my friend has a big problem right now and i want your guys opinion about this...
this is what happened...
my friend's boss is having an affair with one of her coworkers. she actually caught them in the act when they were on their company outing. they thought my friend was drunk and asleep, they had sex in that room while my friend was asleep!!! well she wasnt really asleep. and its not a one time thing they have done it for a few months now. here's the problem. my friend's boss is a married man with a kid. the coworker has a boyfriend who works in the same company! my friend actually confront her coworker but i think the coworker was stupid or something because she keeps denying it and saying there's nothing wrong with it...
here's the real problem...
the boss's wife called my friend tonight. asking information about the coworker. she wants a confirmation that her husband really has an affair with coworker. she was even asking for the complete name and birthday. my friend didnt reveal anything to the boss's wife. first of all she doesnt want to meddle with the affairs of her boss and she doesnt want her work to be affected with this.
although my friend feels bad to the boss's wife.
i told her to talked to her coworker about this and end the relationship. and i also told her that she needs to talked to her boss about this. tell him that my friend is aware of the affair and he needs to do the right thing. my friend and her boss are friends so i think she's needs to this as his friend...
anyway what would you do if you were on my friend's situation? would you tell the wife even if it would affect your work?
queenparanoia posted on Mar 23, 2009
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uniquely-ironic said on Mar 23, 2009....
You friend needs to tell the wife to talk to her husband. Never get in the middle of something like that would be my advice. Steer clear of the coworker and boss as much as possible. They will eventually get caught, they always do. -
fragglesrock said on Mar 23, 2009....
eeeww. what a prickly situation. although i agree with what uni said i have also been on the other end of that stick, albeit not in a work situation...but still. my ex-husband had an affair and noone told me. people around me knew about it and had the balls to look me in the eye and pretend not to know anything. it's a bad feeling knowing that everyone is keeping a secret from you. considering the fact that this is a work situation i would have to agree that your friend needs to keep out of it. BUT, the boss and friend brought her into it the moment they decided to the wildthing in the same room as her (whether they thought she was sleeping/drunk or whatever, it was inappropriate of them in soooo many ways to do that to her)
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queenparanoia said on Mar 23, 2009....
uni: yeah they eventually get caught. the coworker is a real whore. my friend's words...lol...
fraggle: i understand that the wife has the right to know but the problem is that my friend's work is on the line here. although i believe that the wife already knows. she just want some proof...
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uniquely-ironic said on Mar 23, 2009....
This can only end badly. Your friend's coworker will definately get the worst of it. -
Hegemone said on Mar 23, 2009....
Well to begin with, I would have gone to both the boss and the coworker and told them both that I knew what was going on, how I knew what was going on and that I felt it was unfair for me to be in that situation. Now, it might depend on my financial stability (or the future of it), but if I knew I would be financially OK I might even consider giving up the job if the two of them didn't rectify it (especially considering that even if the boss stopped fooling around with THAT coworker, what says he won't do it with another and land me in the same place ... or cause the company's demise, thus losing me my job anyway)... if I couldn't financially hack it then I would tell them that I wouldn't lie for them but that I wouldn't go out spreadling stories either. If asked by somebody who has the right to know (who's business it is) then I would openly tell them, if somebody was asking who had no right to know, then they would be told nothing. -
diabolicdame said on Mar 23, 2009....
Tell your friend to stay out of it completely.. to tell the wife she doesnt know anything.. keep away from the boss and coworker. jus dont get involved at all!! She'll be the one stuck with answering people at the end! -
secretlife said on Mar 23, 2009....
i would never get in the middle of this-it's between the husband and wife.period. -
travelr712 said on Mar 23, 2009....
it's hard to know exactly what the right thing to do here is from your description -
travelr712 said on Mar 23, 2009....
sorry, got cut off.because it is such a delicate situation and i don't really know the circumstances of the company or the relationships of the people involved. if they're all just 'work friends', not personal friends, i'd stay out of it and not let on that i know anything. -
husbandhater said on Mar 23, 2009....
Hell no your friends 1st obligation is to her family. And in this economy she can't afford to be searching for employment. I'd play dumb and stay out of it. If I were the wife I'd be upset but I'd understand. Either way the wife will be taken care of but what about your friend? No I'd say I don't know anything and if you suspect anything you obviously know where we work and what time Quitting time is. This is also what a private Dick is for.
Sad to say but affairs of the heart are messy and no sense getting caught up in what is NOT your business. She's not doing him the other girl is.
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Twylarants said on Mar 23, 2009....
I agree with HH, this isn't your friend's business. She should forget she saw anything. I think the wife was wrong to involve her in the first place. -
CayenneMan said on Mar 23, 2009....
Tell you're friend to start looking for another job. -
Lioness said on Mar 23, 2009....
If the wife needs to prove that there is something going on between her husband and your friend's co-worker, she should do more research -- on her own. I presume the loyalty of an employee would always be to the boss, so your friend did the right thing not divulging things that are not of her concern.
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rupert7 said on Mar 23, 2009....
I would simply mind my own business!! -
GrapeKoolaid said on Mar 23, 2009....
[facepalm]
Not the way to get ahead in the company at all...
[In between sobs repeat, "not like this...."]
Though apparently for the boss, the right way to get just a little head in the company. :D
If only there was a way for your friend to benefit from the situation... Like... Blackmail...
Now we're talkin, yeah? :D
No seriously... Tell your friend to RUN. The less she has to do with that mess, the better. Just tell her to act as shocked as the next guy.
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queenparanoia said on Mar 24, 2009....
uniquely: oh yeah... considering her boyfriend works in the same company...
hegemone: my friend can't lose her job. she's the breadwinner of her family. anyway i told her the same thing. confront the two... i hope it works.
diabolic: i wish it would be that easy but what if the wife keeps asking her??? tricky right?
secretlife: yes. it's only between them. my friend did not intentionally get in the middle.
trav: well let's just hope that my friend would not get in trouble over this... ;-)
husbandhater: this is what i'm scared for my friend because jobs are scarce nowadays... oh god... why can't they do their affairs secretly???
twylarants: i think the wife just want some proof. anyway don't worry my friend didnt say anything...
cayenneman: if onnly that would be easy...
lioness: i acutally got scared when the wife asked for the complete name and birthday...she might do something scary!!! ;-)
rupert: yeah... but it's hard when youre already in the middle of this...
grape: wahahahhahahaha yup he did get a lot of head!!!! wahahhahahha. anyway i suggested blackmail... lol... i know scary... ;-)
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queenparanoia said on Mar 24, 2009....
thanks for sharing guys. it's nice having different perspective about this... ;-) -
PieterOpie said on Mar 24, 2009....
I would start looking for another job straight away and let them all stew in their own juices. They all deserve each other. -
queenparanoia said on Mar 24, 2009....
pieteropie: :-) -
PieterOpie said on Mar 24, 2009....
DON"T get involved. Trust me. If you're not careful you'll get swept up in the drama and it could get very unpleasant and before you know it, it will be all your fault for some weird reason.....
RUN!!!!!
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queenparanoia said on Mar 24, 2009....
piet: my friend is not getting involve... -
CayenneMan said on Mar 24, 2009....
Your friend fell into a bad situation and it wasn't her fault. She's tainted with knowledge of an incident and now she's a piece of evidence. Life sucks at times and this is one of those times. It's not fair but from this point on she'll always be an icon of truth and there is no way out. I hope I'm wrong but I think she'll always feel uncomfortable being employed around this mess.
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PieterOpie said on Mar 24, 2009....
Yes... Your friend. I meant your friend.
You really did mean your friend? It's not secretly you is it? Or are you the one having the affair? Maybe you are the actually the boss pretending to be the friend of the wife and the kid..... Hang on.... if you and your friend slept with the wife and.....NO, NO, NO!!!! That's all wrong. OK the kid and the boss were sleeping with your friend who is you and the wife is the kid....... ??? #%@&%$!!!!!!
This is why I don't have affairs at work..............
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queenparanoia said on Mar 24, 2009....
cayenneman: she feels like shit after that call. i mean what's the right thing to do??? life sucks alright...
piet: lol.... i'm currently jobless right now... ;-) -
PieterOpie said on Mar 24, 2009....
WHAT???!!!! I tried to warn you didn't I? OMG!!! You see what it all leads to?
Well, I hope it was worth it. I hope you learned your lesson and won't be sleeping with everybody you work with next time.....
Boy.... what a slut!!! Shame shame shame......
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queenparanoia said on Mar 24, 2009....
piet: dude are you high or something??? lol... ;-) -
butterfly43123 said on Mar 26, 2009....
The dude is already busted on his own.... sit back and watch him burn -
butterfly43123 said on Mar 26, 2009....
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queenparanoia said on Mar 26, 2009....
butter: oh yeah i'll do that... ;-)
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