This blog is dedicated to:


miss greenstuff (L) <3 . . . ik hou van je, snoetje

... I am not losing a home... I am gaining a family... a son (Guitar Hero!!!) and a daughter....(thank you for the tune...30th is a date!!! *smiles misty-eyed* )

Darling, your daughter, daughter of my heart...has a fountain of wisdom in her soul, and well of love in her heart...

Heggie...thank you, I think this is a beginning of a lifelong beautiful friendship...
[smiles widely] *********bucketloads of warm fuzzies*********

for J uit Nederlands ...dank u voor uw vriendelijkheid jegens een vreemdeling

& for Schnucki -Sammy <3333333333 DANKE immer wieder.....**********HDL**********

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There will still be many trips back to Germany but today I say goodbye to Germany - to the bitterness and the guilt.

Come March, I will not dwell anymore on the pain, the hurt. When I look back it will be a memoir of a life I am thankful I had. But March would be a *Me* month, not K´s month. It will be my birthday present to myself, a month where he will not occupy my mind. It will be a start.

I will be leaving you behind lieber K...

ich habe alles gegeben,
und ich gehe daß wir beide ein Chance haben auf ein leben...
ich wünschte, es wäre nicht dazu gekommen...jene häßlichkeiten...
ich hoffe eines tages...wir könnten mit aller unsere herzen vergeben und vergessen.....

i gave my very best,
and i am leaving that we both have a chance to life...
i wished it did not come to ... all those ugliness...
i hope one day, we could ...with all our hearts, forgive and forget....

Right at this very moment, I feel so much anger, disgust and derision from you...and I want to not feel all these negative feelings...and reciprocate with the same emotions...and so I listen to a tune given to me by a lovely young lady....I wish she would one day be spared from such an experience, and will only have a love and her own family full of love, acceptance and support (I wish that for you L...so very much..I love you).....

Aufwiedersehen...K...aufwiedersehen....





I've learned to let go
Come on

Here's a middle finger
Coming straight from oca-l-a
I appreciate your judgement
it's proved that I can't trust a word you say
those must be some pair of binoculars
that you see every move I make
so I'll never be a liar
but you'll always be two-faced

You'll get what's coming to you
You're blinded by your instincts
I'm not your fucking game
I'm not so easily beat

I'm looking down at this mess that you've made
and I can't believe that I stayed
So unhappy for so long
Where did I go wrong?
I've got to get out of this
my hand is on the handle
We're leaving everything behind
Goodbye for a lifetime

I'll rip that scandalous bitch in two
We'll bring the noise

Try to pretend that I never even knew your name
'cause everything you are disgusts me
(Too bad I can't turn back time)
So I wouldn't be here
what I'd give for you to disappear
so tell me girly how's your edge?

You've got nothing better to do
I know why you can't see straight
I thought you were better than this
but you're just like everyone else

I'm looking down at this mess that you've made
and I can't believe that I stayed
So unhappy for so long
Where did I go wrong?
I've got to get out of this
my hand is on the handle
We're leaving everything behind
Goodbye for a lifetime

I'll make my stand
right here with my friends
I'll make my stand
right here with my friends
I'll make my stand
right here with my friends
I'll make my stand
right here with my friends
I'll make my stand
right here with my friends

Get low
Now I know who my friends are
I'm never coming home

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Comments

  • Me-Myself&I said on Feb 28, 2009....
    *smile* i am happy your "me" day is on its way! i too know who my friends are....wishing you happiness! take care
  • PAPERBACKWRITER said on Feb 28, 2009....

    MeMy ~

    Thank you, dearest D

    I appreciate all the support you have given me at very important moments at this crucial stage in my life.

    I will never forget it.

    Words are so limited to express my gratitude.

    (((((((((((((((((((((((warmest embrace))))))))))))))))))))

    Wishing you much happiness too - always!

    paper ~


  • CreativeWoman said on Feb 28, 2009....
    Paper,
    This will be the beginning of a wonderful new chapter in your life.  I'll bet that before long you will start to feel like a brand new woman.  :-)

    CW
  • PAPERBACKWRITER said on Feb 28, 2009....

    CW ~

    Hello, CDub!

    I was just in your comedy club corner! :)

    Thank you so much for all the love, support and genuine friendship you have shown me in and out of SC.  I will never forget the first tentative chats we had in yahoo, and perhaps you might have forgotten about it but you gave me so much support one evening in chat...I never told you but it was one of the many show of love that made me go to the hospital *lump in my throat* last year, when I was almost near nervous breakdown.

    I will never forget it.

    I feel such surge of energy...

    ...the table is set for teatime here in Germany a bit late,......and I look around scenes of t late afternoon in a home I will soon be leaving ....

    ...... K is still napping...

    ....Jill is reading - for the umpteenth time! - Harry Potter - The Goblet of Fire....

    ...Kim is playing in her dream world - lots of conversation going on with  herself, lol ...

    and Mary - I just checked! - snapped my dustpan and duster, which I was using to clean the cabinet I was clearing out.....

    I could have done this 3 weeks ago but all the discussions and unnecessary verbal exchange had suck  the energy I needed, that I could only attend to the very basic responsibilities.

    I must admit, I let myself be pulled down because I let the irrational guilt take over me.  Now, I have let it go...I feel lighter...

    Again, my gratitude, and love to you, dear friend.

    <3

    ((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((huggies)))))))))))))))))))))))))

    paper ~



  • Feline'sSoul said on Feb 28, 2009....
    :))))

    hell's over finally :) \o/

    love you <333333333333
  • PAPERBACKWRITER said on Feb 28, 2009....

    ~SS~

    woot!

    :D

    habe dich dolle lieb!

    ~TT~ ;)



  • CreativeWoman said on Feb 28, 2009....
    paper,
    I do remember. I don't know why we ever stopped chatting in Yahoo.  I think I got consumed with diabetes and my own life struggles.  Thank heaven for the PM feature here.  :-)  Sometimes it is easier for me to be empathetic and kind to others  than to be that way toward myself.  I am always here with a friendly ear if you need one.

    CW
  • FaceUnknown. said on Feb 28, 2009....

    Dear Paper,

    Sounds like you're doing well again. It's great to hear that. Just Push every bad feeling away and right it down. Don't let people tell you you're crazy. I love you **Biggest hugg in the world** See you sunday and keep listning to 'the tune' if it makes you happy =]

    Love youuuuuuu

  • gingersoul said on Feb 28, 2009....

    The space between the numbers.....that space is what we consider as time itself.
    We creates that time of the space as an image into the three dimension world.
    Ikebanas are created as three dimension objects and arranged into the vast space, like being thrown into the flow of time one by one.....


    Watch and breathe, Jo-Jo......

    Let go the past and think only that time is passing by you and you are already passed your bad experiences...
    One , two, three...the hours and the days will pass to bring you were you have chosen your happiness to be.

    I am very happy for you. I wish you only the best, dear one {{hugs}}.


  • Hegemone said on Feb 28, 2009....
    Paper, I'm glad you were able to say some words that needed to be said.  Saying goodbye can be the hardest part, even if things have been rough to begin with.  You are still doing beautifully!  I hope you have a wonderful YOU month and that you really take the time to love yourself, appreciate yourself and your new life, all the new possibilities and the much needed time to just breath.  You are so wonderful and I think this will open SO so many doors for you!  (((((((((((((((((((((HUGS))))))))))))))))))))

    AND

    ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~WARM FUZZIES FOR YOU!~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
  • fragglesrock said on Feb 28, 2009....

    it is a good thing that i can't hug you in person right now...i'd probably squeeze you so hard that i'd break you..lol..you look to be a slip of a thing ;)  thank you for all your friendship, you deserve so much happiness!

  • PAPERBACKWRITER said on Feb 28, 2009....


    Thank you, CDub!  I wish in a small way, some day I can return what you have given me that night... *words fail me* ... You will always remain an inspiration.

    (((((((((((((((((((((((((((warm embrace)))))))))))))))))))))))))))))


    Thank you, Face! I love you too, sweetie! I will always treasure the memory of this afternoon.

    ((((((((((((((((((tightest huggies)))))))))))))))))))))


    Grazie, bellisimma! I tell you, I was hypnotized by the clip first sight... and I played it in  the background while I am clearing here...it´s simply mesmerising...I love it!!!

    I think I have a new addiction.  Thank you for bringing it to my attention.

    Ti amo mia cara....

    (((((((((((((((((((((((((((((warmest embrace))))))))))))))))))))))

    Thank you Heggie!  You helped tremendously dear friend. *chokes up*

    [squeezes your hand tightly]

    I feel so blessed to meet you.  I hope I can be as good as a friend, as you are to me.

    ((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((huggies))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))

    blubbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbies!



    <33333333333333333333333333333333

    paper ~





  • PAPERBACKWRITER said on Feb 28, 2009....
    Fragggggggggggggggggggggy!

    [runs, topples you and rains kisses on your lovely face]

    *giggle*

    Hegs and I squeezed you with our *warm fuzzies* & blubbbies! LOLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLL

    muaaaaaaaaahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh

    :D

    paper ~

    p.s.

    just the laugh i needed from all the choking up!!! LOL

    i love you!

    hahahaha
  • the_infernal_optimist said on Feb 28, 2009....
    Good for you, Paper! :) I am happy for your bright future...you deserve to feel light and free, loved and at home and content. :)

    ((happy hugs))

    ~Infernal
  • PAPERBACKWRITER said on Feb 28, 2009....


    Thank you so very much, dearest infernally!

    [beams at the sight of the wonderful mommy of 3]

    So happy to see you around the neighbourhood <3!!!

    ((((warmest happiest huggies)))))))))

    papery ~

    p.s.

    so excitedly awaiting a new blog/update from you!


  • Lucytorial said on Feb 28, 2009....
    WoOT! ~ tee heh ee Jo, honestly all the hard work is paying off, all the tears, the anger, you have grown so much with this whole episode in your life.  You have found love in yourself, another and your life which is most important, your gift? to LIVE IT! YAYAYAYAYAYAY
     
  • cuppajava said on Feb 28, 2009....
    ME time is very important and shouldnt be taken lightly at all -  i think you are making the right choice and decision and are getting your dose of ME time soon - you deserve it.Take care and have a safe trip
  • lionesss said on Feb 28, 2009....
    dearest friend paper, im very plzd that you have moved on to a new chapter in your new life may it be filled ith love laughter and warmth from loved ones,
    take good care xxx
  • PAPERBACKWRITER said on Feb 28, 2009....

    Thank you TL, thank you CJ!!!

    ((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((TLpaperCJ))))))))))))))))))))))))))

    blubbies <3

    joanna


  • PAPERBACKWRITER said on Feb 28, 2009....

    Thank you, dearest lionesss!

    How are you my friend?!?

    My apologies for not keeping abreast with you... :(

    ((((((((((((((warmest embrace))))))))))))))

    I will just put little one down, and check your last blog...I have been very distracted because of all bureaucratic stuff and my depression. And tonight, I started on the moving boxes that my future ex-husband will be sending one after another...throughout the year.. *breathes in and out to not be overwhelmed*

    I have missed you.

    <3

    paper ~






  • PAPERBACKWRITER said on Feb 28, 2009....



    Dear Friends,

    I beg your indulgence... I would like to preserve a memory...

    We ate our last lunch together today.  It was so peaceful.

    I hear you ask...

    ..which boxes should I send first...
    ...if you need anything right away, just call me....
    ..I will try to make sure you have all the things sent you will be needing...

    I cannot recall every details now...I only have 6 minutes left until March arrives, and I promised my mind rest from thinking about you...for it has been what I have been doing since we met 16 years ago...17th of November......

    I want to remember this day with love and not pain...

    ...I wish you happiness K, for I know deep in your heart you wish the same for me.

    ...I am letting go of all that has been...and I am only looking forward to the day we could meet each other in the eye without anger, pain and regret...but only love...we have shared so many years together, and created three lives...

    Be blessed, be well.

    Alles liebe,

    ate <3






  • GrapeKoolaid said on Feb 28, 2009....

    :)

    Helloooooooooo Holland!!! 

  • Never_Mind_The_Quality said on Feb 28, 2009....

    ;_)))))))))

    On the day of your arrival, TODAY ;_))))  1 March 2009. I lean over our bed.
    Just made coffee.
    The sun is up and the landscape shows it was a frosty night, promising a
    sunny and warm springlike day.
    I have to clear hear but I am sitting on my knees, my laptop on the bed, coffee
    next to it and the morning sky, blue but for a few clouds is reflecting the sunlight
    into into the room.
    Five trail betray some morning airplane traffic.
    The bird in the trees suspect spring.

    I explain my tears and snotty nose as a cold, but I was just overwhelmed by what
    you wrote.
    I am soooo happy!!! YOU make me sooo happy.

    I cannot wait to see you get off the train. Mary and her sisters surrounding me and
    filling our ears with their chatter.

    March Will Be Your Month, yes!!!!!
    And I will make sure every day will be Your day!

    I hope K can be for real like he presented himself on the days I  met him.
    Given time I hope we can visit him in Hamburg.

    For now, I will ;_))))) take in and cherish this moment, pick up my coffee and look out
    the window. Ty yellow ribbons on the door and wait for the train to bring you to me.

    ;_))))))))))))))))))))))))) I LOVE YOU  ;-))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))

    Pieter

  • MissMimi said on Feb 28, 2009....
    paperdoll, I am soooo happy for you.  It's so late, so my brain isn't firing on all cylinders, and I can't think of anything profound.  Just that you deserve to find peace in your life, free from irrational guilt and anxiety about the future.  K will be fine.  You have given him enough years.  Many many happy years with Piet!
     
    {{{{{{{{{{many big hugs}}}}}}}}}}}
  • queenparanoia said on Mar 01, 2009....
    :-)

    new life... new beginning... ;-)

    ang saya ko para sayu ate papel... ;-)

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