• PAPERBACKWRITER said on Feb 28, 2009....

  
  Welcome back to SoulCast, Face!
  
  I will come back later.
  
  For now, I would like to say, I am glad you are here again.
  
  Writing down your thoughts, documenting your life it is just but one step to having a better grip of it and making changes for the better.  I hope you will have comfort and lots of insightful thoughts and wisdom from other members of this community.
  
  Please comment around so they will be aware you are here, and that way they can also get to know you.  It will also be nice to write a background about you (only that which you are comfortable to share!).
  
  Again, I wish you joy.
  
  Much, much love!
  
  ***muaaaahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh***
  
  paper ~
  
  
  
  

• gingersoul said on Feb 28, 2009....

  Hello Face....first, welcome back to Soulcast!...:-)
  
  Your post reminded me of my first reaction when my daughter (13) decided she wanted to meet my ex husband new family. She had refused to meet them for a long time and i actually had been the one to impose him to go with her to a psychologist so that the two of them could overcome this block she was having, block generated by resentment, anger, sense of being neglected, abandoned, not loved, degraded to a secondary role and most of all jealousy.
  
  She finally agreed to meet them.
  
  And i stared to be the jealous one...I admit that anytime she was coming back from some week end with them and she was praising something nice that they would have done together, well, i was churning inside. I got hurt the first time she told me she actually was starting to like her stepmom.
  What can i say? We are humans.
  I let go some sarcastic comments here and there but she firmly told me she didnt appreciate me being this negative and i immediately stopped. She is way too mature for her age....lol...
  
  I kept those bursts of jealousy  for msyelf, and now that i read your post i am very happy i did so....
  
  See, i understand your mom...she loves you, no matter what. Maybe she doesn't express her love in the way she should or you would like to...but she loves you and she feels theathened by the idea that one day you might definitely choose the other "mom" instead of her...
  
  Its a scary thought, believe me.
  
   
  She sees you leaving and finding a new home in another woman house.....True, she should show with acts her love and being more respectful of you with giving you a serene enviroment ...but sometimes people just can't...they get too wrapped up in theri emotional issues..
  
  You seem mature and wise.....why don't you tell your mom that you would love not to be forced to run away ....that you would love to have her as a mom 24/7, 12 months a year? True is that you too have all the rigth to fidn love and balance where you can ....and if this place is your boyfriend's home....well, at least you found another home and you dont wander alone in the streets.....
   
  I wish you peace and love..:-)
  
  .
  

• FaceUnknown. said on Feb 28, 2009....

  Dear Ginger,
  Thanks for your coment!
  That's what i mean about motherly advice.
  Something I can think about.
  I wanna do fun things with my mother but sometimes she makes it inpossible, you know?
  I'm glad you feld conected with my story.
  I'll read a story of you 2, hope i'll feel the same way, it'll be fun
  Greetz Face
   
  Dear Paper,
  Thanks for this coment back.
  I'll think about that documentry about myself.
  Maybe it will be a great thing
  See you soon
  I love you
   
  Greetz Face

• anonymous said on Feb 28, 2009....

  HUGS !!!!
  <3<3<3
  
  Papa
  

• Hegemone said on Feb 28, 2009....

  Well, first, hello and nice to meet you Face!  I hope you have a lovely stay here, you're second time at SC.  I'm sure that's got to be hard to deal with, especially when you're at such a young age and trying to deal with all the other stresses of being a teenager, as you mentioned.  I don't know a lot about you, so I'm just speaking from what I've read here, please understand that first.
  
  In relation to getting into an argument with your mother and then leaving to go to your 2nd home, I can see how it would make your mother jealous, especially knowing you call somebody else "mom".  It hurts her and she doesn't know what to do to fix it, so she lashes out, screams, yells, gets physical and speaks ill of the people whom you have grown to love and are so attached to.   It may be the only way she knows how to strike out and try to keep you to herself.  That does not excuse the behavior, and I'm very sorry to hear you must deal with that.  I've been physically abused by a parent, so I understand how painful (emotionally, mentally and physically) that can be.  Have you ever gotten to tell her just how much it pains you that she does this, perhaps at a time when she is in a peaceable mood?
  
  Also, perhaps you could begin a new pattern.  Maybe discuss this with your mother before just deciding to do it, so she understands. Perhaps you could leave and go to your 2nd home, just for a little while (an hour or so), long enough for both of you to calm down, and then come back and talk calmly.  That way, perhaps you will not have to get into such heated arguments.  You could explain to your mother that she is still your only mother, you love her dearly, and it hurts you to argue so badly with her, you just want to make things work and be able to get along.   I would like to ask, if its not too personal or painful to share, what is it that seems to get you two into such bad arguments?  Is it this way with every disagreement?  Are these particularly bad arguments only over your 2nd family?
  
  Without knowing much more, and not knowing you better, I'm not sure what more to say.  I hope some of this will help.  However, one last thing, you do have one thing to your advantage, you are young.  You have plenty of time to sort things out, and perhaps when you are old enough, to live on your own and mend the relationship with your mother.  If for nothing else, if you can find some way to diffuse these arguments and make your mother understand that she's not being replaced and that you want to have a wonderful relationship with her, perhaps you two can be happier.
  
  Again, nice to meet you and good luck, hope you are well at this point in time!
  

• FaceUnknown. said on Mar 01, 2009....

  Heeeeele grote knuffel terug aan Papa! <3
   
  Dear Hegemone,
   
  Thank you very much for your usefull and long coment on my story, it realy makes me happy to see that some people know what i'm talking about and take me serious advice.
   
  It is pianfull to explain what they are about, that's why I didn't explained it in my story. I gave one hind though.
  'I will not lie, there's a bad side, but that belongs to the past. You know? Forgive and Forget? My case.' That's what I said and I will keep it that way for now. maybe I'll say something about it later. In a other blog. but you have to wait for that if you realy want to know ;]
   
  Thank you very much agian!
   
  **Big Hugg!!**
   
  And Greetz Face.
   
   
   

• Hegemone said on Mar 01, 2009....

  Well Face, I'll be waiting and watching then!  ((((((((HUG)))))))

• FaceUnknown. said on Mar 02, 2009....

  Thank you! =]

• husbandhater said on Mar 05, 2009....

  Hey face Welcome

• queenparanoia said on Mar 23, 2009....

  welcome to soulcast... ;-)

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