Here in India, the entire approach to sex is different from what you have in the west. There is absolute traditional system when it comes to marriage. There is traditional methods of verifying the horoscopes and to see whether the couple would have compatibility after marriage. This practice is prevalant in all the societies here. Pre marital sex is very rare and not encouraged at all. Girl has got to be a virgin and there is no second thoughts about it. There have been rare occasions when the girl is subjected to a medical examination to verify whether her virginity is in tact. But no such tests are conducted on a groom.
Totally unknown to each other when they meet for the first time in a bed room for their first night they may not indulge in any sex at all. They may get to know each other and postpone sex for the subsequent nights.
Because of the strictly laid social rules in all societies, there are violators everywhere. Such violations get maximum publicity and they are socially boycotted.
varada posted on Aug 30, 2006
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secretlife said on Aug 30, 2006....
i cannot believe things are still done that way-
i know people from india that come here, work, and STILL go back to marry in their families arranged marriages.
It's mind boggling for me-
I just want to know what happens when you don't like the person you find yourself married to?
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varada said on Sep 02, 2006....
Failure in marriages are not uncommon. But it is much less than elsewhere. They adjust in their new life making sacrifices on either sides.
Marriage is not just a social contract between a boy and girl. It is considered to be a relationship between two families. They all join to make the marriage a success. It works wonderfully.
There may be some cases of failure. Which system promises a cent per cent success?
There are love marriages also. In some cases, families agree for their new relationships and in some cases there may be total disagreement. In love marriages also there are failures. Girls who come away from their families after her marriage may have to go back to her parents if her marriage breaks.
Such instances are also common.
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secretlife said on Sep 02, 2006....
In the US the divorce rates are 50% so I can't imagine anything being much worse.
So are you in an arranged marriage?
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Susmaryosep said on Sep 02, 2006....
Surprisingly, arranged marriages seldom break up, I guess the couples try that much harder to make it work. The women is such cases are long suffering ladies, and I admire their resoluteness in the circumstances.. My neighbour's daughter is 'modern' but daughter of a Punjabi family, and still had to agree to an arranged marriage, to a guy in England, albeit of the same race..... I think she is happy though!
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varada said on Sep 07, 2006....
In India, inspite of arranged marriages, the divorce rates are not much. Every community adopts only arranged marriages. But love marriages are not rare. There are instances even love marriages end up in divorce.
But divorce rates are much less than in US.
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