink to the base level in your dealings with others. You must show her the example of strength in your relationship. Do not ever allow yourself to do anything that should, in front of others especially, embarrass, or humiliate her. Do not ever allow yourself to sink to the base level of someone weak, in flesh, thought, or deed with another. You must at all costs defend your sub, and your relationship with her, never contributing anything to unnecessarily cause her pain or cause her humiliation in the eyes of others, or put her in the situation of trying to come up for an explanation of your disrespectful behavior, when of course, she will not have one.
I realize I blog consistantly with regards to the behavior of a Dom with his pet. I do this only through my own years of experience, hoping anything I may pass on to others should be helpful, and maybe useful in their own relationships. The situations above, with regard to respect, I use as example, and with the unspoken word that the sub is a good sub, and deserves to be elevated to a level of honor in your life, for all she is, does, accepts, gives up. If she has expressed her love and devotion, her wished to please you, if she has demonstrated her willingness to bend to you, then it is your responsibility, duty and should be your pleasure, to hold her in the highest of esteem, like gold above the heads of others, and protect her and her status, that she should not be knocked down from her worthy position by anyone.
