• simplyconfused said on Mar 18, 2009....

  Hello Hello.
  So your mother does seem like a rather stressful person and it's pretty terrible.
  Have you ever tried to explain to her how your feeling? And tell her your trying everything you can, but you just feel like no matter what it's just not good enough for her? If not, that should probably happen, and if you already have and she's still not listening, I don't know what your supposed to do. She has to realize you have your own life now, and that your trying to keep her a part of your life, but if she can't accept certain things, and she wants you to change how YOU want to live, she's making things harder. 
  Ultimately it's YOUR life not hers. And your going to do things that she may not like, but she has to accept you make your own decisions now, and she should be supportive of it, and help you and when you need it and if you ask for it, and not try guilt trip you to make you do what she wants you to do ...
   Not sure if that will give you any other views on things. Hope it helps a bit. :)
  ~~Simplyconfused

• pinkdiamonds11 said on Mar 18, 2009....

  Thanx Simplyconfused! I honestly have tried EVERYTHING! My mom, everyone knows she is a very stubborn person.  The worst is that, my dad kinda gets where I'm coming from on some things, but other things no.  It's just really hard cause I donot know what to do.  Is it cause the way I moved out?  Is it cause I live with my boyfriend? what is it? She moved out a 18 and had a baby!  I just ugggh it is very stressful because I want a relationship.  I have said I'm sorry, I have tried tellinf her to let me speak and then everytime or right after it is always and i do mean ALWAYS a lecture.  I am 18 years old soon to be 19 in a few weeks, what am I suppose to do, not go out and find out things for my self or actually do something about it.  If I dont do things on my own I will be sheltered all my life and always be spoiled and think I can always get what I want.  Let me into the real world, and that is what my boyfriend does to help me.

   

  Simplyconfused..i am sooo stressed!

• simplyconfused said on Mar 18, 2009....

  I think there is only so much YOU can do to try and keep the relationship. It does take two to tango. Your mom has to work every bit as hard as you to keep the relationship. I have no idea WHY she is being so difficult with you. Maybe she's just in denial about you growing up and having to live your own life, she seems kind of close minded. And for the most part when people are closed minded there isn't much you can do to change how they think. They just stick to what they think and that's that. 
  You have to live your own life and have your own experiences, and make mistakes. You'll learn a lot more that way instead of as you said being sheltered. Your not a little girl anymore, you can make your own decisions. 
  Maybe your mom needs more of a wake up call .. maybe you need your mom to apologize to you, I don't know. I have no idea where her mind is and what she's thinking, and WHY she's being like this.. :S
  
  
  I'm really sorry your in this situation! Just thinking about it and trying to figure it out, it's really confusing! :(
  ~~Simplyconfused

• pinkdiamonds11 said on Mar 18, 2009....

  trust me, it is VERY confusing! I do remember the last time I was this confused.  What is going on is crazy! Did you read my first few blogs talking about how I moved out and everything?? My mom always told me that she had my whole life planned out for me.  First of all, you cannot plan my life.  I dont know, maybe she doesnt want me to get hurt?  I do not know, My boyfriend loves me and cares so much for me, he is not the type of guy to run off on me or ever hurt me.  I know him too well, and trust me I have been hurt before.  I just uuuggggghhh stress!  Everything I say or do...never going to acknowledge that I actually might be right for the first time ever in my life.  She always thought since she is a mom, she is always right, which is true for the most part, but what is going on now, I feel what I am doing is right.  My aunt and uncle agree, my Nana agrees, my friends a lot of people.  It's just really really hard=(

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