• secretlife said on Mar 21, 2009....

  no matter how many precautions you take, you can't assume that people you don't want to see what you write or what you're looking at etc on the internet won't be able to- 
  there are no guarantees-
  so if you don't want your parents to see what you're saying, you just don't write it down.
   
  if you really care about your parents, you'll go see them and talk to them.

• pinkdiamonds11 said on Mar 22, 2009....

  I have seen them, and I have talked to them.  They have never listened to a word I have said.  I have tried and tried and tried.  Everytime I try and say something, I am interrupted, yelled at, and lectured at.  Everyone says to me then if they interrupt you then say "Mom and Dad before you say anything, I have some things to say and please klet me finish."  It has never worked.  What am I suppose to do? Not write what I am feeling?  I will take some advice from you, but I am saying that I have already tried.

• simplyconfused said on Mar 22, 2009....

  Oh dear :( this is really really a terrible situation. Your stuck in a rut basically, and your trying to climb out and fix things, but your mom just isn't letting you. I think your going to have to try and tell her your feelings, and try get your side of the story out. Maybe write an e-mail? And say, since you wont' let me speak in person without interrupting me, I have to say this impersonally. Will she read it all, well I don't know. It's possible. but it's trying, have you ever tried to write an e-mail trying to explain what you want to say to her in person? If not perhaps that would work. Mind you after you press send, you'll probably freak out waiting for her to read it. But if she reads it maybe she'll understand.. That's the best I can come up with right now.. I hope that, at some point things can be worked out. I really really do!!
  
  
  ~Simplyconfused

• Hegemone said on Mar 22, 2009....

  Well you're in a bit of a pickle for sure.  I learned my lesson about personalized blogging (i.e. not anonymous) a while ago.  All you can do is sit down and have a talk, work through whatever upsetting words were said, and continue on.  The bruises will still be there, but maybe don't blog about personal things like that on Myspace anymore ... somebody always has a way of finding out, and if you try to delete the people who are their gateway, then that causes a big problem because they want to know why they've been deleted.  That's what happened when I encountered my big deal with the Myspace blogging and I haven't blogged there since.  It might suck for a while, but all you can really do is muddle through it and try to learn something.  Maybe it'll be better after a while that some of the truth has come out.

• pinkdiamonds11 said on Mar 22, 2009....

  simplyconfused and hegemone- thankx for the advice! I will honestly keep trying, its just very very hard right now.  Yes I have said in an email what I have wanted to say to her in person, but once again she wants it to always be her way.  She likes to say stuff, but not listen.  I will though keep trying, we will see how this goes

• simplyconfused said on Mar 22, 2009....

  Your welcome... I think that's all you can do is keep on trying. Hopefully she will end up realizing how closed minded she's being.  It's terribly frustrating when people won't just sit and see things from all sides of a situation, when it's right in front of them!! *sigh*
  
  
  I do wish you uber amounts of luck with this situation, and that one day your mom will have all of this behind her, and she will be saying sorry to you.

• starchini said on Mar 23, 2009....

  Id apologize if you wrote anything mean about your parents.  Explain the true stuff in the nicest way possible, apologize for anything said in the heat of the moment that may have been harsh.  If ive learned anything from fighting with my parents its that most of the things i dislike about them dont come close to how much i love them.  Its important to not burn bridges.  And sometimes things are better left unsaid.  Your parents prolly arnt gonna change and they prolly dont see things the way you do.  That being said, learning to accept people as they are is important especially with family. 

• TessMarie said on Mar 24, 2009....

  It's funny i'm going through basically the same situation, but with my dad. I mean it's never ending he looks through my text messages looks over my shoulder on myspace and i'm sure that if he knew I had a blog he'd be all up on the internet too.
  But my advice would be to tell her how you feel, although you may be confused about what to say just say your honest feelings. Otherwise you'll just end up in this situation for awhile.
  As for me, I'm still working up the courage to tell my dad how I feel. But have more courage than me and tell her how you feel. :)
  

• pinkdiamonds11 said on Mar 24, 2009....

  tessmarie---
   
  Thank you for your advice.  I am sorry you are going through the same thing, only with your dad =(.  I have tried telling my mom in person, phone and email how I have felt, but everytime I do, it becomes a lecture.  I went to go see my Aunt today and she isnt surprised this is all happening.  She thought my mom would give it up, but she is not.  I do not know how to explain my mom, I guess you would have to know her in order to see it personally.  It's very hard right now.  I keep on trying, but right now I am giving my Mom some space so she can try to cool off.
   
  Thanks for the Advice=)

• anna.lucia said on Mar 27, 2009....

  I have a bad relationship with my mum - we can't talk without it ending in screaming. She's very unrealistic - really lives in her own world. I, like you, love my mum and family but my mom always makes something wrong between us. I hate it and wish we could just get along and have peace. It's frustrating to keep trying and not get what you want in these sitations, I know. I'd probably just write another blog about my mom reading my blog. I'd say how I feel I guess. But communication is impossible sometimes...sorry you are having this problem. I relate to the heartache...

• pinkdiamonds11 said on Mar 27, 2009....

  anne.lucia- it sounds like you and I have kinda have the same situation going on.  I just do not know how to handle this situation, i honestly dont.  i have tried soo hard, nothing seems to work.  I am hoping one day, we can get through this.  I would like to be one of those daughters who have an awesome relationship with their moms.  Hopefully soon, one day. Thanks again!

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