growing up i have a male cousin who always competes with me.
don't worry it's more like a friendly competition for us. it's like we always compare each others success and what we have.
and my cousin is extremely competitive. especially with me. when we argue he always wants to prove that he's right. even if sometimes he's wrong, he always wanted to be right.
one day, we argue about the high school musical movie. it was just a simple argument but he really made a big deal out of it. in the end he proved that he was correct and i was wrong and then he has this smug look on his face. sounds childish right?
i told him, " cousin, what pleasure do you get knowing that youre right?"
it startled him in a bit because he didnt answer back.
i mean so what if youre right? and then i'm wrong? is something wrong with that?
okay youre right and i'm wrong... i learn from that and then move on.
he on the other hand always have to be right and doesnt want to admit that he's wrong.
i notice this in everyday life. even here in soulcast.
some people always want to prove that theyre right. but do not consider that they can be wrong too.
i guess they cannot admit the fact that they can be wrong.
i admire people who humble themselves. who accepted the mistakes and accepted that their perspective can be wrong too. it shows how open their mind is to all the possibility there is.
after that me and my cousin actually became closer. he was more nicer to me because after what i said he now open his mind and understands my point of view. he actually asks for advice now. in the past he just think that only his opinion is right.
so my question to you soulcasters, what pleasure do you get knowing that youre right?
so what if you are right? would that prove something? is it the way you measure your self worth?
the queen wants some answers... lol...
keep on blogging!!!
queenparanoia posted on Mar 17, 2009
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CayenneMan said on Mar 17, 2009....
Hello queenparanoia, I find it very easy to admit when I'm wrong, it just doesn't happen very often :o) . -
queenparanoia said on Mar 17, 2009....
cayenneman: that's because you have many life experiences to back you up... ;-)
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Lioness said on Mar 17, 2009....
Oftentimes, I encounter people who are like that... but would you believe queen that some people, at least those who are close to me, argue for the sake of argument?? I mean just for the fun of it.
But some make it a point to argue and prove that they are right even if they are not.. Hmm... Personally, I do not like arguments. If I've said my point, that's it. If someone negates or disagrees, I don't take it negatively. afterall, everybody is entitled to his or her own opinion. :D -
queenparanoia said on Mar 17, 2009....
lioness: argue for the sake of argument? oh god i know a lot of people like that! miss you ate lioness!!! and congrats for the baby!!! -
Lioness said on Mar 17, 2009....
thanks a lot queen!!! namiss din kita! di ko na alam ang mga nangyayari sa buhay buhay, pero i am trying to catch up. :D -
GrapeKoolaid said on Mar 17, 2009....
I imagine the smug satisfaction of always being right is enough. >:P
I wouldn't know. I'm seldom right. I'm more often wrong. :)
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queenparanoia said on Mar 18, 2009....
lioness; i'm fine thank you. still looking for a job...;-)
grapekoolaid: that smug satisfaction doesnt last long. knowing youre wrong i think is the right answer... ;-)
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uniquely-ironic said on Mar 18, 2009....
well that's a can of worms kind of question! LOLWhile I don't like being wrong, I am accutely aware that I don't know everything and that I have been wrong often. I admit it feels much better when I'm right, not because the other person is wrong, but because I know I didn't get it wrong.I try not to rub it in. I probably could do better at that some times. -
beyondtheveil said on Mar 18, 2009....
queenie- It seems like most arguments are ever settled, so I rarely know if I'm right. I'm kinda like grape, I wouldn't know. -
queenparanoia said on Mar 18, 2009....
uniquely: thanks for sharing... ;-)
beyond: i gues it depends on the situation... ;-)
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HollyGoLightly said on Mar 18, 2009....
*queenie*queenie*queenie* ((hugs))it's been a while girl... :)I've never had a problem admitting when I'm wr...wr...wr...um...incorrect...It comes so easily, as I am ALWAYS RIGHT!!! ;) (wicked witch cackle)*~*Holly*~* -
fragglesrock said on Mar 18, 2009....
oooh! very tough question! i LOVE being right! i feel that when i'm right i can trust myself in the future much easier -
blaster said on Mar 18, 2009....
This thing about being wrong or right?
Ya know, i am guilty too i think of having to prove my point at all costs, and it does cause no end of friction and resentment.
truth of the matter is, if you are right, then you don't need to make a point of it.
You can simply be comfortable and not have to say a word. You can just keep it to yourself, unless of course it has some impact on you.
I mean speeding tickets, phone bills, interest payments, they matter yeah, but all this other stuff like trivial pursuit kinda of things has no bearing and doesn't really tell us anything, except that the person (i include myself here) who is so insistent about it, well, they might tell us they're right, but they also tell us they have underlying issues with their ego, their personality, all kinds of things. Offer a correction, sure, but get all nasty about it? Just scratch beneath the surface and what do we see?
and to that ends, admitting you're wrong and thanking the other person for correcting you, that can be a really nice feeling, like someone helps you by correcting you. That they care enough to correct you, it can be very sweet. -
queenparanoia said on Mar 18, 2009....
holly: LOL... well it's hard to admit youre wrong, right? ;-)
fraggle: hello fraggles. yeah but when youre wrong you could learn to be right. lol i'm confusing myself.
blaster: you ave a good point. it is indeed nice that someone is helping you to learn by correcting you... ;-)
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Hegemone said on Mar 18, 2009....
Eh, when I know I'm right it doesn't really give me any extra thrill or anything. I mean, more often than not I have my own self doubt, so, lol, I always wonder if I'm wrong. That's one reason I love coming here because when I'm in doubt I can get a confirmation at least, lol. If anything, at least knowing takes the stress of worrying about it away. -
queenparanoia said on Mar 18, 2009....
hegemone: yeah it does get the stress off... ;-) i think it's normal to have self doubt about everything. youre not always right, right? -
PieterOpie said on Mar 24, 2009....
I no longer derive a great deal of pleasure from being right. Since I am always right it has become so commonplace and expected that it is like a drug that has lost its potency. The problem is that when you are right you are right. You cannot be more right. Therefore the satisfaction has a dulled edge. It no longer cuts like a keenly honed sword. It's more like a butter-knife.
I am seriously thinking of faking being wrong for a while....... This is the price of perfection.
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queenparanoia said on Mar 24, 2009....
piet: :-) whatever works for you... ;-)
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